[tlydia]

Hello!
My sister she´s almost 30, not married. I´ve never seen her alone.
She´s dating a guy for 3 months and wants to break up
Seriously, she´s too desperate. And I´m geting tired of that, all her relationships bothers me.
Why? In 3 in 3 months she´s introducing a new bf.
Is there anything that I can do?
I sometimes ignored her when she talks
Or I pretend that I don´t hear

I'm sorry, but I don't see anything wrong with not being married at the age of 30. Relationships come and go. Noone comes into a relationship actually knowing or having any idea how long it will last. We come into a relationship not only with expectations but uncertainties. What your sister is doing is called dating. You date around until you find someone you want to get serious with. It might last a day. It might last a year. It depends on the couple. I don't understand why you think she's desperate. She seems normal to me. And it shouldn't bother you. After all, it's her relationship, not yours.

My advice, be a good sister and listen to whatever she has to say. Offer advices and opinions if you want to. Don't judge her, don't try to tell her what to do, and don't get angry or frustrated with her. Trust me, when your sister finds someone who interests her, she'll settle down. Until then, she'll keep looking until she finds Mr. Right. Patience and understanding is the key. Sisters share a special bond and should be there to support each other through thick and thin. (Hope that's not too much rambling)

hauhauah
It won´t work, I think she have mental problems
She wants to have kid and she doesn´t care if this happen b4 she marry. And more, after that she says she´s Christian!
That makes me mad!

You sound like my eldest sister. I'm going to have a child and I'm not married. I don't see anything wrong with it. I understand everyone has different opinions when it comes to this, so I'll leave it at that.

[melkimx]

\Is there anything that I can do?
I sometimes ignored her when she talks
Or I pretend that I don´t hear

well, you could try to figure out why you're getting so worked up over something that's really a non-issue, and you could also try not to ignore your sister when she speaks

[donporkuloin]

Can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong?

I ended up talking to this girl on myspace, but she's a friend of my friend. Within 3 weeks or so we chatted and I asked her about hanging out. She said yes. We decided when and where to hangout, etc. Things looked like they were going good. Then a few days before we were supposed to hangout she cancels on me. She said we're going too fast and she doesn't feel comfortable, and she doesn't know me that well yet.

So I keep thinking.. what did I do wrong, and how do I get her to be comfortable talking to me?

[Bellatrix]

Everyone is different. How is your sister desperate? It’s more important to find the right person to spend the rest of your life with than to get married because you've reached that age. Some people don't want to settle down yet or haven't found the right person to settle down with.

^
go to youtube and search for "8 minute abs"

It really focuses in on each each of the abdominals. I highly recommend it

I second that. I really felt the burn the first few workouts and saw results after like 2 weeks. The other 8 min workouts are pretty good too, like the legs one.

if two people wanna make the relationship work, that's a common interest

That's true. But many couples often want to find many similarities, thinking that this would make the relationship work better. To an extent, I think it is true but I don't think 2 people would have to be that similar to be together, as long as they care enough about each other to make the relationship work.

[LaZClaraBear]

Can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong?

I ended up talking to this girl on myspace, but she's a friend of my friend. Within 3 weeks or so we chatted and I asked her about hanging out. She said yes. We decided when and where to hangout, etc. Things looked like they were going good. Then a few days before we were supposed to hangout she cancels on me. She said we're going too fast and she doesn't feel comfortable, and she doesn't know me that well yet.

So I keep thinking.. what did I do wrong, and how do I get her to be comfortable talking to me?

is she a shy person?
cause I do that sometimes too.. I feel like I'm ready to hang out with someone but when the day comes.. I feel nervous and uncomfortable so I end up canceling it ><;;

[masturyan]

It depends.
For me, my streak of stubbornness as a child ended when my mom punched me in the stomach.
When I yelled out in pain, she was able to take that window of opportunity to shove the Flintstones vitamins down my open mouth.

FLINTSTONES VITAMINS! Man, you just made my day. So many memories.

