[Pabo_ya]

does anyone else only get interest from a certain type of person? after being asked for my number by a good for his friend(yeeaaah waaaay to impress me - it worked even better than your pink flowered shirt) i was lookng back on all the guys that have expressed some sort of interest and me...and deng...they could all generally be the same person..ok...well two people...the other person being really really old men...but i try not to think about those guys so lets say theyre all like one person...

its kinda disappointing because i cant help but wonder if that's all im good for...and it really sucks cuz im not attracted to those type of guys....

and another thing....how come i never get any attention when i look good? why do they all come to me and i look my worst? i had a huuuuuge ugly zit on my face that other day and i was wearing my guy's clothes...when did that become attractive? and whenever i actually take the time to look nice nothing happens...T.T

this should be "the unofficial lack of love and relationships post" for me -______________-"

IMHO you should try to act natural and just be natural cuz you never know when they come and you will never be prepared...

and in my case i never try to look good.. and just be myself(but im a boy not a girl so we're live in two diferent world)

[Tuffcore]

and another thing....how come i never get any attention when i look good? why do they all come to me and i look my worst? i had a huuuuuge ugly zit on my face that other day and i was wearing my guy's clothes...when did that become attractive? and whenever i actually take the time to look nice nothing happens...T.T

this should be "the unofficial lack of love and relationships post" for me -______________-"

As the old saying goes, "chance favors those who are prepared."

[pikapika]

As the old saying goes, "chance favors those who are prepared."

doesnt that mean when i do look good i should be luckier


and to explain myself i dont think ive ever gotten dressed so i can get hit on or anything...when i say i look good i mean i dont look bad...i should have reworded the sentences and say "why do i always git hit on when i look ugly?"

[hannacorsino]

doesnt that mean when i do look good i should be luckier


and to explain myself i dont think ive ever gotten dressed so i can get hit on or anything...when i say i look good i mean i dont look bad...i should have reworded the sentences and say "why do i always git hit on when i look ugly?"

then maybe you have talent, maybe you are funny, sports athlete or intelligent...

[Tuffcore]

doesnt that mean when i do look good i should be luckier


and to explain myself i dont think ive ever gotten dressed so i can get hit on or anything...when i say i look good i mean i dont look bad...i should have reworded the sentences and say "why do i always git hit on when i look ugly?"

What i mean is, always be prepared. Don't leave a chance for yourself to be caught in that situation again where you're feeling ugly and surrounded by guys. Sometimes, you create your own luck so be ready.

[hailing from ny]

So, as the topic and description say, have ya'll heard of the rule of the appropriate age range of dating according to the formula "half your age plus seven?" For me, that'd be 22/2 = 11 + 7 = 18

Haha, if this belongs in the relationships section, please do move.

-E

EDIT

I guess I'll add another question. Would you follow this formula?

[edward1849]

<--- If I am half my age plus seven, that means I have the perfect age to date her.

[Raito!]

hmm half my age ~= 11 then + 7 = 18

sweet!!!!!

[Deadalready]

Time to get myself an eighteen point five year old girlfriend, the point five will be difficult.

~

Yeah I've heard of the rule I think it's interesting and I should point out in my case the girl would be 5 years younger than me and just out of highschool. Considering I've been out of highschool longer than I've been in, it still seems kind of young.

[PopoCh3n]

21 � 2 + 7 = 17.5 ohh thats illegal lol

[jen1234]

i feel like this is a complete tangent from the kinds of issues that everyone else is posting on here, but since this is a 20+ only forum, i'm going to safely assume that everyone who would read this or respond to it will be mature about it and take it seriously. it might seem like a dumb and juvenile question, but ... i'm curious. ;P so here goes...

i'm 19 (going on 20 this year) and i've been in a relationship with a guy who's considerably older than me for the past eight months. we've already done it...(yeah, sex. that thing.) and he's the first guy i've ever been with at that level of intimacy. thing is, i used to see him every weekend during the school year since i'm off in college and not at home, but now that i'm at home, i only get to see him once in a while since he lives quite some distance from me.

thing is, we're living like long-distance relationship couples would, and obviously, i know he's going to be a little deprived of his...physical needs. so i went and visited him today...and first thing he tries to do after we've sat down and talked for a little while is SEX. i was a little peeved at first...b/c i didn't want to feel like i only went there to fulfill his sexual needs, but i gave in. ...after though, we just acted like we normally would...very affectionate towards each other and all that couple stuff..

now here's my question. am i just being paranoid or do all guys who are sexually active want to have sex immediately when they haven't seen their girlfriends in a long time ? WHYYYYYYYYYY???? why can't i just have telepathy...=___=

[kimchi_girl]

I've heard of this too. The older you are, the wider the age gap. I'm in my mid thirties and according to this rule, I could date a guy 10+ years my junior! I know a 24 year old who used this on me as a "valid" argument that I was not too old for him!

