[questions987]

How about we start with just finding 20 sane and single women

I'd like to think that I'm somewhat sane. Cold and calculating - YES. But I'd like to thinkt hat I'm sane!

[HSuke]

Did your city make the top 20?
1. San Jose, California

Dammit, again?

I should move.

[mz simmonz]

NYC..single, yes..straight..well we have a sufficient gay scene but yes straight..smart, enough so haha. but emotinally available? I hesitate at that one. maybe that's why we only made it to #17 and not the single digit ranks haha.


oh question. I have the same problem a angelxglo. I'm a friendly person but when it comes to my crushes I totally freeze/clam up get all self concious, etc. It's so easy for me to open up to people but really difficult for me to let my true self "shine through" with guys I'm interested in. I think part of it is that I'm afraid of rejection or making the guy feel weird. I can be flirty to a bunch of cute guys at a bar with my girlfriends because it's all in good fun but if it's with my crush, I can't. I'm too scared and can't get into that "it's all in good fun" mind frame becasue I don't want him to think I'm all over him or be weirded out if he's not interested. But I want to know 2 things:

1) If a girl you weren't interested in flirted with you, would you feel uncomfortable being around her again or just take into stride? because for me, I get bummed out when guys I'm not interested in flirt with me haha, but that's just me?

2) If a girl you were mildy interested in (ie: you think she's kinda cute but you arent actively purusing her) flirted with you, would that peak your interest in her further or would you just go with the flow and see what she does next?

[mz simmonz]

NYC..single, yes..straight..well we have a sufficient gay scene but yes straight..smart, enough so haha. but emotinally available? I hesitate at that one. maybe that's why we only made it to #17 and not the single digit ranks haha.


oh question. I have the same problem as angelxglo. I'm a friendly person but when it comes to my crushes I totally freeze/clam up get all self concious, etc. It's so easy for me to open up to people but really difficult for me to let my true self "shine through" with guys I'm interested in. I think part of it is that I'm afraid of rejection or making the guy feel weird. I can be flirty to a bunch of cute guys at a bar with my girlfriends because it's all in good fun but if it's with my crush, I can't. I'm too scared and can't get into that "it's all in good fun" mind frame becasue I don't want him to think I'm all over him or be weirded out if he's not interested. But I want to know 2 things:

1) If a girl you weren't interested in flirted with you, would you feel uncomfortable being around her again or just take into stride? because for me, I get bummed out when guys I'm not interested in flirt with me haha, but that's just me?

2) If a girl you were mildy interested in (ie: you think she's kinda cute but you arent actively purusing her) flirted with you, would that peak your interest in her further or would you just go with the flow and see what she does next?

[Stiizy]

1) If a girl you weren't interested in flirted with you, would you feel uncomfortable being around her again or just take into stride? because for me, I get bummed out when guys I'm not interested in flirt with me haha, but that's just me?

It depends on where the flirting is going on can't do none of that at work.. Don't get bummed out when dudes you don't like flirt with you, just take it as a compliment and say, I'm glad i get noticed in that way..

2) If a girl you were mildy interested in (ie: you think she's kinda cute but you arent actively purusing her) flirted with you, would that peak your interest in her further or would you just go with the flow and see what she does next?

Personally when a girl flirts with me i just take it and move along, but if she interests me that much i will pursue her and see how far we can take it...

Just be easy around your crush dont think in your head OMG OMG!! just be natural and it should work out fine for you.. Promise

[motheritried]

I'm beginning to realize that I'm not a person many people like. I'm a pinkberry and I treat people poorly. It's a great way to start the new year, realizing you're hated by your friends.

[&rea]

Hey guys, happy new year first of all.
Unfortunately I'm here to ask some advice because I'm not sure if I overreacted or how I should react to something that happened yesterday on NYE.

First, this may be helpful:
Before my boyfriend and I started dating, he told me he was buzzed at his friend's party and he was hitting on his sister. Just keep that in mind I guess.

Anyway, so yesterday, my boyfriend was hosting a NYE party and we were all enjoying our time together and had a few drinks. My boyfriend is a horrible drinker and will get buzzed off of one beer, and before we started drinking, he jokingly said to his friend, "Hey watch out, I might hit on your sister again!" (I was sitting right next to him.) A couple of hours and a few drinks later, we were all talking and playing games and then out of the blue, my boyfriend said "Hey, I want to take a picture with you (his friend's sister)!". They asked me to take the picture, and I was about to take it, and I noticed that he patted his lap so that she would sit on his lap to take the picture. She's a sweet girl, so she just sat beside him.

That pretty much had me a little irked and I just stayed a bit quiet the whole night really. Midnight was approaching, so we all gathered and turned on the tv to the Times Square countdown. We all counted down, and my boyfriend and I kissed at midnight. As we were giving rounds of hugs, I heard that he gave his friend's sister a kiss (probably on the cheek -- actually, hopefully). That was really the last straw for me. I gave him the cold shoulder the rest of the night.

