[PaNgIeE]

Petite_Mal -- My thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

I understand and know how it feels to lose someone close to you. I, myself, have lost loved ones. My mom passed away unexpectedly 7 yrs ago to an asthma attack and my cousin and her son was found in a river in Northern Cali 6 yrs ago...so yea...it was hard for me! It is unfortunate that the good ppl are the ones to go, but that gives us more hope to look at our lives ahead and be thankful that we are here still. That is why I look at life so differently and do the best I can and not dwell too much on things.

Take care!

[hangook/korea]

I hate to say this, but sometimes reading some posts on here from you "men" it seems like you all sound like "pu$$ie$." Nothing against you guys. Don't take it to the heart, but really...it seems like finding a girl is so hard for you all. Maybe I am wrong for saying this and correct me if I am, but I think you all should just take charge and tell the girl you like her and see what happens. Does it hurt that much if you guys get rejected? Not trying to be a pinkberry and all, but I just want to understand.

I HATE it when girls say this because many of them are hypocrites.

I've had plenty of girl friends who have had crushes on people but these guys aren't aware of it. So I tell them to at least talk to them, I'm not telling them to do anything drastic, but at least talk to them- just small talk to make him aware that you exist. Or if it's somebody we know, say something more than 4 words when you're around him. Nope, they won't even do that- it's the guy's responsibility. And when they don't, the guy is a pansy. By doing that they're basically pinning all their relationship success on the guy- these girls have no control over their love lives unless a guy comes along. Then they criticize guys for not taking an initiative.

It is very unfortunate for these kinds of women- some of them will end up alone for the rest of their lives because they never took a chance.
Just like men who don't take a chance.

What you have just said is the same thing as guy saying, "Girls are so whiny, how bad can a period be? I cut myself on a piece of paper last week, you don't see me complain about some blood and act cranky for a week. Damn... just grow up."

EDIT: I just read pm's post... I'm really sorry what happened. And it is true- life is very fleeting and we should all cherish it and thank God for it every day. It really hurts when you lose somebody like that... I can relate.

[rahrah]

i've had girls tell me to my face they liked me and wanted a relationship with me... i don't think there is anything wrong with a woman doing that, esp. in the 21st century. Its not the 50's anymore... a woman who knows how to get what she wants is very sexy...

btw, sorry to hear about ur loss petite mal.

[NGF]

My sincere condolences to Mallory for her loss. Such sudden and unexpected losses often make me think of the A.E. Housman poem:

To an Athlete Dying Young
The time you won your town the race
We chaired you through the market-place;
Man and boy stood cheering by,
And home we brought you shoulder-high.

To-day, the road all runners come,
Shoulder-high we bring you home,
And set you at your threshold down,
Townsman of a stiller town.

Smart lad, to slip betimes away
From fields were glory does not stay
And early though the laurel grows
It withers quicker than the rose.

Eyes the shady night has shut
Cannot see the record cut,
And silence sounds no worse than cheers
After earth has stopped the ears:

Now you will not swell the rout
Of lads that wore their honours out,
Runners whom renown outran
And the name died before the man.

So set, before its echoes fade,
The fleet foot on the sill of shade,
And hold to the low lintel up
The still-defended challenge-cup.

And round that early-laurelled head
Will flock to gaze the strengthless dead,
And find unwithered on its curls
The garland briefer than a girl's.


Another A.E. Housman poem I have burned into memory:

With rue my heart is laden
With rue my heart is laden
For golden friends I had,
For many a rose-lipt maiden
And many a lightfoot lad.

By brooks too broad for leaping
The lightfoot boys are laid;
The rose-lipt girls are sleeping
In fields where roses fade.

I can't express the sadness I feel at times in better terms. Again, my condolences.

[Petite_Mal]

Thank you all for your comments. As it turns out, they think Stephen died in his sleep from an asthma attack. It's so terrible, because he went through so much with his other condition, and his asthma was the least of their concerns.

NGF, those are really lovely poems.

Now someone should post about relationships that still have hope, even if there are problems.

[Tuffcore]

i've had girls tell me to my face they liked me and wanted a relationship with me...

Hey, I get that all the time too when i walk down Hastings St.

Then they tell me the price and that our relationship would only last 1 hour max...