Can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong?

I ended up talking to this girl on myspace, but she's a friend of my friend. Within 3 weeks or so we chatted and I asked her about hanging out. She said yes. We decided when and where to hangout, etc. Things looked like they were going good. Then a few days before we were supposed to hangout she cancels on me. She said we're going too fast and she doesn't feel comfortable, and she doesn't know me that well yet.

So I keep thinking.. what did I do wrong, and how do I get her to be comfortable talking to me?

So do you guys just write messages or do you talk on the phone?

[Prot]

Can someone tell me what I'm doing wrong?

I ended up talking to this girl on myspace, but she's a friend of my friend. Within 3 weeks or so we chatted and I asked her about hanging out. She said yes. We decided when and where to hangout, etc. Things looked like they were going good. Then a few days before we were supposed to hangout she cancels on me. She said we're going too fast and she doesn't feel comfortable, and she doesn't know me that well yet.

So I keep thinking.. what did I do wrong, and how do I get her to be comfortable talking to me?

Get your common friend to hang out with you guys.

[GO!zilla]

editttttttttttttttttted out.

[donporkuloin]

is she a shy person?
cause I do that sometimes too.. I feel like I'm ready to hang out with someone but when the day comes.. I feel nervous and uncomfortable so I end up canceling it ><;;

I think she is. How do I work on getting her more comfortable.

Prot: Our common friend is way too wild for us to hang out all together. Seriously.. She's cool and all, but she's sort of nuts.

masturyan: We just send msgs. I did ask her for her number. She said she had some issues with her cell phone so she doesn't use it anymore. I was skeptical at first, but I think she's telling the truth.

[k.stella86]

I was talking to a guy I met online for a good month. Then we decided to meet for the first time in person. We met at a dive bar, and then he invited me over to his place to make me some drinks since he bartends. I thought he was trying to have me sleep with him but we simply talked and drank for a good 3 hours. Then I hugged him bye and left.

He texted me the next morning to say thanks for agreeing to meet and that he had a good time. I didn't reply till a good 12 hours later because my phone was not working and I texted back, "I just got your text. I had a good time too thx."

It's been over a week, and he still hasn't called or texted. Some friends say maybe he just wasn't into me but then why would he invite me over to his place when he had work the next morning if this were the case? Other friends say that maybe he figured I wasn't interested because I didn't text him back right away and my text seemed a little cold and abrupt.

What do you guys think?

[vividified]

^ how about try calling him? its still hard to say at this stage imo


hey guys could you share your experiences if you were in long distance relationship, like ow you communicate and how it went?

[papabear]

It's been over a week, and he still hasn't called or texted. Some friends say maybe he just wasn't into me but then why would he invite me over to his place when he had work the next morning if this were the case? Other friends say that maybe he figured I wasn't interested because I didn't text him back right away and my text seemed a little cold and abrupt.

So he's not a rapist. Doesn't mean he wasn't hoping to get more out of it. Don't think about him too much.

[re.toon]

My advice, be a good sister and listen to whatever she has to say. Offer advices and opinions if you want to. Don't judge her, don't try to tell her what to do, and don't get angry or frustrated with her. Trust me, when your sister finds someone who interests her, she'll settle down. Until then, she'll keep looking until she finds Mr. Right. Patience and understanding is the key. Sisters share a special bond and should be there to support each other through thick and thin. (Hope that's not too much rambling)

That´s not that easy..
What I don´t like about her, is the fact that she says she´s Christian. I can´t ignored this
Is like a vegetarian that eat beef.

[tlydia]

That´s not that easy..
What I don´t like about her, is the fact that she says she´s Christian. I can´t ignored this
Is like a vegetarian that eat beef.

Of course it's not easy. But that doesn't mean you can't try. Sometimes we have to put our differences aside to make things work. If we do that, then in the end, bonds and relationships can only get stronger and better

[watcher]

I was talking to a guy I met online for a good month. Then we decided to meet for the first time in person. We met at a dive bar, and then he invited me over to his place to make me some drinks since he bartends. I thought he was trying to have me sleep with him but we simply talked and drank for a good 3 hours. Then I hugged him bye and left.

