[Tuffcore]

LOL! Okay! I had to laugh. Sorry! It was funnie and its so true!

LOL glad you guys find it funny. I can't really laugh myself because well, its true my chances are slim (although existing)... I meant my post above as a joke though. I don't see it as negative as that (although my numbers can't be too far off...)

I got to start being positive. It will start right now From now on, I believe it's just a matter of time before I meet 1 of those other 5 women...

[PaNgIeE]

LOL glad you guys find it funny. I can't really laugh myself because well, its true my chances are slim (although existing)... I meant my post above as a joke though. I don't see it as negative as that (although my numbers can't be too far off...)

I got to start being positive. It will start right now From now on, I believe it's just a matter of time before I meet 1 of those other 5 women...

Sorry! I didn't mean to laugh at you. I was laughing at what watcher was saying. Sorry!

Yes! You have to be positive. I believe you'll find that "right" person to share you're life with. Who knows. She can be just around the corner, right under your eyes, right next door, or just right beside you. Anything is possible!

Good Luck!

[watcher]

LOL glad you guys find it funny. I can't really laugh myself because well, its true my chances are slim (although existing)... I meant my post above as a joke though. I don't see it as negative as that (although my numbers can't be too far off...)

I got to start being positive. It will start right now From now on, I believe it's just a matter of time before I meet 1 of those other 5 women...

if would suck if you met all 5 at once...cuz then...you'd have to choose one and lose the rest.

[HERMIT]

Your chances are even better when you set your sights beyond just Vancouver. Factor in new women that move into the area as well. Relaxing your parameters even a little bit will allow the pool of prospects to get bigger. As it is, your estimate of 5 is based on highly restrictive parameters.
Maybe this will lift your spirits rather than feeling resigned to only having 5 prospects.

[angelZ]

i need HELP!

i've always had this feeling that this guy i've known since i was a kid (family friend) has liked me for at least over a yr now. i tried dropping all sorts of hints before to say that i wasn't interested, but he treated me as if i was his gf and it felt so uncomfortable. just last week, he told me he really liked me & asked me to be his gf. i have absolutely no feelings for him so i rejected him & said that we could only be friends. he then started blaming me for not feeling the same way as him and said i treat him really crap. wtf?!

before he confessed, he asked me to go to his office dinner party as his 'date' and i said yes because i didn't really think much about it. he asked me again later in the week (after the whole confessing thing) if i was still going and i said i would still go because he had already RSVPed and he said he couldn't' find anyone else at the last minute. i guess i also felt kind of bad about it. well RIGHT after i said that, he asked me if i was sure i didn't like him and he made it a point that he would keep trying until i gave in.

he has been calling/texting/emailing me for the past few days & it's getting really irritating!! so now i don't even want to see him, let alone go to his party! he just doesn't get the point!! omg...
WHAT can i do so that he gets the point that i'm just not interested in him!?! it's driving me crazy!!

[Shinobu]

he has been calling/texting/emailing me for the past few days & it's getting really irritating!! so now i don't even want to see him, let alone go to his party! he just doesn't get the point!! omg...
WHAT can i do so that he gets the point that i'm just not interested in him!?! it's driving me crazy!!

Just consistently reject him until he gets the message and if he's too delusional I guess you'll have to keep reject him until you find yourself a bf that makes him feel inferior then he'll back off.

[B0hemian_Sprite]

Well, let's do some math here.

3 Billion women on Earth
1.2 million women in Vancouver, Canada (where i reside)
300,000 or so are Asian women (just my preference)
10,000 or so are 25-27 years old (my perfect age range)
one tenth of these women have the looks (doesn't have to be beautiful but must look decent)
one fifth of these women are single (I don't like to cut someone else's grass)
only a quarter of the remaining are University grads (i like an educated woman)
half of the remaining have an attractive personality (the biggest reason why i am attracted to this girl)
maybe 25% chance these women will think i am cute (i may not be everyone's cup of tea)

So what... that's like 6 women in this whole city that fits the target demographics and this girl i just met was one of them? ...<insert swear word(s)>

LOL Tuffcore! That was so cute and funny. Gave me a good laugh, thanks.
And...really, do not fret hun. Eventually the right girl will come for you, and you will make her extremely happy. Who knows, maybe you have already met her, you just don't realize it yet.