Right now my boyfriend doesn't know why I gave him the cold shoulder, and I don't know if I want to confront him about it.
Is this something that is worth confronting? Did I overreact? If I do confront him, what do I say to make it sound like I'm not accusing him of cheating on me? (Which I am not.) Should I just ask him if he has feelings for her?

Sorry for the barrage of questions and long post, I'm just a little hurt.

[derrek]

Do you think he might have done it to tease the guy? If he was just doing it to get his friend going, then obviously there's no feelings. I really doubt there is anyway, but it couldn't hurt to bring it up to him. Just do it with a level head, to come on attacky or he'll get defensive and answer incorrectly.

[&rea]

Do you think he might have done it to tease the guy? If he was just doing it to get his friend going, then obviously there's no feelings. I really doubt there is anyway, but it couldn't hurt to bring it up to him. Just do it with a level head, to come on attacky or he'll get defensive and answer incorrectly.

Yeah he probably did the first to tease the guy, but the lap and the kiss were definitely not to tease him because his friend was in the other room talking to his girlfriend on the phone because she couldn't make it. I don't know, it all seems like a lost cause to me and that I should just get over it because yeah, he may have feelings for her, but so what? People can be attracted to other people while they're in a relationship, just as long as they don't act upon those attractions. If he does admit that he likes her, then what? Should I ask him to tone down his flirting with her? I'm pretty good at reading people's body language and actions and can usually tell if they like a person, and all arrows are pointing to the same answer at the moment.

[derrek]

Well, you sat quietly the whole night so it's something that should be fixed. You can't let it go on bothering you, and ruining outings. Even if you just bring it up to him like "It makes me uncomfortable when...", then he knows that it makes you uneasy, so the ball is in his court if he's going to do it again (and risk a relationship) or respect your relationship and stop.

[brighteyes]

i have a question.

i'm a girl and i sometimes meet/talk to a guy who already has a gf. the problem is that i very much adore him, and i feel bad about doing things with him since i have ulterior motives (i.e. i want to date him). but everything thus far has been strictly platonic and i'm not exactly plotting to break them up. but he's being surprisingly active about getting in touch with me... like he'd be the one to contact me first or ask me out to eat. i'm fairly sure he's committed to his gf, but my friend thinks that he's being an ass for doing things with me while he has a gf, which kind of makes me feel bad that i'm going along with all of this.

so my question is 1) is he wrong to want to meet me? 2) am i wrong to see him? or am i just being overly paranoid? to be completely honest i do think that he is somewhat attracted to me, but then again, maybe it's just in his nature to be friendly and flirty with everyone. oh and another question: what do i do??? i shamefully admit--i'm pretty sure this guy is "the one."

[derrek]

If I was in your situation, I would resume being his close friend. Of course, never let it get physical etc etc. Just be friends, then down the road you never know what may happen!

[ajuhmah]

Why are Korean men into skinny girls? Why not someone who's average or athletic? Is it because "they are more manageable in bed?"

Also why do guys including Korean men like to date someone who's much younger than they are (for example, if they are 35, they can date someone who's 22. But they don't date a woman who's over 37?...)

Please be honest.

[SUMM3RxBABii]

lolll

i have no idea.

i have a korean friend who always makes fun of me for being "fat" (when i'm just average size) and he tells me to lose weight haha

[_dax_]

What might this be? - Oh right, 'generalization'

[milk-o]

Happy New Year (though it's late)!

Just wanna ask this:

What if a guy shows interest at you and you kind of entertained him merely because you're bored and all, but turns out he's so into you (sometimes in a overly-romantic way) that it creeps you out especially since you learned that he's married (arranged marriage) and he's got the nerve to say that if you had shown any interest with him beforehand, he won't marry the girl cuz he already liked you way before you knew him... See how creepy this situation is? So how do you dump the guy without moving to another country or busting him up to his wife? Oh, and beating THE guy up isn't part of the choices... IMO, I don't want to ruin my nail polish right now...

Anyone?


milk-o

[HERMIT]

^
Well, the most obvious thing is to be up front with him and tell him that you are simply just not interested in him and that the incident in which you 'entertained' him was a mistake on your part and that you didn't intend to really lead him on.

But of course, some of the most obvious solutions somehow seem to be the hardest to carry out.

[princesspoppy]

Why are Korean men into skinny girls? Why not someone who's average or athletic? Is it because "they are more manageable in bed?"

Also why do guys including Korean men like to date someone who's much younger than they are (for example, if they are 35, they can date someone who's 22. But they don't date a woman who's over 37?...)

Please be honest.

Hunny, its not just Korean men. Its MEN, in general.

[derrek]

I don't like skinny girls, but I do prefer girls that take care of themselves physically.

[HSuke]

... but I do prefer girls that take care of themselves physically.

As opposed to what? Girls who abuse themselves?