My parents are unfair to me. They always say no to me. My sister gets whatever she wants..its like my parents are intimidated by her and don't want her to be mad at them. Whenever i ask for things they say no to me. I can't talk to them about how i feel because talking to them is complicated.. if you start crying they will make fun of you and laugh and try to get you to cry more..
for example.. i wanted to get my haircut and thought we were goin yesterday but than my mom said she was too tired which is always her excuse for everything when i ask.. so she said we could go today and than this morning she told me that i cant go but she took my sister.
Another example is when my sister got her license .. my mom took her to drive right away.. when i ask she says "im too tired" i got my license in september and havent gotten to drive yet. My mom works late shifts and i understand that.. but how is it that she has time for my sister but not me..everytime i ask her to go somewhere or for something "I'm too tired" is her excuse.
Im the middle child.
My Parents Are Being Unfair. Help!? I feel like crying..nonstop
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Posted 18 November 2008 - 02:21 PM
I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't want to say this but seems like she favor your sister over you.
It's hard to reason with them too since they're your parents.
It's hard to reason with them too since they're your parents.
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Posted 18 November 2008 - 02:23 PM
Are you the older one?
Try to discuss it with her, maybe it's really not on purpose.
Try to discuss it with her, maybe it's really not on purpose.
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Posted 18 November 2008 - 02:34 PM
Regardless of how parents say they do not favor a child over another, it is not true. There are always a bit of favoring in each family.
I come from a family of three children, and I am the middle child. I am the outcast, and I am treated unfairly by everyone.
My younger brother, who is about six to seven years younger than me, gets to do whatever he wants, and he gets whatever he wants.
Like I was not allowed to sleep over until I was in grade twelve, whereas my brother was allowed to since elementary school.
He has better and more expensive things than me, like his cell phone and mp3. He swears at me, and he does not get into any trouble at all.
Insults are always thrown at me, especially at the dinner table, and when I retort back and say that he is disrespectful, I am the one responsible for the argument.
My older sister is older than me by a year and five months, and the way my parents treat her is different from me.
When I need advice from them, my parents don't listen much and tell me to talk to my sister because she is smarter than me.
Most of the stuff I get are handed down by her, and if my dad wants to buy something, say a new mp3, she gets it when mines is broken.
She will get the new one, while I will get the old one unless she is used to the new one and does not want to switch anymore.
Even with clothes, she has probably five baskets filled with clothing, and her closest is bigger than mines.
As a result, I have the tendency to borrow or take her old clothing since she has too much to even notice.
The reason for being mistreated is that I am not a good student. I don't do well in school and I am not "mature" enough.
For heavens sake, my dad is still around, but when I look at the past, till now, I never had a "dad" before.
The only time where I felt like I had a "dad" was when he pissed off my brother when he attacked him physically.
Except for that week, he treats me like I am not part of the family, and he clearly lets me know how much he hates me and wants me gone.
He has said stuff about hoping that I was dead and that stupid people like me do not deserve to live or be treated like a human being.
I turned twenty years old right now, and before I was sixteen, he wanted me out of the house.
Nowadays, he wishes I will just become pregnant and marry off to some unknown guy so I do not have to be in the house anymore T.T
He complains that I do not do well in school, and yet, he loves to annoy me when I try to study.
For instance, he will turn up the volume when he is watching the movie, and he will not turn it down until I yell at him at least four times.
He tries to control what I eat, too, or he checks on how I am eating because he expects me to eat the way he does.
Like if there is a dipping sauce, and I choose something else, he will keep on telling me try all of the different sauces.
Or like a few days ago, we were eating lobster, and I came across a piece that was hard to eat. But I finished it.
When I placed the shell onto the plate, he poked his head over to my side of the table and said, "Let me see if you finished all of it".
It was very tempting to say, "If I didn't finish it, what will you do?" or "Yes, I finished it. Now, do you want to like all the sauce off the shell?"
My mom and I take all the frustrations he get at work, as well as from my other siblings.
For instance, my sister has the tendency to make people wait for as long as two hours for her to get to where they are planning to meet.
When that happens, my dad starts bashing her and saying how he will make her wait from now on (to my mom and/or I).
But once she enters the car, he will pretend that nothing happened and he will laugh away as though she was there on time.
I am not even allowed to talk without my dad's permission. He is a yapper, so he never ever stops talking.
