[hypekstatic]

So I'm 21.... soon

and I realized that even though I live away from my parents, and have actually lived away from them
since I was 16...... I can't fend for myself very well.
My mom lives close to me, thankfully, or else I wouldn't know how to function.

When I'm at my mom's house (which is practically like every other day) she is my slave.
She cooks for me, she does laundry, washes the dishes, vacuums, gives me water when I ask her to, etc.

Now I know this isn't really abnormal, but the more I think about it I'm like, "damn.... I completely fail at life!"
It's normal for parents to cater to their kids, especially if they don't have very many kids, but seriously, my mom does
EVERYTHING for me, plus I think she is way too lenient sometimes it scares me.
Even though I ring up $400 phone bills...... she just yells a little but never tells me I have to pay for it.
I've seen my Asian friend's parents and let me tell you, seeing them talk to my friends makes me want to
hide behind mommy's back and cower in fear.

You would think living off on my own I would learn something? But no.
I think if I was even slightly mentally off, I would drop everythiing and become one of the many Souther California pandhandlers.
A hobo basically.

"damn.... i fail at life!"



[EDIT]
Can you people stop taking this post so seriously?
It's supposed to be a bit EXAGGERATED.
I am a 20 year old college student that lives on her own.
Yes, I'm a GIRL..... and my life away from my mom's house is
completely independent, except i do admit i cant cook for crap.
only when i am AT her house does she do everything for me and thats only
about twice a week (i know i said like everyday, but i was exaggerating... i dont have time to do that even if i wanted to)
but basically she still treats me like a little kid, which most parents dont do.
I consider myself lucky and I love my mom, so stop trippin out.
GOOD GRIEF.

[masturyan]

Yup, that's pretty fail, but you still have lots of years left to change/grow up/become independent...if you want to be.

[HtyPotter]

eh, you're still young. But you should probably start taking baby steps soon.

[koneee]

And that is why you just don't sit there and make a thread about this.
You grow some manly balls and start doing your own laundry, cook, clean and be INDEPENDENT!
You can't expect your parents to be there for you forever, unexpected shifts in life happen sometime and you always have to be prepared for the worst in case if anything happens.

And personally, it's a bit of a turn-off to find a guy who doesn't even know how to take care of himself.
So shape up! Watch how your mom cooks and cleans after you and learn from her. My parents went on so many vacation trips without me that that I basically learned how to live on my own. Heck, they also made me do chores ever since I was little so they taught me well.. I can live without my parents if I wanted to .

[masturyan]

And that is why you just don't sit there and make a thread about this.
You grow some manly balls and start doing your own laundry, cook, clean and be INDEPENDENT!
You can't expect your parents to be there for you forever, unexpected shifts in life happen sometime and you always have to be prepared for the worst in case if anything happens.

And personally, it's a bit of a turn-off to find a guy who doesn't even know how to take care of himself.
So shape up! Watch how your mom cooks and cleans after you and learn from her. My parents went on so many vacation trips without me that that I basically learned how to live on my own. Heck, they also made me do chores ever since I was little so they taught me well.. I can live without my parents if I wanted to .

She's not a guy though.

[little mixed girl]

so, uhh...do your own cooking and cleaning?
what's the point of coming on the forum and making a post about it?
i'm not going to cry about it, you obviously don't care enough to change, so what's the point of the thread?

[Raito!]

ya my parent does the same, its pretty niceeee hahaha

dont worry, as long as you have a job, thats good enough.

you can hire a personal butler xD for 7bux in hr lol when you dont want her to do it anymore

[Laxntiga]

Wow.... you make me feel like I got shafted out of some milking years...

I'm 23

Are you a boy or girl?

[Pogichinoy]

Look on the bright side, since you fail at life, someone will take your place and succeed.

yosh~!

[derrek]

$400 phone bill = girl

[mikomi]

^ lol!!


Well I haven't lived at home for 6 years and I just moved back for family reasons-but not your kind. I feel so damn weird like my space is constantly being invaded when my mom tries to do stuff. It makes me want to scream, but I said I would stay with them for at least a year so I'm STUCK. I was STUCk before and now im 23 and STUCk again. You should be lucky you don't feel this way- I've been independent my whole life and having someone dictate what I eat and where my stuff goes...not boding too well right now.

[e00z]

i feel sorry for your mom

ps. i like the song in your myspace

[je_amourx]

Well, the first step to solving a problem is acknowleding it. So congrats on that part! Now, get off your booty and start living life girl!

Man I've learned how to do laundry, dishes, etc since I was 10 .....

[Chakura]

wow that is kinda bad...buit at least you acknowledge it and know that its not a good thing.

You could start to slowly ease a way from your parents and do things on your own ie cook or maybe washes the dishes...little stuff and then you can basically ween yourself off. Also you prolly should cute down your visits to your mom place, and when you do help her out ie do landuray with her or wash the dishes.

I rem i started cooking for my mom at like maybe 11-12ish ( i made some very dry scramble eggs lol), I started landary at 13 and i've been washing dishes ever since i could stand..i did my lil sis baby bottles. It also helped that once I live at college I ded everything myslef and it wasn't as bad as some ppl since i could cook and clean. Plus my mom scares me so i usally do what she wants lol

[Meenuh]

Sheesh I wish my mom was like that. She's been making us do the laundry, make rice, clean, vacuum all that good stuff for as long as I can remember. I mean, don't get me wrong .. she still does stuff just not as much as yours does. lol.

[Tuxedomask]

You ask your own mom to get you water? Dude you should've started getting HER water at the age of 12.

[Myss Blewm]

Wow, my life is half and half. For as long as I can remember I've helped clean the house, make rice, do my own laundry, cook my own food, etc. But on the other hand, when I get into financial pickles, my parents will not hesitate to help me out though I'd get a big lecture along with it. It's been a long time since I've had to go to my parents for helping me pay for stuff, as well as the fact that I HATE asking them for money. So I guess I'm not as bad as you. But the fact of the matter is, at least you know you fail. The best thing you can do to be less fail is ask your mom to start teaching you to take care of yourself. Like some people have said, there might come a time when situations change and you might have to end up taking care of your mom. How bad would you feel if you couldn't cook your mom a nice warm meal? Or if by some terrible misfortune they fall into a big financial pit and ask you to help them pay some bills?

[HERMIT]

$400 phone bill = girl

But:
$400 phone bill = phone sex = guy

[precious4e]

My mom is actually like that too. But I live on my own while in school so I do all my cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping myself. But when i'm home i'm like a bum. My mom does most the cleaning but she doesn't cook so I usually fend for myself for food lol. My sister is the same way. Embarrassing I know but at least I have a good paying job.....

[lost!gnecco]

Up until I left for college, my mom did a lot of the laundry, cooking and cleaning (I did help out the laundry and cleaning though!) because she saw it that I needed my time to study and be a good kid for college. Little did she know that what she did was enough to get me into college, but it didn't help me when I lived independent in college :[ I only live 2 hours away from my family, but I've learned to do all the things my mom does, albeit half the neatness and prettiness she puts into her endeavors.

If you feel bad about, learn to do it yourself. Never to late to learn how to cook I think the most rewarding experience was learning how to cook on my own. Gave me the feeling of "Awesomness!!! I can cook edible goods for myself!" although it the food didn't come out well the first try. Always the third time, the fourth time until I got it right.