[k1D3Ck]

1. you didn't introduce yourself on the 20+ post.
2. don't try to find love on soompi with your first posts. It's kind of awkward.

Yes even after my 1000 posts I still can't seem to find love on soompi...so you my friend have a long ways to go..lol

Either way....good luck

[papabear]

Love is an act of acceptance for all our imperfections.

there's a difference between tolerance and acceptance, and some things should be neither tolerated nor accepted

[chairmanK]

there's a difference between tolerance and acceptance, and some things should be neither tolerated nor accepted

+1. You are wise. Sometimes you have to let go of someone you love because she has one utterly intolerable imperfection, even though every other aspect of her may be okay.

[angelZ]

^ yeah, because that one thing will always be weighing down your relationship...no matter how hard you try to embrace it...

[watcher]

i think papabear was leaning more towards serious matters, like physical abuse. though i could be wrong.. hehe

[papabear]

yeah, someone who is physically or emotionally abusive has "imperfections" but these are serious imperfections

a vice is not the same as a weakness, and both differ from an innocuous personality quirk

[hangook/korea]

i think love requires a little bit of patience, time and effort. it's not something that comes free and easy, but requires something more significant.

Oh my god, ain't that the truth!

That's the situation I'm in now- things are moving along and I don't think effort is an issue- it's time and with time comes the need for patience. It's a delicate situation and I haven't had enough time to talk things over. But I think there is still potential between the two of us.

[JF21�]

Yes even after my 1000 posts I still can't seem to find love on soompi...so you my friend have a long ways to go..lol

Either way....good luck

WHY WOULD YOU BE LOOKING FOR LOVE ON SOOMPI?!

[Singlever]

Not really my friend. If you are talking about finding love in this website. I had a friend and he found his love in this website. So.... nothing is impossible. If your 1000 posts are not working then maybe your 2000 posts will work then. haha.... I don't know what is the purpose of posting my feeling here but I think sharing is a nice thing to do in life. That is why I love to share.


Singlever

Love requires responsibilities. Agree? anyone?

[knickstorm]

^ we became friends in 1st yr of university because we were in the same residence, so it's been about 5yrs or so. we got along really well and we both considered each other as best friends (used to hang out all the time, been there for each other etc)...well until the sh!t started happening after we moved in together. it was definitely a wrong move but it really shows his true personality through it all. the friendship has virtually been on the downhill since. actually he even said it himself that after i move out, he probably won't talk to me anymore because he 'has better things to do'. so whatever, i don't need friends like that.

sounds to me like he wants more out of the friendship than you do. If it had been someone he wasnt interested in who canceled shopping plans he probably wouldnt really care at all.

[watcher]

Not really my friend. If you are talking about finding love in this website. I had a friend and he found his love in this website. So.... nothing is impossible. If your 1000 posts are not working then maybe your 2000 posts will work then. haha.... I don't know what is the purpose of posting my feeling here but I think sharing is a nice thing to do in life. That is why I love to share.
Singlever

Love requires responsibilities. Agree? anyone?

i think love requires a lot of things...
but at the end of the day, it makes all things sweeter.

[Tuffcore]

Going for a buddy's Ex...

Yay? or Nay?

I am currently faced with this proposition.
I lean towards Nay but, i fell kind of immature about this decision for some weird reason.
The situation:
Girl is a buddy's ex from nearly 10 years ago.
They went out for about 6-months.
There was almost definitely sex involved (although i can not be 100% sure, im nearly 100% sure).
This buddy of mine is not like a best friend but a good friend nonetheless.
I've known this buddy for 9 years (or so).
We used to hangout very often but not much in the last 3 years and like never in the past year.

What would you do in my situation and why? Please advise.

[watcher]

Going for a buddy's Ex...

Yay? or Nay?

I am currently faced with this proposition.
I lean towards Nay but, i fell kind of immature about this decision for some weird reason.
The situation:
Girl is a buddy's ex from nearly 10 years ago.
They went out for about 6-months.
There was almost definitely sex involved (although i can not be 100% sure, im nearly 100% sure).
This buddy of mine is not like a best friend but a good friend nonetheless.
I've known this buddy for 9 years (or so).
We used to hangout very often but not much in the last 3 years and like never in the past year.

What would you do in my situation and why? Please advise.

just a personal preference for me, but i wouldnt date any of my friend's ex's, unless im no longer friends with that person.

[papabear]

(1) How compatible are you two? (2) And what is your goal in all of this?

[chairmanK]

Going for a buddy's Ex...

Yay? or Nay?