Like the time when we were in the car and he was talking to my sister, and my mom and I were in the back talking.
All of a sudden, he tells me to shut the hell up because I was being annoying when they were having a conversation in the front.
I forgot what I said, so I ignored him because I was pissed off, and stopped talking.
He waits for a few seconds and says how I am so annoying and that if I wanted to talk, I have lost my opportunity T.T
I come from a family of three children, and I am the middle child. I am the outcast, and I am treated unfairly by everyone.
My younger brother, who is about six to seven years younger than me, gets to do whatever he wants, and he gets whatever he wants.
Like I was not allowed to sleep over until I was in grade twelve, whereas my brother was allowed to since elementary school.
He has better and more expensive things than me, like his cell phone and mp3. He swears at me, and he does not get into any trouble at all.
Insults are always thrown at me, especially at the dinner table, and when I retort back and say that he is disrespectful, I am the one responsible for the argument.
My older sister is older than me by a year and five months, and the way my parents treat her is different from me.
When I need advice from them, my parents don't listen much and tell me to talk to my sister because she is smarter than me.
Most of the stuff I get are handed down by her, and if my dad wants to buy something, say a new mp3, she gets it when mines is broken.
She will get the new one, while I will get the old one unless she is used to the new one and does not want to switch anymore.
Even with clothes, she has probably five baskets filled with clothing, and her closest is bigger than mines.
As a result, I have the tendency to borrow or take her old clothing since she has too much to even notice.
The reason for being mistreated is that I am not a good student. I don't do well in school and I am not "mature" enough.
For heavens sake, my dad is still around, but when I look at the past, till now, I never had a "dad" before.
The only time where I felt like I had a "dad" was when he pissed off my brother when he attacked him physically.
Except for that week, he treats me like I am not part of the family, and he clearly lets me know how much he hates me and wants me gone.
He has said stuff about hoping that I was dead and that stupid people like me do not deserve to live or be treated like a human being.
I turned twenty years old right now, and before I was sixteen, he wanted me out of the house.
Nowadays, he wishes I will just become pregnant and marry off to some unknown guy so I do not have to be in the house anymore T.T
He complains that I do not do well in school, and yet, he loves to annoy me when I try to study.
For instance, he will turn up the volume when he is watching the movie, and he will not turn it down until I yell at him at least four times.
He tries to control what I eat, too, or he checks on how I am eating because he expects me to eat the way he does.
Like if there is a dipping sauce, and I choose something else, he will keep on telling me try all of the different sauces.
Or like a few days ago, we were eating lobster, and I came across a piece that was hard to eat. But I finished it.
When I placed the shell onto the plate, he poked his head over to my side of the table and said, "Let me see if you finished all of it".
It was very tempting to say, "If I didn't finish it, what will you do?" or "Yes, I finished it. Now, do you want to like all the sauce off the shell?"
My mom and I take all the frustrations he get at work, as well as from my other siblings.
For instance, my sister has the tendency to make people wait for as long as two hours for her to get to where they are planning to meet.
When that happens, my dad starts bashing her and saying how he will make her wait from now on (to my mom and/or I).
But once she enters the car, he will pretend that nothing happened and he will laugh away as though she was there on time.
I am not even allowed to talk without my dad's permission. He is a yapper, so he never ever stops talking.
Like the time when we were in the car and he was talking to my sister, and my mom and I were in the back talking.
All of a sudden, he tells me to shut the hell up because I was being annoying when they were having a conversation in the front.
I forgot what I said, so I ignored him because I was pissed off, and stopped talking.
He waits for a few seconds and says how I am so annoying and that if I wanted to talk, I have lost my opportunity T.T
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Posted 18 November 2008 - 02:48 PM
QUOTE (damyoungji @ Nov 18 2008, 05:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Regardless of how parents say they do not favor a child over another, it is not true. There are always a bit of favoring in each family.
I come from a family of three children, and I am the middle child. I am the outcast, and I am treated unfairly by everyone.
My younger brother, who is about six to seven years younger than me, gets to do whatever he wants, and he gets whatever he wants.
Like I was not allowed to sleep over until I was in grade twelve, whereas my brother was allowed to since elementary school.
He has better and more expensive things than me, like his cell phone and mp3. He swears at me, and he does not get into any trouble at all.
Insults are always thrown at me, especially at the dinner table, and when I retort back and say that he is disrespectful, I am the one responsible for the argument.