He texted me the next morning to say thanks for agreeing to meet and that he had a good time. I didn't reply till a good 12 hours later because my phone was not working and I texted back, "I just got your text. I had a good time too thx."

It's been over a week, and he still hasn't called or texted. Some friends say maybe he just wasn't into me but then why would he invite me over to his place when he had work the next morning if this were the case? Other friends say that maybe he figured I wasn't interested because I didn't text him back right away and my text seemed a little cold and abrupt.

What do you guys think?

could be anything really. he might have lost interest when you two last met up. he might be really busy. he might be playin the game, etc. if you're interested, just send a txt askin if he wants to hang out again. keep the message simple. dont write anymore more than the question itself.

donporkuloin: what's wrong about a girl wanting to slow down? just play it by ear.

[quepapas]

hey guys could you share your experiences if you were in long distance relationship, like ow you communicate and how it went?

Not much to share (because we broke up 5 months later since I moved to the States, aww) but mainly things we did were going online as much as we could so that we could share our stories when being apart. I did buy a webcam so that my ex could see my face when chatting (now I never touch it, what a waste, lol). I also did write letters to him, which I've never done that before.
The tough part was the time difference. It's like when you were sad or happy, you couldn't share with your bf/gf right away like you used to. And when time passes, you would likely get used to it and feel less and less need to share things with each other. Then the break-up part begins to appear...

[watcher]

^ how about try calling him? its still hard to say at this stage imo


hey guys could you share your experiences if you were in long distance relationship, like ow you communicate and how it went?

lots of MSN and calling cards. i fly out twice a year. she flies in once.

[tlydia]

hey guys could you share your experiences if you were in long distance relationship, like ow you communicate and how it went?

I wouldn't say mine was a long distance relationship per se. My boyfriend had to leave for the summer to Seattle for training and research. He was gone for almost the whole summer. It was hard on the both of us. I don't have aim/msn so we communicated through texts, emails, and phone calls. I think what helped me was that he purchased tickets for me to visit during the weekends to be with him. Alot of traveling on my part, but it was worth it just to see the smile on his face. I think all in all, we were able to make it through.


Now here is my question. Has anyone ever had to choose between two people who were in love with you? Let's say, there's 2 great people who loves you and wants to be with you. At the moment you're confused. For instance, how do you choose between someone you pratically knew your whole life, who have seen you at your weakness and someone who loves you unconditionally and promises to be there you. How were you able to choose? And what was the determining factor. Or did you end up not choosing and left both because you didn't want to hurt either one of them?

[watcher]

Now here is my question. Has anyone ever had to choose between two people who were in love with you? Let's say, there's 2 great people who loves you and wants to be with you. At the moment you're confused. For instance, how do you choose between someone you pratically knew your whole life, who have seen you at your weakness and someone who loves you unconditionally and promises to be there you. How were you able to choose? And what was the determining factor. Or did you end up not choosing and left both because you didn't want to hurt either one of them?

2 requirements:
- you can confidently promise to love that guy for the rest of your life
- you can confidently trust the guy to do the same, to love you for the entirety of his life

ur situation is a bit different tho =T

[Prot]

Now here is my question. Has anyone ever had to choose between two people who were in love with you? Let's say, there's 2 great people who loves you and wants to be with you. At the moment you're confused. For instance, how do you choose between someone you pratically knew your whole life, who have seen you at your weakness and someone who loves you unconditionally and promises to be there you. How were you able to choose? And what was the determining factor. Or did you end up not choosing and left both because you didn't want to hurt either one of them?

That has happened before and I chose neither after answering this question: Who are you more compatible with, can spend an entire day on talking alone?

Also, if that doesn't work, do this:

Flip a coin. Heads for person A tails for person B. After you get the result, if you find yourself wishing it was the other, choose the other choice and do not change decisions after that.