[aznto_thamax]

Well as for me. I'm all good.
I had a huge crush with this korean girl in my human kinetics class.
SHE WAS SO RARE since not many korean girls are interested in human kinetics and fitness and health.

I took my chance and had my hopes high. Unfortunately though, after i confessed my love to her, she told me she already has a bf. We are good friends though.
I'm not sure how to describe her though. She looks like one of the former member of CLEO (first group)
who sang the song "GOOD TIME"
Anyway, she told me she went out with 10 guys since grade 7 until her college years.
SO THAT's like within 6 years she went out with 10 guys so far.
WOW
that's like every six months she's switching bf.
When I asked her what type of guys she liked, she told me she likes guys who are fit (referring to me) and guys who are smart ( also referring to me) so I took it as a compliment.

I told her though that once I became friends with her, I would not consider her more than friends.
IT WAS NOW OR NEVER.

I think we are best as friends though. I am still waiting for the right one though.
I am not in a hurry

[Laxntiga]

Tuffcore, you are the man.

[Sweevil]

So I confessed to my crush. I'm so confused. Well we exchanged xmas gifts, and she loved my gift. It seemed to make her day. We chatted not too long ago. I got to get a lot of my thoughts off of my chest, but not everything. I was honest with her. I told her how I feel about her.

She tells me she shuns guys. She was telling me how she's just like one of the guy, etc. She likes guys and all, but she's the tomboy type. Which I knew already. She said she knew I liked her the day I asked her if she wanted to exchange xmas gifts. I guess when you call someone at 12am that does incline something. Anyways, I asked her should give up or take it as rejection? She said interpret things how I want to? I'm so confused, because things seemed to be going so well. Then the moment I confess to her... I just get this wall put up on me. She didn't tell me no. She didn't tell me yes. She just told me to interpret things in my own way. I wonder.. wtf does that mean? Is that her way of saying she's not interested? Is that her way of telling me not to be bothered. So, I'm just super confused. Does anyone know what to make of this?

I'd swear she's doing this to mess with my head..

Dude, ask her.

[Laxntiga]

Don't ask her. She already told you to figure it out. So figure it out and go SHOW HER what you want. I think she's sitting on the fence and is fed up waiting for you. Just go over there and show her some lovn.

[Sweevil]

Fine, don't ask her.

Oooh, you should take her somewhere real special on New Year's Eve!
And buy her cake! Mmmm cake...

[Laxntiga]

Fine, don't ask her.

Oooh, you should take her somewhere real special on New Year's Eve!
And buy her cake! Mmmm cake...

Two thumbs up on the cake. Who can say no to cake? *pats Sweevil on the head.

[CIRee]

dont give her shiznacks ;D have her give you something first before you give something to her. Everything should be equal or you will end up getting stomped on.

[Sweevil]

dont give her shiznacks ;D have her give you something first before you give something to her. Everything should be equal or you will end up getting stomped on.

You're single.

[jcraze]

^ some people say moving on, having a backup person. it can help, but it can also make your life really confusing.
sure, i would like to be honest, but what do you even say to someone you went out on one date with in this situation? "i know you haven't explicitly expressed any interest in me, but i'm going to tell you i'm not interested anyway?" i did that once after a guy i didn't know asked me to dinner and a movie, and the guy came back at me with, "well, i was only trying to be friends with you. you assumed too much." it was completely embarrassing. and like i said, i know this guy doesn't take intimate conversation very well, so for me to get him involved in a "i just don't think of you that way anymore" spiel would be kinda difficult. but i guess i'll think of something.

well, i may have read wrong, but i thought you said you were spending nye with someone else ... so i was thinking just tell him that.

[CIRee]

You're single.

and proud of it!!! why should a guys give a gift to a girl if he haven't receive anything for it? and don't give me the whole "because that what men are suppose to do!" speech. She better give me something of equal or better value.

[Laxntiga]

Single life is the way to go. Relationships tie you down, I prefer to be freeeeeeeee. Girls can buy me gifts any day they wish =D If she buys me cake......... I will buy coffee =D

[melkimx]

well, i may have read wrong, but i thought you said you were spending nye with someone else ... so i was thinking just tell him that.

yeah i did, but the problem was that the first time he asked, i initially said i didn't have any plans because i wasn't sure i'd be in california in time to celebrate. so he asked me to look up my flight times and get back to him so he could buy tickets, and then i had to be like, "sorry, i already made plans to do something else, plus my life is really complicated right now so...." i mean that's a weird thing to say but... whatever, it was all i could come up with.

