[goomstooms]

I thought my guy friend liked me as more than a friend. I was so sure of it because of the way he was acting. He’d stare at me, he’d blush when we talk, he’d walk me to the library. I asked him to hang out with twice and both times he said yes.
Today I asked him on IM if he felt the same way as I did. Before I did, my friend sent him a message on myspace telling him how I felt and asked if he felt the same about me and didn't get a response from him.

Me: How do you feel about me?
Him: I’m sorry, I only see you as a friend.
Me: Oh, I was getting mixed signals.
Him: I didn’t mean to. Sorry if you misunderstood.
Me: Can we still be friends without it being awkward?
Him: Yeah, haha.

So does he really mean no? Or is he saying no but he means yes?
How can I move on and just be friends with him without those feelings?

[swo0o]

Well.
Some guys really just have a flirty personality.
Sometimes, when they have this sort of personality.. Their intention is not even to be flirty with you.
It's just the way they are, and the way they communicate.
I mean, if he was like. touching your ass, or asking about you being single.. That's a whole different story.
You just need to accept the way he is..


One thing to do :
Don't expect anything.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

One thing to do :
Don't expect anything.

I think that's really true

Guys are so simple. Either they like you or they don't. It takes 1 minute for a guy to like a girl while it takes 1 month for a girl to like a guy. And yes, I'm saying that, It all comes down to looks.
If he finds you attractive, then he'll like you. If he doesn't, then he just doesn't.

I'm not saying you're ugly, but guys have different standards.

Guys don't care less about your personality, unless you are really bad. Really good doesn't help anything.
If there's a girl who is pretty and have an average personality VS an average girl with Good and fun personality, guys would pick girl 1.

I know it's cruel, but that's just the way we are.

So does he really mean no? Or is he saying no but he means yes?

don't really get what you mean... but.. do you mean still being friends? or he likes you?
About being friends, he'll still be your friend, probably.
About him liking you, as of now, no. You clearly stated your feeling, why the hell would he say no if he likes you lol.

well all the best anyway

[insanelyCRAZY]

he's just flirting.
flirting is fun.
dont mind it.
only your feelings toward him should matter. lol

[d a y.b r e a k]

flirting for fun.
><; it hurts others sometimes. but its amusing .

[kumadana]

i hate when that happens
i;m pretty sure he;s being serious and that he only likes you as a friend :/

buck up!

[Pogichinoy]

I thought my guy friend liked me as more than a friend. I was so sure of it because of the way he was acting. He'd stare at me, he'd blush when we talk, he'd walk me to the library. I asked him to hang out with twice and both times he said yes.
Today I asked him on IM if he felt the same way as I did. Before I did, my friend sent him a message on myspace telling him how I felt and asked if he felt the same about me and didn't get a response from him.

So does he really mean no? Or is he saying no but he means yes?
How can I move on and just be friends with him without those feelings?

Your guy friend possibly didn't realise he was flirting and thought it was normal for him. Depends on how you ask him out and if you made it clear that you two were exclusive.

But he made it clear that he just sees you as a friend.

[Angxizzle]

guys are pretty blunt when they say they only like you as a friend, so i say dont get your hopes up. alot of my guy friends are really flirty like that too.

[eastsea_sarang]

that's just how some guys are.one of my guy friend's is REALLY flirtatious and slick to the max.but i know that's just how he is so i've never seen him anything more than a friend xD

sometimes, you have to realize the nature of some guys and not get hyped up/overanalyze such things that they might do =/

[ly*chee]

LOL. I have a guy friend who has this overly flirtatious personality.
And he admits it. I've had several friends fall for him. (And think he likes them too)
But he has no feelings whatsoever towards them.
I'm pretty sure that guy really does mean no.

They don't usually hide things like that.

[MaryMagdalin]

unfortunately, if i was single i would be able to flirt without any feelings too.
thats how people are. although with the other signals he gave off its a bit strange he only sees you as a friend.

[greenana]

It hurts to read the truth
but he only like you as a friend, nothing more than that.
Don't be sad. You can find someone way better.
And it really sucks when someone
play with your feelings like that
even though it was not their intention.
I hope you feel better.
=)=)=)=)=)=)=)=)=)=)!!!

[d00lie]

lol. i usually just read on this thread now but i had to respond.

i actually have a really really similar experience as you. except this happened last year and he told me at one point, he liked me, but he wasn't ready for a relationship (and then later he told me he wanted to be friends). i think it depends on the guys' personality. like is ur guy friend flirty to other girls? is he outgoing and etc. i mean in my experience, he is really shy, has little experience with girls (basically never dated) and stuff like that so for me, i haven't been able to let him go b/c i still feel like there is something?

but i feel like u would know it best b/c well, compared to everyone online, u know the guy. :] but i would say that don't have too much of a high hope and if you don't want to let go of him, don't. But if you are unsure, i would also try looking for other guys too.

whatever u choose though, gl! :]

[lovetoday.]

been there, done that.
i've learn to not keep my hopes up & not to expect anything.

--

yes, i agree with everyone the truth does hurt! x(
it's annoying how they flirt yet they don't even notice they are

[L.FOR.LOVE]

that happened to me ish
sometimes thre might be like .. a reason behind it ?
for me, he said it`s not that he hates me, bur some stuff is happning in his family and he doesn't want me invovled so yeah O_O

[TDKSJ]

i dislike guys like that T T leading grls on when in fact they feel nothing and they dno't realize that the girl is liking them T Taish!!
don't fall in too deep anymore ^^ keep it as friends and don't ever let him flirt with you T T believe me.

[shudder_V]

Hmm...I've been guilty of that plenty of times! It's just in my nature to be overly friendly with girls also I'm just a cool/calm guy and I usually "flirt" with everyone but that's how I usually act with girls I've known before...it's kinda weird or awkward to change that style when you're meeting someone new..

[idiotsucks]

erm...
from your brief description above..
I feel that this guy..
mayb he just didnt realize he is being over
erm...
close to you?
which leads you to fall into missunderstanding pool
hmmm..
as long as he does not behave weirdly when you talk with him
everything will be okay
just smile along no matter what
everything will be fine as long as he doesnt show any awkward response
= )

[mintcracker]

lol guys and their flirtatious ways
been there, done that

life ain't fair so be strong and move on.

[0908]

One thing to do :
Don't expect anything.

I agree.

Haha it seems like flirting is most common way to actually get to know people around LOL~