[angelicXD]

^lol do your man want that?

okay, I lied watcher, I tend to think whipped man let the woman walk all over them. they're like a tamed beast.

[watcher]

^lol do your man want that?

okay, I lied watcher, I tend to think whipped man let the woman walk all over them. they're like a tamed beast.

whippable men are not tamed beasts... they're domesticated pets

[7thprincess]

^^HAHAHAHAH. LMAO! werd...

[angelicXD]

whippable men are not tamed beasts... they're domesticated pets

there is a difference? ai yaya hahahaha

[watcher]

there is a difference? ai yaya hahahaha

yea... one you find in the wild and the other one you raise. if you want the ultimate whipped man, you raise him from the start. grab a youngin.

[HERMIT]

guys, would you spoil your gf? or let her wear the pant? hahaha

Neither, I guess.
I'm too poor to spoil a girl and I sure wouldn't let her wear the pants in the relationship.
Especially if they were mine.
But come to think of it, I don't think I'd want to get involved with a girl that can actually fit in a size 46 waist.

[angelicXD]

But come to think of it, I don't think I'd want to get involved with a girl that can actually fit in a size 46 waist.

^that's hilarious.

[donporkuloin]

guys, would you spoil your gf? or let her wear the pant? hahaha

lol anyway why I'm asking? because I know a girl who would like that in a relationship.

I'd spoil her, but I wouldn't overdo it. I wouldn't let her wear the pants completely. Maybe we could share them. Lol.

[watcher]

i'd let her wear my boxers tho... that's kinda sexy

[derrek]

I used to ask my ex to wear my basketball jerseys because I thought they looked so cute on her.

[tlydia]

Neither, I guess.
I'm too poor to spoil a girl and I sure wouldn't let her wear the pants in the relationship.
Especially if they were mine.
But come to think of it, I don't think I'd want to get involved with a girl that can actually fit in a size 46 waist. :mellow:

Sadly, I'm not a size 46 waist but a size 48 waist in men's. It's not my fault that I have a big appetite. I guess I really blew my chances of getting a "Hermit." I guess I have to settle for a hermit crab instead. Maybe I need to cut down my daily consumptions of 6 mcribs a day. I need lovin' too you know.

^that's hilarious.

I don't think he was trying to be funny.

[fantasian]

I met the guy when I was 12. He lives in Vietnam, traditional family, semi wealthy - just never wealthy enough to get a visa to the states. I called him my adopted brother because we were so close when I was over there (think 12 years old, didn't know any better)...

i gotta say, that was a really good read. Even though it was somewhat long you managed to hold my interest for a while there. I'm glad that you didnt end up committing to that relationship, and that your mom came to the right realization.

i wouldnt even be worried at 26, its still a young age. Not sure why you've been single for so long, hopefully its not because you treat relationships like "business" as you mentioned. You seem independent which is a good thing.

[HERMIT]

Sadly, I'm not a size 46 waist but a size 48 waist in men's.

Um. Wow.

[tlydia]

Um. Wow.

I don't want to know how you would react if I revealed I actually wear a size 50 waist in pants.




I wanted to throw in a quick question that has been pondering my mind the whole day?

In a relationship, is it better love or be loved? I always believed you needed both and that both are important factors in making a relationship work. You can't have one without the other. But when I asked my colleagues today, everyone had different answers to that question. All the answer were legitimate. I'm just curious what eveyones answer will be.

[Prot]

I wanted to throw in a quick question that has been pondering my mind the whole day?

In a relationship, is it better love or be loved? I always believed you needed both and that both are important factors in making a relationship work. You can't have one without the other. But when I asked my colleagues today, everyone had different answers to that question. All the answer were legitimate. I'm just curious what eveyones answer will be.

I don't think a healthy relationship can have too long of an imbalance of being loved or to love. Essentially, balance is vital to the relationship otherwise one party will just get fed up consciously or unconsciously. Each person has their own limit of this.

[watcher]

I wanted to throw in a quick question that has been pondering my mind the whole day?

In a relationship, is it better love or be loved? I always believed you needed both and that both are important factors in making a relationship work. You can't have one without the other. But when I asked my colleagues today, everyone had different answers to that question. All the answer were legitimate. I'm just curious what eveyones answer will be.

depends on expectations/roles. if they are met, does it really matter?

[HERMIT]

In a relationship, is it better love or be loved? I always believed you needed both and that both are important factors in making a relationship work. You can't have one without the other. But when I asked my colleagues today, everyone had different answers to that question. All the answer were legitimate. I'm just curious what eveyones answer will be.

It's better to be loved. Because you have better leverage in being able to charge for it.

[coreancc]

...
In a relationship, is it better love or be loved? I always believed you needed both and that both are important factors in making a relationship work. You can't have one without the other. But when I asked my colleagues today, everyone had different answers to that question. All the answer were legitimate. I'm just curious what eveyones answer will be.

Obviously, it's nice if you love and are loved. However, you only have control over your own love... to say that it is better to be loved makes you dependent on someone else's love, which is something you have little control over. If the relationship becomes imbalanced, where you are receiving all the love, then there is a good chance that love will dry up. No matter how hard it is or how much you worry about it, there is little you can do - it is in someone else's hands. However, by focusing on the one thing you do have control over, your own love, then not only does that put you in a place where you can make a difference (you can always choose to give love no matter what), but it also puts you in the place to better discover real happiness... because I am convinced there is far more happiness to be found in giving love rather than receiving love. There is something about the act of giving that illuminates the soul. I know of at least one author that would agree with me. To quote George MacDonald (again):

Better to sit at the waters' birth,
Than a sea of waves to win;
To live in the love that floweth forth,
Than the love that cometh in.

Be thy heart a well of love, my child,
Flowing, and free, and sure;
For a cistern of love, though undefiled,
Keeps not the spirit pure.

[mikomi]

I wanted to throw in a quick question that has been pondering my mind the whole day?

In a relationship, is it better love or be loved? I always believed you needed both and that both are important factors in making a relationship work. You can't have one without the other. But when I asked my colleagues today, everyone had different answers to that question. All the answer were legitimate. I'm just curious what eveyones answer will be.

To love, because it makes you stronger, makes you smarter, makes you appreciate yourself and others, and it shows that you are human.

[JDM6]

guys, would you spoil your gf? or let her wear the pant? hahaha

lol anyway why I'm asking? because I know a girl who would like that in a relationship.

I wouldn't say spoil her, but reward her. A woman looking for a real relationship knows about equality and would want to make her guy a stronger, better person and not tie him down as a control freak.

I think only a whipped guy would let the woman wear the pant. seriously, I don't think any normal guy would want a gf that's controlling the relationship.

whipped guy = weak wussy girly man. Why would any girl want to be with that type of guy?

As the saying goes, behind every great man is a great woman. As a normal guy, I would not want a girl who wants to just control the relationship. I'd want her to contribute to the relationship that would improve my life. By allowing her to do things to me that would make me a better person. As I grow stronger as a person, she grows with me. I want her to bring out the best in me, not telling what's best for me.

I wanted to throw in a quick question that has been pondering my mind the whole day?

In a relationship, is it better love or be loved? I always believed you needed both and that both are important factors in making a relationship work. You can't have one without the other. But when I asked my colleagues today, everyone had different answers to that question. All the answer were legitimate. I'm just curious what eveyones answer will be.

It wouldn't be a relationship if one person loves the other without being loved back. It's only one sided. It takes two to tango, right? But I agree with coreancc, it's better to give love than to expect it.