My older sister is older than me by a year and five months, and the way my parents treat her is different from me.
When I need advice from them, my parents don't listen much and tell me to talk to my sister because she is smarter than me.
Most of the stuff I get are handed down by her, and if my dad wants to buy something, say a new mp3, she gets it when mines is broken.
She will get the new one, while I will get the old one unless she is used to the new one and does not want to switch anymore.
Even with clothes, she has probably five baskets filled with clothing, and her closest is bigger than mines.
As a result, I have the tendency to borrow or take her old clothing since she has too much to even notice.
The reason for being mistreated is that I am not a good student. I don't do well in school and I am not "mature" enough.
For heavens sake, my dad is still around, but when I look at the past, till now, I never had a "dad" before.
The only time where I felt like I had a "dad" was when he pissed off my brother when he attacked him physically.
Except for that week, he treats me like I am not part of the family, and he clearly lets me know how much he hates me and wants me gone.
He has said stuff about hoping that I was dead and that stupid people like me do not deserve to live or be treated like a human being.
I turned twenty years old right now, and before I was sixteen, he wanted me out of the house.
Nowadays, he wishes I will just become pregnant and marry off to some unknown guy so I do not have to be in the house anymore T.T
He complains that I do not do well in school, and yet, he loves to annoy me when I try to study.
For instance, he will turn up the volume when he is watching the movie, and he will not turn it down until I yell at him at least four times.
He tries to control what I eat, too, or he checks on how I am eating because he expects me to eat the way he does.
Like if there is a dipping sauce, and I choose something else, he will keep on telling me try all of the different sauces.
Or like a few days ago, we were eating lobster, and I came across a piece that was hard to eat. But I finished it.
When I placed the shell onto the plate, he poked his head over to my side of the table and said, "Let me see if you finished all of it".
It was very tempting to say, "If I didn't finish it, what will you do?" or "Yes, I finished it. Now, do you want to like all the sauce off the shell?"
My mom and I take all the frustrations he get at work, as well as from my other siblings.
For instance, my sister has the tendency to make people wait for as long as two hours for her to get to where they are planning to meet.
When that happens, my dad starts bashing her and saying how he will make her wait from now on (to my mom and/or I).
But once she enters the car, he will pretend that nothing happened and he will laugh away as though she was there on time.
I am not even allowed to talk without my dad's permission. He is a yapper, so he never ever stops talking.
Like the time when we were in the car and he was talking to my sister, and my mom and I were in the back talking.
All of a sudden, he tells me to shut the hell up because I was being annoying when they were having a conversation in the front.
I forgot what I said, so I ignored him because I was pissed off, and stopped talking.
He waits for a few seconds and says how I am so annoying and that if I wanted to talk, I have lost my opportunity T.T
I come from a family of three children, and I am the middle child. I am the outcast, and I am treated unfairly by everyone.
My younger brother, who is about six to seven years younger than me, gets to do whatever he wants, and he gets whatever he wants.
Like I was not allowed to sleep over until I was in grade twelve, whereas my brother was allowed to since elementary school.
He has better and more expensive things than me, like his cell phone and mp3. He swears at me, and he does not get into any trouble at all.
Insults are always thrown at me, especially at the dinner table, and when I retort back and say that he is disrespectful, I am the one responsible for the argument.
My older sister is older than me by a year and five months, and the way my parents treat her is different from me.
When I need advice from them, my parents don't listen much and tell me to talk to my sister because she is smarter than me.
Most of the stuff I get are handed down by her, and if my dad wants to buy something, say a new mp3, she gets it when mines is broken.
She will get the new one, while I will get the old one unless she is used to the new one and does not want to switch anymore.
Even with clothes, she has probably five baskets filled with clothing, and her closest is bigger than mines.
As a result, I have the tendency to borrow or take her old clothing since she has too much to even notice.
The reason for being mistreated is that I am not a good student. I don't do well in school and I am not "mature" enough.
For heavens sake, my dad is still around, but when I look at the past, till now, I never had a "dad" before.
The only time where I felt like I had a "dad" was when he pissed off my brother when he attacked him physically.
Except for that week, he treats me like I am not part of the family, and he clearly lets me know how much he hates me and wants me gone.
He has said stuff about hoping that I was dead and that stupid people like me do not deserve to live or be treated like a human being.
I turned twenty years old right now, and before I was sixteen, he wanted me out of the house.