[k1D3Ck]

Well, let's do some math here.

3 Billion women on Earth
1.2 million women in Vancouver, Canada (where i reside)
300,000 or so are Asian women (just my preference)
10,000 or so are 25-27 years old (my perfect age range)
one tenth of these women have the looks (doesn't have to be beautiful but must look decent)
one fifth of these women are single (I don't like to cut someone else's grass)
only a quarter of the remaining are University grads (i like an educated woman)
half of the remaining have an attractive personality (the biggest reason why i am attracted to this girl)
maybe 25% chance these women will think i am cute (i may not be everyone's cup of tea)

So what... that's like 6 women in this whole city that fits the target demographics and this girl i just met was one of them? ...<insert swear word(s)>

OMG
Don't do this to me
I am from la, but I am going to school in missouri for engineering (population 15k, school about 6K)
School is broken down to, 75% male, 25% female, 10% asian, 3% asian female, 0% korean female
And persoanlly I just want to date some nice girls, doesn't have to be asian girls, but even though my school says that there are 25% female, I can't seem to find them. They must be like the ultimate hide and go seek players I swear. lol
But don't fret....school is almost over!!!!!!

[Tuffcore]

he has been calling/texting/emailing me for the past few days & it's getting really irritating!! so now i don't even want to see him, let alone go to his party! he just doesn't get the point!! omg...
WHAT can i do so that he gets the point that i'm just not interested in him!?! it's driving me crazy!!

Well i'm glad i didn't choose that embarassing route myself.
The line between persistence and irritation is so fine.

If i was the guy, i would probably want to know why you don't like me. I would want to know so that i can improve myself in those areas and come back at you as a better man as soon as i've done meeting up to those expectations. The ball is in your court. If you want him to change and accept him, tell him something he can improve himself upon. If there he is too ugly or you think of him as a brother and would even consider going out with him, hit him with something like, "i only date guys 5+ years older than me" or some criteria that puts yourself out of attainability for good.

LOL Tuffcore! That was so cute and funny. Gave me a good laugh, thanks.
And...really, do not fret hun. Eventually the right girl will come for you, and you will make her extremely happy. Who knows, maybe you have already met her, you just don't realize it yet.

What a difference a day can make. I'm feeling a lot better today already.

[UoMDeacon]

Here's the thing, sometimes there isn't a "reason" why a girl doesn't like a guy. If there's no chemistry, then there's just no chemistry. Pestering a girl about how you can improve yourself generally won't help the situation.

angelZ: I don't think you should feel bad about the situation at all. If he tries blaming you, then he's just delusional. Personally, if he continues to bother you with all the calls and texting, I probably wouldn't go to the office party with him. What's the point if he's that annoying?

...
If i was the guy, i would probably want to know why you don't like me. I would want to know so that i can improve myself in those areas and come back at you as a better man as soon as i've done meeting up to those expectations. The ball is in your court. If you want him to change and accept him, tell him something he can improve himself upon. If there he is too ugly or you think of him as a brother and would even consider going out with him, hit him with something like, "i only date guys 5+ years older than me" or some criteria that puts yourself out of attainability for good.

[watcher]

Here's the thing, sometimes there isn't a "reason" why a girl doesn't like a guy. If there's no chemistry, then there's just no chemistry. Pestering a girl about how you can improve yourself generally won't help the situation.

i agree...
heck...even i go by feel often times.
either she has it, or she doesnt.
given time, if she can find her way in, then so be it.
but often times, it's really a hit or miss.

