[kcy]

There's this guy I've liked for about 6 months. We're pretty casual but I wouldn't say that we're close since we always joke around. It really bothers me that he treats me like "one of the guys," like he would talk full-out perverted to me. I mean, I'm fine with that but I really wanna talk about more serious things so we can become closer. He's extremely affectionate towards me, like he'd hold my hand, grab my arm, pat my cheeks, put his arms around me and I know for a fact that he doesn't do that to any other girls.
It kind of seems like he's interested because he's telling people that we're together, just for fun, and he's really playful around me but then again, it's hard to have a serious conversation around him since it'd just get extremely awkward so I try to avoid those situations.
Oh btw, there's a really big barrier between us. In the place I live, most of the time people usually date within their race and to be honest, my school has 2500 people and I've never seen ONE interracial couple, EVER. He's Tamil and i'm Korean. At this point, I don't care what my family thinks but what bothers me is that I don't think he'll like me because of this. It sounds really stupid.. but honestly, we come from two different parts of town, two different groups of friends. He jokes about us being together, but it's just a joke to him.
What should I do to become closer to him? :< and do you think I stand a chance?

[uleT14]

There's this guy I've liked for about 6 months. We're pretty casual but I wouldn't say that we're close since we always joke around. It really bothers me that he treats me like "one of the guys," like he would talk full-out perverted to me. I mean, I'm fine with that but I really wanna talk about more serious things so we can become closer. He's extremely affectionate towards me, like he'd hold my hand, grab my arm, pat my cheeks, put his arms around me and I know for a fact that he doesn't do that to any other girls.
It kind of seems like he's interested because he's telling people that we're together, just for fun, and he's really playful around me but then again, it's hard to have a serious conversation around him since it'd just get extremely awkward so I try to avoid those situations.
Oh btw, there's a really big barrier between us. In the place I live, most of the time people usually date within their race and to be honest, my school has 2500 people and I've never seen ONE interracial couple, EVER. He's Tamil and i'm Korean. At this point, I don't care what my family thinks but what bothers me is that I don't think he'll like me because of this. It sounds really stupid.. but honestly, we come from two different parts of town, two different groups of friends. He jokes about us being together, but it's just a joke to him.
What should I do to become closer to him? :< and do you think I stand a chance?

of course u can get him just be more serious sometimes since u r both joking around too much he wont take u serious
with the perverted thing use that to your advantage make him drool over u im sure u can do it as he constantly has physical contact with u (just dont take it too far i know how guys can think perverted thoughts when we get the chance) agree with him when he says "playfully" he's your bf and joke 2 he might even get a shock out of it
or u could just express your feelings for him and since your both young you arent so bound to the old rules of dating within your race.Explain it to him and go from there i hope you luck.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

At this point, I don't care what my family thinks but what bothers me is that I don't think he'll like me because of this. It sounds really stupid.. but honestly, we come from two different parts of town, two different groups of friends.

who cares about what your family thinks lol. I mean, I understand that korean parents and most asians parents actually, want their child to date someone from same country. But I mean, I think that's just for marriage stuff.
My gf is korean and I'm not, and I get along with her parents quite well, so I don't think your parents could be a problem.
Or you could just not tell them lol.

And who cares if you have different friends and stuff, it's not really wrong to like someone from another country. so I'm sure that should be fine

but the problem is, 6 months? that's quite long, I don't know how long you know him for, but it's probably more than 6 months. That's actually very long lol. If he likes you, he would have put up the question now, but he didn't, so right now you can assume that he doesn't like you YET.
so what exactly is the joking around bit. I think joking around is really good. coz it makes the fun environment, I don't really get what kind of serious talk you wanna do. Like confessing your feeling? you could just do it now.

I don't think that's the problem though, if he says he like being around you, then that means there's no problem conversation wise. From what i get, he really enjoys being with you.
But anyways, Guys are really simple, but sad. The only thing they care in the opposite gender is looks. Little bit of personality, but you could say that he likes ur personality since he likes being with you.

So looks. Don't get me wrong though, I'm not saying you're ugly lol I don't even know what you looks like.
But guys just have different standards ya know. Some want really pretty ones while some set lower standard. It;s just different really. Sad to say, No matter how great your personality is, if you're not in his standard, he just won't.
And lol, very funny, we are really straightforward. The moment you suddenly become really pretty (within his standard) he will like you straight away lol. NO matter how bad your personality is lol. Funny I know, but that's what guys are

Well I'm not saying you should give up, Still give it a go.
Assume, that he doesn't like you YET. So you still have a chance

Good luck 화이팅! ㅋㅋ

[donporkuloin]

Believe in yourself and go for it. Tell him how you feel, and see what happens?

[kcy]

who cares about what your family thinks lol. I mean, I understand that korean parents and most asians parents actually, want their child to date someone from same country. But I mean, I think that's just for marriage stuff.
My gf is korean and I'm not, and I get along with her parents quite well, so I don't think your parents could be a problem.
Or you could just not tell them lol.

And who cares if you have different friends and stuff, it's not really wrong to like someone from another country. so I'm sure that should be fine

but the problem is, 6 months? that's quite long, I don't know how long you know him for, but it's probably more than 6 months. That's actually very long lol. If he likes you, he would have put up the question now, but he didn't, so right now you can assume that he doesn't like you YET.
so what exactly is the joking around bit. I think joking around is really good. coz it makes the fun environment, I don't really get what kind of serious talk you wanna do. Like confessing your feeling? you could just do it now.

I don't think that's the problem though, if he says he like being around you, then that means there's no problem conversation wise. From what i get, he really enjoys being with you.
But anyways, Guys are really simple, but sad. The only thing they care in the opposite gender is looks. Little bit of personality, but you could say that he likes ur personality since he likes being with you.

So looks. Don't get me wrong though, I'm not saying you're ugly lol I don't even know what you looks like.
But guys just have different standards ya know. Some want really pretty ones while some set lower standard. It;s just different really. Sad to say, No matter how great your personality is, if you're not in his standard, he just won't.
And lol, very funny, we are really straightforward. The moment you suddenly become really pretty (within his standard) he will like you straight away lol. NO matter how bad your personality is lol. Funny I know, but that's what guys are

Well I'm not saying you should give up, Still give it a go.
Assume, that he doesn't like you YET. So you still have a chance

Good luck 화이팅! ㅋㅋ

i said i DON'T care what my parents/family think, because usually when people bring these kind of problems, other people assume they care about what their family thinks. and also, when i stopped liking me a while ago but recently started again. when i did like him though, i did NOT make it obvious AT ALL. you couldn't even have guessed it. more like a fun little crush.