[onmait]

STORY:
I've known this man for a few years during my high school years. I've been in love with him for so long and suddenly, he announced that he's married. I believed it because everyone that was connected between him and me said so and I lived hours away from him. That shook my entire world and I gave up on love. And that was a few years ago.

A few days ago, I attended this festival and accidentally met him again. He's changed a lot and so have I. I still recognize him YET he has no clue who I am and approached me. He was hitting on me and I was shocked. I played along for a while until it seems like he's really getting serious with me. I was scared because based from what I know, he was married. I didn't have the gut to tell him who I was/am but he kept stalking me and in the end, I have no choice but to tell him the truth.

He was so surprised at how much I've changed. I asked about his wife and all the details. He then, came to me with the TRUTH! The entire marriage thing was a lie. He didn't like me back then and knew that I liked him so he had to make-up something in order to get rid of me. After hearing the TRUTH, my longing heart that's filled with regrets felt like, it was being stabbed, stepped on and chopped into little pieces. The truth was more painful than him being married to someone else and I regretted.

IN THE PAST:
I was bigger than I am now. I didn't know anything about fashion. Low self-esteem.

Now, I've changed and he's stalking me everywhere. He wants to be with me. He said he knew I loved him and he's sure that I still love him being I'm not married yet. As on my thoughts, I still love him a little but after knowing the truth, I'm now confused. Now, it felt as if, he's in love with my outside, not my inside. What should I do? Please help me. Thanks!

[greenana]

forget the dude. he's mean.
what he did to you back then was not right!
Forget about him, you don't need
to waste your time being with someone like that.
he could have lie to you about marrying...
In the end, is really up to you.
Make good choice.

[smiile]

what a douche.
now that your hot, he wants you?
that lie was really pathetic.....

if you made a guy who once tried to get rid of you fall for you,
you can get any guy, period.

find a better man.

[gossip.girl]

he doesn't deserve you, IMO. he's superficial and a coward. even if he couldn't return those feelings for you back then, he should have been a man about it and told you the truth. don't waste your time on him. try to move on and find someone who loves you for both your inner and outer beauty.

[shirotaka]

^To all the above posters

Get over your self righteous ass hole ideas. You're telling me that you wouldn't give a person who before looked like mini cooper, smelled like mini cooper and acted like mini cooper a chance if they ended up hot, smelling good and with a good personality? Some people prefer to leave things in the pass and only look at what people are now and not what they were.

Everyone is superficial, everyone has prejudice. But I agree that he should have manned up and actually took responsibility instead of lying.

[bbyneleh]

this somewhat reminds me of that movie '200 pounds of beauty'

anyways. i agree with smiile

[gossip.girl]

^To all the above posters

Get over your self righteous ass hole ideas. You're telling me that you wouldn't give a person who before looked like mini cooper, smelled like mini cooper and acted like mini cooper a chance if they ended up hot, smelling good and with a good personality? Some people prefer to leave things in the pass and only look at what people are now and not what they were.

Everyone is superficial, everyone has prejudice. But I agree that he should have manned up and actually took responsibility instead of lying.

i'm not self righteous (although i can be an ass sometimes), but given the situation that guy doesn't deserve her.
it wasn't a tiny lie (IMO), it was pretty serious.
but its onmait's life.
if you believe that the joy/happiness/fulfillment you will receive from being in a relationship with this man is worth the potential heartbreak in the end, than go for it.
but if you don't think that it will be, don't.

[cheerydumdum]

did he ever apologize? cuz he seriously crossed the line with his lie. i mean, its somewhat understandable if he said he had a girlfriend when in reality he didn't, but marriage...that's not something to joke about. since you love him still, maybe give him a chance. but don't bring your hopes up too high. go super slow and just keep your eyes wide open. show him that he needs to do a lot to gain your trust.

[myxo]

Ouch!
Not the exact scenario I was imagining when I read the thread title, but this is definitely interesting.
Personally, if it was me, I'd be awfully insulted upon hearing the truth. To come up with such a big lie to shoo a girl off? Oh man, you must have scared the poor guy back then.

Anyway, he's not the guy you're talking about in your signature, are you? Obviously if he is, it's given that you care about him too much. Give it a try if you still have him in your heart, but if it were me, I'd fall out of the love the instant he told the truth.

[onmait]

Thanks everyone, for your comments. With just your comments, along with me being confused whether to give him a chance or not, I've come to a conclusion. I'll just be friends with him for the time being and observe him longer. I wasn't waiting for him anyway since he said he was married. Having him back was a big shocked and shook me a bit but we'll just have to see about it.

myxo,
About your question, no, the quotes in my signature was someone else's quotes, not mine.

[kiwihime]

This reminds me of Legally Blonde

[donporkuloin]

Wow. That was a harsh thing for him to do. I'd say don't get with him, because I think he likes you for your looks. Not who you are as a person.

[forgottenmemories]

Wow. Even if I didn't like someone, I wouldn't have lied about getting married in order for them to get off my back.

Move on my dear. The boy doesn't deserve you. Just move on.

[BoAFriend]

Wow, what that guy did was low, man. Who in the world does that something like that? He completely walked over your heart and although he didn't know you liked him, still - what he did is something you should never do to anyone. What a filthy liar.

No joke, he's not worth your attention and love. You will find better - you deserve better.

[vietbebe]

"back then they didnt want u, now ur all hot and they all up on you"
LOL

this guy is so superficial! sounds like hes all about looks......so be careful~
i wouldnt go for it.

[onmait]

"back then they didnt want u, now ur all hot and they all up on you"
LOL

this guy is so superficial! sounds like hes all about looks......so be careful~
i wouldnt go for it.

Thanks. My friends and families said that too.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

what a douche bag

You deserve a better man.

That's it.

[bad boy]

this calls for, a before and now pic

i would like to see the changes

and why in the world would u date a old man

eww

give me a chance instead :]

[7thprincess]

SCREW HIM!!!! It is his lost! You know what you should do: Keep looking damn good. And make him pine over you.

[daulism]

NOT WORTH IT!! If I do say so myself. It could happen to me, so thanks for thiss. ;]