[donporkuloin]

dont give her shiznacks ;D have her give you something first before you give something to her. Everything should be equal or you will end up getting stomped on.

You're single.

LMAO!!!!!


I talked to her, and I'm not screwed. I just have to deal with the circumstances that surround her and I. Like I'm going to end up moving closer to her area next year for job purposes. I think that when I move closer to her I'm going to stay there for a while, because I move a lot. Until that time comes we're just friends, but she knows how I'm starting to feel. So I don't think I'm in the friend zone completely. I think I'm in the middle or somwhere close to the middle.

Thanks for the optimism Sweevil!

[hailing from ny]

Oh hey. I'm new at the relationship thing. Hope ya'll can answer my confusion.

So there's this girl who I've been close with. We've fooled around and stuff.. but it happened really quickly. I asked her to be my gf, if she wanted to be with me, and she said "yeah." So I was wondering if the official start of the relationship began with our first kiss or when I asked her.

Thanks!

-E

[watcher]

LMAO!!!!!
I talked to her, and I'm not screwed. I just have to deal with the circumstances that surround her and I. Like I'm going to end up moving closer to her area next year for job purposes. I think that when I move closer to her I'm going to stay there for a while, because I move a lot. Until that time comes we're just friends, but she knows how I'm starting to feel. So I don't think I'm in the friend zone completely. I think I'm in the middle or somwhere close to the middle.

Thanks for the optimism Sweevil!

good luck with that...

and also, just my personal thought, but perhaps you should try not to wait until you move to start anything. a girl who already likes you can wait months and even years, but a girl who's simply open to the idea of dating you wont wait too long for you. if you have even the slightest hint that she's opened up herself to you, i'd say you should go for it.

however, you know your situation best, along with a lot of the nuances that you've noticed that we dont know about. do what you think is best

[donporkuloin]

good luck with that...

and also, just my personal thought, but perhaps you should try not to wait until you move to start anything. a girl who already likes you can wait months and even years, but a girl who's simply open to the idea of dating you wont wait too long for you. if you have even the slightest hint that she's opened up herself to you, i'd say you should go for it.

however, you know your situation best, along with a lot of the nuances that you've noticed that we dont know about. do what you think is best

Thanks!!!

[Sweevil]

Oh hey. I'm new at the relationship thing. Hope ya'll can answer my confusion.

So there's this girl who I've been close with. We've fooled around and stuff.. but it happened really quickly. I asked her to be my gf, if she wanted to be with me, and she said "yeah." So I was wondering if the official start of the relationship began with our first kiss or when I asked her.

Thanks!

-E

I think when you asked her out~

[mickey012]

Oh hey. I'm new at the relationship thing. Hope ya'll can answer my confusion.

So there's this girl who I've been close with. We've fooled around and stuff.. but it happened really quickly. I asked her to be my gf, if she wanted to be with me, and she said "yeah." So I was wondering if the official start of the relationship began with our first kiss or when I asked her.

Thanks!

-E

i think it's when you asked her. but...if it really does matter to you (and i'm sure it'll mean just as much to her), you guys can talk about about it.

[bub]

Maybe this was discussed in some previous posts but how liberal are people about sex? I started thinking that everyone gets married and lives "righteously" but then I realized I've watched porn and that ruined everything. Does anybody know the percentage rates and stuff on this? It would be nice if you could tell me more about this because this is confusing. Thanks.

[lilyphenix]

Maybe this was discussed in some previous posts but how liberal are people about sex? I started thinking that everyone gets married and lives "righteously" but then I realized I've watched porn and that ruined everything. Does anybody know the percentage rates and stuff on this? It would be nice if you could tell me more about this because this is confusing. Thanks.

Bub, sorry, I don't understand your question: so you are married or in a relationship, you watched pron, your companion/spouse found out and "that ruined everything", is that so?

I dunno about the percentage rates (what percentage rate, sorry...), but all I can say is that, from my point of view, it starts with a good conversation. First of, is the person willing to talk about sex freely? If yes, then you can talk about pretty much any subject, whatever questions you may have on your mind (without freaking her/him out, sorry I don't know if you are a guy or not) and that way you will come to know what the limits are...

If your companion is not at ease with porn, it seems obvious that you will let go of that, for the sake of your relationships.

Now there is a thing called forgiveness. If you watching porn made your companion mad, well, it doesn't mean it's over between you. You can still work it out.

How liberal are people about sex? Well, it is hard to tell. People are all different. I would say it also depends on the culture (sex is taboo when it comes to talk about it in some cultures), the education given by the parents and someone own's easiness to deal with it. Huh, hope that helped.