[xSuicidal Lovex]

Honestly, now a days the words "I love you" has been
tossed around a lot. Like it's okay to say it around your
friends but like... How i look at it is... I'm currently in a new
relationship and you know how you get that feeling if you
say "I love you" to them that it may be to sudden for them
and they might kind of push you away?

Has anyone else felt like that?

[Eijiro]

I think that's because people all have a different idea of what exactly love is. They may be naive or childish ideas of love, but that doesn't mean they're necessarily wrong.

[Tuxedomask]

It depends on the context in which the word is used

[j'★dore]

Even though it does get 'tossed around', I think that the important thing is the way in which you say it, and the situation in which you apply it. The fact that it can be used for so many different situations doesn't mean that the word loses any of its meaning.

[linny]

Wait, so let me get this straight. You think "I love you" is used too loosely these days. So, you think if you say "I love you" too soon in a new relationship, your partner will push you away? Is that it?

If this is just a question of the general use of "I love you", I think it's a lot harder to throw the phrase around once you actually experience what it feels like to love someone. Suddenly, those words that used to have a very abstract meaning don't seem quite adequate to describe that very real, very personal emotion you feel towards another person. Then again, I don't think it's necessarily bad that people use "I love you" a lot. They're just words. The actions and trust that is built in a relationship is what gives them meaning, and at the end of the day, it is the actions that ultimately count.

If it's about your partner freaking out, use your best judgment. If your partner seems like a commitment phobe, try to wait a little more before you say anything. If he/she seems ready, then just say it when you feel like it. Either way, if you really love them, I'm betting they'll know based on how you act towards them.

[ShadowMax76]

i was an honest kid . and found it impossible to say those words
until i actually felt love.

even now , i wouldn't take back saying it as often as i did back then.
but still.. these days i try not to say it.

for fear it'll turn out the way it has every time i've said it.

_ of course.. there are other ways
of letting the few that you love them.

[riloandthewall]

love now a days is infatuation or obsession. all that "love" stuff is commercially driven anyways.

[Bakamaru]

i hate how that phrased is used so much by everybody then they end up breaking up in like a week or two. its like super diluted wine. it just sucks. feels like theres no meaning behind it anymore and teenagers just say it cause they think they have to spout super lovey dovey stuff to their s/o every 5 minutes.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

well you can say that in a way... I mean.. i'm a guy and i even said that to my guy friends lol.... and I'm not gay...
It's just kind of joke and for fun i guess.

[damyoungji]

"I love you" is used too often between friends and those in relationships these days T.T

I don't know, but I get annoyed when people say it out of nowhere, or if they keep on saying it.
Abusing it too often makes me think that it is just a habit of them to say it, or they have some motives behind it.

[~Tropical.Mists]

Ya I completely agree =)
I think once you're in a relationship, it gets more weird to say it to the other person lol
But from my personal experience, I usually don't say it unless I'm ready or they say it first T___T
My best friend and her bf didn't say "I love you" until their 6 months? haha!

--xoxo.
TM

[GOOMBA]

Honestly, I don't see the difference.

It's said much more but how are you supposed to know if the person means it a little less each time they say it? You're not a mind reader. Back in the day, "I love you" would be said seldomly, again, how would you know if it was used sincerely?

The way I see it, the more you use it (I'm speaking romantic relationship wise), the more you express how much you love the person. Sure, actions speak louder than words but there's no harm in saying "I love you" at the end of every phone call. Sounds sweet.

[Emerald Snow]

I do feel that it's overused when little teens use the word over and over in their week-long relationships.

I say it to my close friends pretty frequently, but I've never actually said it to a significant other yet. *shrugs* I won't say it until I actually mean it.

[Sunshine 60]

I use that word a lot, such as in, "I love puppies, I love cake" etc. You understand.

Yet I am loathe to use in romantic situations. I feel as if I overestimate or exaggerate the situation if I use it, even if it may be the most appropriate word choice.

[Namine]

yes my ex throws it around easily,
supposedly in his family, "it's used a lot and commonly and easily" and doesn't necesarily mean it when he says it.

it irritated me so i had a talk with him about it lol

you dont know how many unanswered ilu's he got because of that
and i dont think he ever got one back from me lol

[lychi]

It's kind of funny how it's different in different contexts. For friends I do end up saying "I love you" easily, but that's when it's light-heartedly.

In relationships.. it's a different story. I was trying to buy a card for my boyfriend during the period we didn't use the word love. I was getting a headache at how many cards just simply use the word love. @_@ I'm not even sure if I found one. I think I found a singing card instead... It's in a completely different context and all seriousness is in it.

The thing about that phrase in a relationship is that once you say it, you can never take it back. That's why it's so serious. You can't just be infatuated and say for one day those three words... and then next week, when you don't feel the sparks anymore, not reply.

[Left_King]

hehehehe....i agree that its been tossed a lot...

I've been in a 7yrs relationship but i cant remember my ex gf saying those 3 words... Only in txt msgs!!!

[GOJIN]

Yes. Tossed around a lot it is.

Then again, language is in constant change/modification, and is dependent on the generation, society, era etc...
English speaking folks in the 20's certainly did not speak the same way as we do today. They would not understand our modern slang and euphemisms. They also probably did not toss around the L word as much.

[Beautiful*Nightmare]

Yes, it is and i hate that. "i love you" become more and more meaningless these days.

I never said it until i felt it. One time, my bf was saying "i love you" first after 4 months we're going out and i didn't love him yet at that time so i just replied with "thank you"

[joongielove]

I think it's fine between like friends and stuff, because verbally is just another way to show love, like affection is one way.

But in relationships, I take it more seriously. I don't believe it should be said in a relationship unless the person actually honest to God feels it. My boyfriend didn't say it until 10 months into our relationship. =] But it had more meaning when he did say it, because I know he means it. He's not the type to say it everyday, but when he does, it's just more special <3