[melkimx]

Here's the thing, sometimes there isn't a "reason" why a girl doesn't like a guy. If there's no chemistry, then there's just no chemistry. Pestering a girl about how you can improve yourself generally won't help the situation.

and sometimes, it honestly really isn't that the guy is lacking in any way. even if mr. seems absolutely perfect comes by, there are times when a single girl just can't handle being in a relationship because of other things. i'm sure vice versa too.

btw i don't know what the context here was but this was a short post so i read it and just added two cents... possibly it made no sense in relation to the post it was responding to... if so i apologize

[angelZ]

Well i'm glad i didn't choose that embarassing route myself.
The line between persistence and irritation is so fine.

If i was the guy, i would probably want to know why you don't like me. I would want to know so that i can improve myself in those areas and come back at you as a better man as soon as i've done meeting up to those expectations. The ball is in your court. If you want him to change and accept him, tell him something he can improve himself upon. If there he is too ugly or you think of him as a brother and would even consider going out with him, hit him with something like, "i only date guys 5+ years older than me" or some criteria that puts yourself out of attainability for good.
What a difference a day can make. I'm feeling a lot better today already.

i guess there's a few reasons why i don't like him? when i hang out with him, i get really irritated. he talks so quietly that i can barely hear him. i constantly have to tell him to speak up because i can't hear anything he says, and the only thing that he ever talks about with me are anime, computers & rollercoasters. i try talking to him about other things and he completely ignores me and starts yapping away on the above 3 topics. and quite honestly, even if he did "change", it wouldn't matter because there's absolutely no sparks between us.

Here's the thing, sometimes there isn't a "reason" why a girl doesn't like a guy. If there's no chemistry, then there's just no chemistry. Pestering a girl about how you can improve yourself generally won't help the situation.

angelZ: I don't think you should feel bad about the situation at all. If he tries blaming you, then he's just delusional. Personally, if he continues to bother you with all the calls and texting, I probably wouldn't go to the office party with him. What's the point if he's that annoying?

yeah, i decided not to go to the party because i don't think i can stand him especially when i have to be with him for the whole night. today, he called me 6x but i didn't pick up because i was in class so he sent me a bunch of SMS asking me where i was, what i was doing etc. he has totally reached my limit. i'm so close to blocking him now lol.

[melkimx]

today, he called me 6x but i didn't pick up because i was in class so he sent me a bunch of SMS asking me where i was, what i was doing etc. he has totally reached my limit. i'm so close to blocking him now lol.

oh geez, are you kidding? i think it's gotten to the point where you shouldn't even feel like you have to be polite anymore -- you should block him, and you DEFINITELY shouldn't attend that party with him.

[Tuffcore]

Here's the thing, sometimes there isn't a "reason" why a girl doesn't like a guy. If there's no chemistry, then there's just no chemistry. Pestering a girl about how you can improve yourself generally won't help the situation.

I agree. What i'm saying is, "make up a reason" to "finish off" the guy's misery because he's just looking for any reason really. The reason doesn't even have to be real. Just hit him with someone so he goes away.

quite honestly, even if he did "change", it wouldn't matter because there's absolutely no sparks between us.

Then don't tell him the truth. Tell him you don't like him because you're only attracted to guys 6'-3" and taller. Don't tell him about those 3 things because he's going to try and change himself to meet your criteria. Then he'll chase after you again when he believes he's met them. I don't like to encourage lying but this is one instance where you can do both of you a favor.

[donporkuloin]

I just wonder.. women that are 22 or older I have a question. What you look for in a guy. Has that criteria changed for you since you were a teenager compared to your age now? If it has, then why has it changed?

[CIRee]

I just wonder.. women that are 22 or older I have a question. What you look for in a guy. Has that criteria changed for you since you were a teenager compared to your age now? If it has, then why has it changed?

Im a dude but from what i can tell you from my past experience, they are just the same but less A.D.D and sometime they could hold a conversation.