Nowadays, he wishes I will just become pregnant and marry off to some unknown guy so I do not have to be in the house anymore T.T
He complains that I do not do well in school, and yet, he loves to annoy me when I try to study.
For instance, he will turn up the volume when he is watching the movie, and he will not turn it down until I yell at him at least four times.
He tries to control what I eat, too, or he checks on how I am eating because he expects me to eat the way he does.
Like if there is a dipping sauce, and I choose something else, he will keep on telling me try all of the different sauces.
Or like a few days ago, we were eating lobster, and I came across a piece that was hard to eat. But I finished it.
When I placed the shell onto the plate, he poked his head over to my side of the table and said, "Let me see if you finished all of it".
It was very tempting to say, "If I didn't finish it, what will you do?" or "Yes, I finished it. Now, do you want to like all the sauce off the shell?"
My mom and I take all the frustrations he get at work, as well as from my other siblings.
For instance, my sister has the tendency to make people wait for as long as two hours for her to get to where they are planning to meet.
When that happens, my dad starts bashing her and saying how he will make her wait from now on (to my mom and/or I).
But once she enters the car, he will pretend that nothing happened and he will laugh away as though she was there on time.
I am not even allowed to talk without my dad's permission. He is a yapper, so he never ever stops talking.
Like the time when we were in the car and he was talking to my sister, and my mom and I were in the back talking.
All of a sudden, he tells me to shut the hell up because I was being annoying when they were having a conversation in the front.
I forgot what I said, so I ignored him because I was pissed off, and stopped talking.
He waits for a few seconds and says how I am so annoying and that if I wanted to talk, I have lost my opportunity T.T
im treated like that all the time... but im the older and oldest one.... i dont know i just kinda gave up trying to please them at this point and just decided that ill tough it out one more year and then go to college far away and never come back, maybe to do laundry but even then, only when they're not around. loll i dont think ignoring them or distancing yourself from them (like i did) is the best approach tho..
try talking to her? tell her how it annoys you if being soft toned doesnt work and its a serious matter, then trying asserting yourself and telling them forcefully how unfair you think it is. i never tried and im always going to think that they wont listen, but you nevre know, they might. they're still your parents and they still love you
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Posted 18 November 2008 - 03:20 PM
I hate that..happens to me too, and yeah; it's hella frustrating. Like my sister is able to do anything she wants, but my mum still treats me like a 'baby' since I'm the youngest. More often than not, it's just a way for parents to 'protect' their children. But then again, every family is different.
I'd recommend talking to her about it if it's really affecting you & making you sad like that.
I'd recommend talking to her about it if it's really affecting you & making you sad like that.
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Posted 18 November 2008 - 03:37 PM
Yea my friend has her parents favouring her siblings over.
And it's like obvious.
Like they visibly give higher allowances (no its not an age difference thing) to the older sibling, and not as much to the younger one. Etc.
Their curfews, what they're allowed to do at home.
Sometimes, ... there's not much you can do.
Have you talked to your parents about it? =/
I recommend you do,
even if
a: They may just simply deny it
b: nothing would change after
but maybe it would, yknow> just try
honestly my parents do not make fun of me when i cry, o.o
thats crazy.
And it's like obvious.
Like they visibly give higher allowances (no its not an age difference thing) to the older sibling, and not as much to the younger one. Etc.
Their curfews, what they're allowed to do at home.
Sometimes, ... there's not much you can do.
Have you talked to your parents about it? =/
I recommend you do,
even if
a: They may just simply deny it
b: nothing would change after
but maybe it would, yknow> just try
honestly my parents do not make fun of me when i cry, o.o
thats crazy.
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Posted 18 November 2008 - 04:21 PM
skipping my own family story.
-you can either go emo on them. making them realise you don't have it as good as they think you do.
"what friends? i never go out, I'm always at home, and i come to the computer just for fun - and you two bag mini cooper about me being on the computer not being good for me. " rofl.
-scare them. disappear or show them your ...angry side.
-provide a casual talk about how they treat you. _ most recommended..
the aim is to just enlighten them of what you are to them.
_ o_O' of course.. we all go through this strange turbulent relationship with our parents through teenage years.
x_x' and i would try my best not to take my parents too seriously if they were trying to mess with me. even if they are my parents. ==' it's hard..
-you can either go emo on them. making them realise you don't have it as good as they think you do.