[Petite_Mal]

Hey, I get that all the time too when i walk down Hastings St.

Then they tell me the price and that our relationship would only last 1 hour max...

As long as you "wrap it up"!

[Tuffcore]

As long as you "wrap it up"!

I do not in anyway promote the engagement of practices with a harlot




Onto a slightly unrelated topic, i work in an office located adjacent to a government office space. For the longest time, the government office space was vacant but just earlier this month, renovations began for the opening of a new government operation. Of all things sacred, this government office space will house a brand new... SPERM BANK! No joke. and no word yet on what color their walls will be...



So, i'm just wondering (not that i'm going to donate or anything or not that there's anything wrong with it but...) what do you ladies think of guys who donate to sperm banks and what if you found out your BF/husband donated to a sperm bank at one time?

[thealmightyGOD]

^^

Haha I bet you sit at your desk at work staring at the sperm bank daydreaming about that now.

[Petite_Mal]

Haha ^^ But I don't think guys have to go to a sperm bank to... do what they need to do to "donate".

I don't see what the issue would be. It'd be odd to know you have a kid out there that is half of your dna and whatnot, but it'd probably have lots of love from two mommies. Plus, you can use the $200 or whatever to woo a woman that'll allow you to make daily donations.

[HERMIT]

I love sperm banks.

It's awfully fun to come in with my hands all bandaged up and asking the nurse for some "help".

By the way, the walls are stucco.

[Tuffcore]

^^

Haha I bet you sit at your desk at work staring at the sperm bank daydreaming about that now.

Well, since there's a spare column here on my daily income statement and lunch can get quite lonely sometimes...

err, i mean...

Haha ^^ But I don't think guys have to go to a sperm bank to... do what they need to do to "donate".

I don't see what the issue would be. It'd be odd to know you have a kid out there that is half of your dna and whatnot, but it'd probably have lots of love from two mommies. Plus, you can use the $200 or whatever to woo a woman that'll allow you to make daily donations.

I was just wondering if it would bother a woman if she finds out her BF/husband has "had kids" with another woman... and that the BF/husband has no idea who the kid is or how many he has. I suppose opinions differ from one woman to another?

I love sperm banks.

It's awfully fun to come in with my hands all bandaged up and asking the nurse for some "help".

By the way, the walls are stucco.

hahaha no no no, i've seen some of the nurses who go for job interviews in that building.

There's a reason why you get paid for their "help"

By the way, are you sure that's really stucco?

[thealmightyGOD]

Haha ^^ But I don't think guys have to go to a sperm bank to... do what they need to do to "donate".

I don't see what the issue would be. It'd be odd to know you have a kid out there that is half of your dna and whatnot, but it'd probably have lots of love from two mommies. Plus, you can use the $200 or whatever to woo a woman that'll allow you to make daily donations.

i like how you think. LETS DATE!

[JF21©]

guys/girls...i have a small dilemma...

today a friend of mine asked me(and another of my co-workers) if we would marry his two cousins..so they can get their Greencard...(isn't that illegal?! )

my initial reaction was HELL NO!! ..but he was like i should hear him out...lol riiiiight...

what i get (supposedly)
~cute ''husband'' : he won 3rd place in a ''MR. UNIVERSE'' type competition in DR...and that's gotta be hard..lol cuz most of the Dominican men i've seen are HOT! ok..back to serious..

~a nice ring that i can keep

~10,000 bucks

~paid for wedding/dress/all that jazz

~a ticket to any ''honeymoon'' place--pretty much saying that if i wanna go on vaca..it's paid for..even if he doesn't tag along...

~ a new friend.....because i don't necessarily have to live with the guy...lol

after he ran all this down and souped it up, my co-worker was like she'll do it, and so she's meeting ''her guy'' tomorrow and after thinking about it for some time....i'm starting to wonder if maybe i should do it...i mean...people do it all the time right? right?!?

i'm just afraid because:

1..i'm pretty sure its illegal....and i don't like to break the law

2..i don't know this man from a rock..and even tho my friend says he's a nice guy..he could have some homicidal tendencies that nobody knows of....

and 3...i'm just not ready to be married...real or fake...

so i need some honest oppinions here...

what would u do in my situation...should i do it? gahh..i'm so aoievncawiehdvawiueghvjo right now...