[erure]

It seems like that formula suits guys more than girls, since girls tend to date guys older or around their age (or am I being really old fashioned? +_+)

[badboy yardy]

haha i heard of this formula waay back in the 90's.

[HERMIT]

I hate this formula.

The last thing I need is some 66 year old widow getting bright ideas and hitting on me.

[badboy yardy]

^ well, at least he listens to what you have to say after you two get it over with, right? lol

[Yubumsuk]

Would that be in Korean or western years.

Interestingly the girl I'm seeing just so happens to be half my age plus seven.

[juchee]

thing is, we're living like long-distance relationship couples would, and obviously, i know he's going to be a little deprived of his...physical needs. so i went and visited him today...and first thing he tries to do after we've sat down and talked for a little while is SEX. i was a little peeved at first...b/c i didn't want to feel like i only went there to fulfill his sexual needs, but i gave in. ...after though, we just acted like we normally would...very affectionate towards each other and all that couple stuff..

now here's my question. am i just being paranoid or do all guys who are sexually active want to have sex immediately when they haven't seen their girlfriends in a long time ? WHYYYYYYYYYY???? why can't i just have telepathy...=___=

I'm not a guy and I'm not sure how qualified I am to answer this question. But in my opinion I think you have nothing to worry about. To me, that sounds as if this guy has - in all the time he hasn't seen you - been thinking about you, and you only (so you know he's loyal ). And it's driven him crazy not been able to be with you, love you, touch you... so naturally when you're finally in front of him, he's gonna want to get everything out of his system so to speak. Plus the fact that you talked, and cuddled and did all the normal stuff afterwards shows that he cares about being with you and not just your body. If it continues to plague your mind, perhaps talk to him about it. You shouldn't feel as if you have to 'give in'. But you got to understand, guys to my knowledge are carnal creatures, they need sex for more than just to fill an emotional need, it's sort of a question of maintenance as well. HTH.

[juchee]

How funny! It's so completely arbitrary that it's plus 7 and not 8 or 6 or whatever. But what about the upper limit? Would it be double your age, minus 7

I'm 22 too, but I've never thought of being with anyone younger that 20!

[papabear]

i feel like this is a complete tangent from the kinds of issues that everyone else is posting on here, but since this is a 20+ only forum, i'm going to safely assume that everyone who would read this or respond to it will be mature about it and take it seriously. it might seem like a dumb and juvenile question, but ... i'm curious. ;P so here goes...

i'm 19 (going on 20 this year) and i've been in a relationship with a guy who's considerably older than me for the past eight months. we've already done it...(yeah, sex. that thing.) and he's the first guy i've ever been with at that level of intimacy. thing is, i used to see him every weekend during the school year since i'm off in college and not at home, but now that i'm at home, i only get to see him once in a while since he lives quite some distance from me.

thing is, we're living like long-distance relationship couples would, and obviously, i know he's going to be a little deprived of his...physical needs. so i went and visited him today...and first thing he tries to do after we've sat down and talked for a little while is SEX. i was a little peeved at first...b/c i didn't want to feel like i only went there to fulfill his sexual needs, but i gave in. ...after though, we just acted like we normally would...very affectionate towards each other and all that couple stuff..

now here's my question. am i just being paranoid or do all guys who are sexually active want to have sex immediately when they haven't seen their girlfriends in a long time ? WHYYYYYYYYYY???? why can't i just have telepathy...=___=

This is a disaster waiting to happen. If all a guy needs to do is "couple stuff" in order to get commitment-free sex, hell, it's just some words and gestures, so why not do them.

There's no way to get over your paranoia at this point, because unless you're willing to put some boundaries back up, it is very difficult to judge how serious he is about all of this. Especially if he is that much older--there's a reason why people are suspicious of guys like that, going after young women who have no experience or judgment.