[yoojini]

I just wonder.. women that are 22 or older I have a question. What you look for in a guy. Has that criteria changed for you since you were a teenager compared to your age now? If it has, then why has it changed?

HECK YEEEEEEAH. my friend and i were just talking about this yesterday.^^;

for me, it's changed because of the changes in my environment. i'm 22, btw. for example, when i was in high school, i used to like guys that were really cute and close in age with me, but unfortunately, i came across personal and family problems, so i realized i tend to like guys that are a couple of years older than me with that sexy, manlier, rugged look to them. back then, intelligence wasn't that big of deal, but after my tutoring experience at the junior college, i DEFINITELY want a guy who has the same level intelligence and/or level of education as me or higher.

also, back in high school, i used to be really really into asian guys.^^ but i've had bad experiences with them over the years.=\ currently i'm into caucasian guys based on my encounters with them and especially now that i'm at the university where most couples consist of an asian girl with a caucasian guy.

[FRUITYCHEESECAKE]

This isn't really an important question but rather a rant.
Ever since I've been a college student, I've been amazingly attracting weird guys. Some may say 'Hey, you can attract guys! Be thankful' but in reality, this is more freaky and scary. You name it, I attract them all: from a 19-year old boy to 35-year old guys and from the 'quite but staring at you' type to 'i am going to stalk you in very obvious ways' types, who all think they know me well when in reality, we've only been either a lab partner or worked in a group together. Some obviously want just sex and who know what else is going inside of their heads.

I've never had in a relationship with guys not because I am homosexual (yes, there's people ask me this question) but I just don't want to be in it. I am too busy with my school work and I am having fun with my friends. Hence, I don't see the need of having a boyfriend.

Some guys can't take 'no' for an answer and I am getting frankly tired of attracting scary dudes - I am seriously thinking about buying a fake engagement ring or something. Silly, yes I know. Then I thought maybe I am imagining things but my friends have realized this as well so I know at least I am self-centered person who thinks she is the center of the world.

I apologize if this annoys you - I just got a two phone calls from two of those 'scary guys' asking me out this weekend...ruined the fun of hanging out with my friends tonight and not to mention all the final exams that I have to deal with! No, no...i don't get phone calls everyday - it was just a coincidence.

Thanks for reading. I realize this is very silly but it scares me a little.
Any input is appreciated.
Have a nice day!

[mickey012]

This isn't really an important question but rather a rant.
Ever since I've been a college student, I've been amazingly attracting weird guys. Some may say 'Hey, you can attract guys! Be thankful' but in reality, this is more freaky and scary. You name it, I attract them all: from a 19-year old boy to 35-year old guys and from the 'quite but staring at you' type to 'i am going to stalk you in very obvious ways' types, who all think they know me well when in reality, we've only been either a lab partner or worked in a group together. Some obviously want just sex and who know what else is going inside of their heads.

I've never had in a relationship with guys not because I am homosexual (yes, there's people ask me this question) but I just don't want to be in it. I am too busy with my school work and I am having fun with my friends. Hence, I don't see the need of having a boyfriend.

Some guys can't take 'no' for an answer and I am getting frankly tired of attracting scary dudes - I am seriously thinking about buying a fake engagement ring or something. Silly, yes I know. Then I thought maybe I am imagining things but my friends have realized this as well so I know at least I am self-centered person who thinks she is the center of the world.

I apologize if this annoys you - I just got a two phone calls from two of those 'scary guys' asking me out this weekend...ruined the fun of hanging out with my friends tonight and not to mention all the final exams that I have to deal with! No, no...i don't get phone calls everyday - it was just a coincidence.

Thanks for reading. I realize this is very silly but it scares me a little.
Any input is appreciated.
Have a nice day!

maybe you should give them the "i'm not interested in men" line...?

altho you're not lesbian but...if you give them the impression that you are (just like buying a ring and lying about being engaged)...i think it's the same idea...no?