[CIRee]

guys/girls...i have a small dilemma...

today a friend of mine asked me(and another of my co-workers) if we would marry his two cousins..so they can get their Greencard...(isn't that illegal?! )

my initial reaction was HELL NO!! ..but he was like i should hear him out...lol riiiiight...

what i get (supposedly)
~cute ''husband'' : he won 3rd place in a ''MR. UNIVERSE'' type competition in DR...and that's gotta be hard..lol cuz most of the Dominican men i've seen are HOT! ok..back to serious..

~a nice ring that i can keep

~10,000 bucks

~paid for wedding/dress/all that jazz

~a ticket to any ''honeymoon'' place--pretty much saying that if i wanna go on vaca..it's paid for..even if he doesn't tag along...

~ a new friend.....because i don't necessarily have to live with the guy...lol

after he ran all this down and souped it up, my co-worker was like she'll do it, and so she's meeting ''her guy'' tomorrow and after thinking about it for some time....i'm starting to wonder if maybe i should do it...i mean...people do it all the time right? right?!?

i'm just afraid because:

1..i'm pretty sure its illegal....and i don't like to break the law

2..i don't know this man from a rock..and even tho my friend says he's a nice guy..he could have some homicidal tendencies that nobody knows of....

and 3...i'm just not ready to be married...real or fake...

so i need some honest oppinions here...

what would u do in my situation...should i do it? gahh..i'm so aoievncawiehdvawiueghvjo right now...

its marriage fraud and any type of fraud is illegal. 10k only I know chinese family offering me 30k but im not desperate for the money so i decline all offer made to me. Its your life, do what you want with it, but i recommend you don't do the fake marriage.

[Petite_Mal]

what would u do in my situation...should i do it? gahh..i'm so aoievncawiehdvawiueghvjo right now...

If you're seriously thinking about it, hold out for an Arab. My sister-in-law got offered 100K before she married my brother. She turned it down for the obvious reasons though.

Apparently scams like this aren't that easy to pull off. The INS (thanks rahrah!) sometimes does a series of interviews and follow ups to verify hasty, international marriages... I heard it's generally over a period of a year or so, and it includes coming to your home and interviewing friends and family. So, if it were just you and the guy involved, I'd say do what you want and take the risk, but I doubt you'd want to get your loved ones involved.

[HERMIT]

what would u do in my situation...should i do it? gahh..i'm so aoievncawiehdvawiueghvjo right now...

Nah, I sure wouldn't do it.
But that's mostly because I'm not into guys.
Yet, getting to keep the wedding dress is so damn tempting.....

[rahrah]

The IMF sometimes does a series of interviews and follow ups to verify hasty, international marriages

the IMF?

i think u meant the INS. lolz

haha i usually don't care about grammar, but i used to want to work at the IMF when i was younger... international monetary fund. its like a UN organization. ok anyways that was random.

Hey, I get that all the time too when i walk down Hastings St.

Then they tell me the price and that our relationship would only last 1 hour max...

lolz

it was only chinese girls who ever said that to me... chinese girls are pretty aggressive... i think most korean girls have wayyyyyyyyyy too much pride to do that... =/


its kinda cool how people are pretty open about their relationships here... for the life of me i can't reveal details about present relationship problems or good things... i dunno why. maybe i have internet trauma... lolz

[thealmightyGOD]

um...that's like illegal. its called extortion. that'd be a hard case though, unless you have emails with him saying that stuff. and going to court for something like that is a hassle too. i agree with hermit with the cutting off all ties thing. better yet, i'd get a new job and move before he notices, he sounds like the type that would stalk someone. =X

[Tr710]

I hope this post doesn't turn into some gushy teenage lovely dovely mushy-wushy thingamajig. But here goes...

Last night I was in my bed, trying to sleep when memories of my and I slipped in and it was very vivid: I was hugging her, I wanted to be close to her. But that was as close as I can be already--she's already in my arms, right next to me--but I still felt that wasn't enough. I want to be closer to her than that. It's like I want to "become one" with her--my soul, heart, mind, etc. merging with hers. I don't think it's out of the ordinary, but I'm sure it's not quite the norm either. So uhhhh, does any one else ever felt this way with their (ex) SO before?