It depends on how strongly you feel for her. Are you just curious to see what it would be like to date her or sleep wih her? Or do you think that she might be The One For You? Few things in life are more important than marrying the right woman; you ought to wreck whatever friendships need to be wrecked for this to happen.

[CIRee]

Going for a buddy's Ex...

Yay? or Nay?

I am currently faced with this proposition.
I lean towards Nay but, i fell kind of immature about this decision for some weird reason.
The situation:
Girl is a buddy's ex from nearly 10 years ago.
They went out for about 6-months.
There was almost definitely sex involved (although i can not be 100% sure, im nearly 100% sure).
This buddy of mine is not like a best friend but a good friend nonetheless.
I've known this buddy for 9 years (or so).
We used to hangout very often but not much in the last 3 years and like never in the past year.

What would you do in my situation and why? Please advise.

I dont mind a stranger leftovers but not my buddys ;D

[Tuffcore]

just a personal preference for me, but i wouldnt date any of my friend's ex's, unless im no longer friends with that person.

I dont mind a stranger leftovers but not my buddys ;D

Same same. But at the same time, i'm not getting any younger and the opportunities to get with women are coming fewer and farther in between. No, i'm not that desperate. I can probably walk away from this opportunity and look for something else but i've got to be wary of time/age too.

(1) How compatible are you two? (2) And what is your goal in all of this?

It depends on how strongly you feel for her. Are you just curious to see what it would be like to date her or sleep wih her? Or do you think that she might be The One For You? Few things in life are more important than marrying the right woman; you ought to wreck whatever friendships need to be wrecked for this to happen.

I tend to go into every relationship thinking it would last forever (maybe that's my problem to begin with??)
At this moment, I think we're moderately compatible and the physical attraction is mutual.
There is potential for something special but it's too easy to sit behind a computer and predict the future.
Who knows how far it can go if i don't try in the first place? Right?
Another thing to consider is that things may not even work out between me and the girl even if i take the chance.
Problem is, i'll have wrecked the friendship first before i can even get to see how far i can go with this girl.
I'm not quite sure if it's worth the risk.

Also, like blindboi said, part of the problem may be the way i'm thinking.
Is it a bit too immature to think that way?
It's definitely a pride thing.
Under normal circumstances, i think i would've been all over her by now.
I just can't seem to overcome myself.

I'm just wondering if anyone here has faced the same situation and took the chance despite themselves.
Please share your stories!

[watcher]

i dont know how old you are, but i think you're far from a situation where you should be worried if you're in your 20's. no girl's going to think negatively of a man who's in their 20's and not married. quite the opposite, men in their late 20's are prime targets for girls looking for stable relationships.

[papabear]

Same same. But at the same time, i'm not getting any younger and the opportunities to get with women are coming fewer and farther in between. No, i'm not that desperate. I can probably walk away from this opportunity and look for something else but i've got to be wary of time/age too.
I tend to go into every relationship thinking it would last forever (maybe that's my problem to begin with??)
At this moment, I think we're moderately compatible and the physical attraction is mutual.
There is potential for something special but it's too easy to sit behind a computer and predict the future.
Who knows how far it can go if i don't try in the first place? Right?
Another thing to consider is that things may not even work out between me and the girl even if i take the chance.
Problem is, i'll have wrecked the friendship first before i can even get to see how far i can go with this girl.
I'm not quite sure if it's worth the risk.

Also, like blindboi said, part of the problem may be the way i'm thinking.
Is it a bit too immature to think that way?
It's definitely a pride thing.
Under normal circumstances, i think i would've been all over her by now.
I just can't seem to overcome myself.

I'm just wondering if anyone here has faced the same situation and took the chance despite themselves.
Please share your stories!

If: (1) You don't have a problem with her past,
(2) and don't have a problem with her current attitude towards pre-marital sex and past actions, whatever it may be [which, granted, will probably be difficult to find out unless you actually date her]

and wish to explore compatability then it seems the friendship is the only major obstacle, as you seem to be saying. So why is that? Is your friend that possessive? Or did they break up on bad terms? (Or did she initiate it?)

[YUNA!]

Hmmmmm sorry to bug in again =P

So recently, me and that guy who I talked about have been going out now..
We've been spending a lot of time with each other..... everything's going perfect, except..

I dunno if it's the fact that in the past, my exes haven't treated me very good which left a scar in my memories or whatever, but even though I know he is being sincere with his words, I can't stop this doubt from growing.. it's like I'm waiting for proof that this isn't what he says it is.. and I don't know why I'm feeling this way when everything is fine :/


Does any of you understand? I sure don't =/..