"what friends? i never go out, I'm always at home, and i come to the computer just for fun - and you two bag mini cooper about me being on the computer not being good for me. " rofl.
-scare them. disappear or show them your ...angry side.
-provide a casual talk about how they treat you. _ most recommended..
the aim is to just enlighten them of what you are to them.
_ o_O' of course.. we all go through this strange turbulent relationship with our parents through teenage years.
x_x' and i would try my best not to take my parents too seriously if they were trying to mess with me. even if they are my parents. ==' it's hard..
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Posted 18 November 2008 - 04:28 PM
aw , i know parents dont say it , but most parents favor children X:
i know my parents favor the middle child . you just have to have thick skin . make sure criticism doesnt hurt you so much .
i know my parents favor the middle child . you just have to have thick skin . make sure criticism doesnt hurt you so much .
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Posted 18 November 2008 - 04:44 PM
I feel that way too, I always think that my parents favor my younger brother more because when we get into arguements I am always the one wrong and gets yelled at regardless of who is wrong ... but one day I heard my brother crying to my parents (he's ten) on how he is treated so unfairly, I always get the expensive phones, mp3, clothes, shoes, then I realized that I really got it goood compared to my brother and my other cousins (they are treated far worse than you, trust me). SO you might think you are being treated unequally, your other sibling might think so too.
Most parents have a favorite child even if they said they don't, it's just the way it goes.
I think you have to have a talk with you're parents, tell them how you feel and don't be intimidated, they're only your parents, they won't bite you.
If that doesn't work, then do what I do ... temper tanturm and make sure you cry, cry buckets. Make sure you don't over do it, and that is if everything fails. LOL
but don't feel sad, there are far worse things in life
Most parents have a favorite child even if they said they don't, it's just the way it goes.
I think you have to have a talk with you're parents, tell them how you feel and don't be intimidated, they're only your parents, they won't bite you.
If that doesn't work, then do what I do ... temper tanturm and make sure you cry, cry buckets. Make sure you don't over do it, and that is if everything fails. LOL
but don't feel sad, there are far worse things in life
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Posted 18 November 2008 - 04:50 PM
She loves u really! ..
parents are like that.. it doesnt mean they dont love u.. they just like that!
my parents would say no to me too.. they respect my sister more.. because my sister is more independent and reliable.. compare to me.. i rely on my parents for things! ..
if they think your been good! they will give u more attention! why dont u do things for the family! like cleaning, and stuff..
parents are like that.. it doesnt mean they dont love u.. they just like that!
my parents would say no to me too.. they respect my sister more.. because my sister is more independent and reliable.. compare to me.. i rely on my parents for things! ..
if they think your been good! they will give u more attention! why dont u do things for the family! like cleaning, and stuff..
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Posted 18 November 2008 - 06:23 PM
TT^TT reading this makes me depressed!!!
I feel bad for u guys... but i still believe parents dont favour a sibling consciously...
My argument is that...for example...parents usually let the youngest one hv everything they want....or the opposite, they're over-cautious/strict...
Its hard to confront ur parents directly... and i think its kinda a lack of respect...
But its soooo unfair to u...
I actually think i'd confront them directly (sorry for contradicting myself)...
Tell them....Its Not Fcuking Fair... If it continues like this im gonna move out...U favour them more...AM SICK OF IT!!!
This will probably give them smth to think + reflect...
I feel bad for u guys... but i still believe parents dont favour a sibling consciously...
My argument is that...for example...parents usually let the youngest one hv everything they want....or the opposite, they're over-cautious/strict...
Its hard to confront ur parents directly... and i think its kinda a lack of respect...
But its soooo unfair to u...
I actually think i'd confront them directly (sorry for contradicting myself)...
Tell them....Its Not Fcuking Fair... If it continues like this im gonna move out...U favour them more...AM SICK OF IT!!!
This will probably give them smth to think + reflect...
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Posted 19 November 2008 - 06:18 AM
Yeah, that is really unfair. Confront your mom and talk to her. Both you and her sister are her daughter, and she shouldn't favor her THAT much more than you.
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Posted 19 November 2008 - 07:06 AM
ditto
the same the same with me...I am the 1st child and I have one younger brother
I was pissed...sometimes I also feel a little bit pissed...eg he got a Samsung Omnia phone, an expensive one and he is still 14....both my dad and mom favour him since small and I got the blame for almost everything. The way they yelled at my brother is way way different then I was younger, I got yelled like there was no tomorrow but with my younger brother they were yelling but not too loud or sounding that they were mad. He has the freedom that I have never had
but to see at the other view, all those yellings are actually good because it is part of your lesson of life, honestly now I am not scared of anyone but my mom hhh....
another side story, the other day my mom complaining that my brother's studies was getting not that good, then out of the blue I said 'because you never get angry to him, you never yelled at him etc etc' then I guess from that she realised although she denied I told her because I knew
it is not mistreated or whatsoever...you just see from another view...you will see the difference when you are in the society aka working
the same the same with me...I am the 1st child and I have one younger brother
I was pissed...sometimes I also feel a little bit pissed...eg he got a Samsung Omnia phone, an expensive one and he is still 14....both my dad and mom favour him since small and I got the blame for almost everything. The way they yelled at my brother is way way different then I was younger, I got yelled like there was no tomorrow but with my younger brother they were yelling but not too loud or sounding that they were mad. He has the freedom that I have never had
but to see at the other view, all those yellings are actually good because it is part of your lesson of life, honestly now I am not scared of anyone but my mom hhh....
another side story, the other day my mom complaining that my brother's studies was getting not that good, then out of the blue I said 'because you never get angry to him, you never yelled at him etc etc' then I guess from that she realised although she denied I told her because I knew
it is not mistreated or whatsoever...you just see from another view...you will see the difference when you are in the society aka working
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Posted 20 November 2008 - 08:13 PM
well im a bit of a rebel. lol if i was in that situation id make it clear to my parents that I DO exist. I feel sorry for you =[ yeah... its sorta hard talking to your parents about this since its kinda disrespectful... I mean my grandparents treat me like this. But hey you can always wait till you are 18 and move out and not ahve to deal with them anymore lol
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Posted 20 November 2008 - 08:14 PM
I don't care how my parents treat me, I'm leaving as soon as I can.
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Posted 21 November 2008 - 12:43 AM
Uhm. I'm a middle child too. 2 older sisters, 1 younger.
O_O;; I thought that before too, you know. The unfairness.
But then, I'm all shocked when I finally get the attention I've always wanted. And it's kind of weird.
And I've developed this non-openness towards my parents. Like, they would never expect me to give them a hug or a kiss.
While my older sister does it. I don't. And that's fine with me.
I guess I adapted to it. As long as I could easily really do what I have to do, and they only expect me to keep up with school and chores.
I'm alright. I guess, the only unfair thing now..is when they compare my boyfriend with my older sister's perfect boyfriend.
HAHAHA. Like, ohkay, I can't live up to her, and the set expectations. Yeah. D: Never did.
=\. You could tell your mother. Haha, the whole: "Aw honey, don't feel that way" only lasts for like 5 minutes of the drama though.
O_O;; I thought that before too, you know. The unfairness.
But then, I'm all shocked when I finally get the attention I've always wanted. And it's kind of weird.
And I've developed this non-openness towards my parents. Like, they would never expect me to give them a hug or a kiss.
While my older sister does it. I don't. And that's fine with me.
I guess I adapted to it. As long as I could easily really do what I have to do, and they only expect me to keep up with school and chores.
I'm alright. I guess, the only unfair thing now..is when they compare my boyfriend with my older sister's perfect boyfriend.
HAHAHA. Like, ohkay, I can't live up to her, and the set expectations. Yeah. D: Never did.
=\. You could tell your mother. Haha, the whole: "Aw honey, don't feel that way" only lasts for like 5 minutes of the drama though.
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Posted 21 November 2008 - 02:57 AM
Wow... I read this entire thread. I think I'm blessed to be in a Christian family. I can honestly say that my parents try very hard to be good parents. Even though they have more than one child in the family, they treat them all with love. There is a huge age gap between my brother and me and I know, and my Mum even admits, she was not so good with my brother... but instead of being afraid to hurt my brother's feelings through parenting me better, she made sure that she loved each of her children as much as she can like Christ. I don't think she favours one child over the other. I know we both feel very loved. I think it's the beauty of true love. When we make God's love our rolemodel for love... then it works out!
I will pray to God for all of you and your family. I hope you can have a great family relationship and experience love at its truest.
I will pray to God for all of you and your family. I hope you can have a great family relationship and experience love at its truest.
