[Gucci Mama]

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[Tuxedomask]

My friends keep telling me not to get mad at my two friends,
but frankly, I don't think that shady friends are worth having...

I had a guy best friend and we had been close for a long time.
One day he found his current gf, and I find her shady.
The thing is that they're ALWAYS late. They're notorious for it..
And I'm really tired of waiting for them all the time.
One time, they were 50 minutes late, and I got so tired of them being late that I completely ignored them.
My friends kept telling me that they're always late anyways, so I should just accept it.

Am I wrong to be mad?
Should I really just accept the fact that they're always going to be late, so I shouldnt be mad at them?

So I talked to them, because you're supposed to talk things out with your close buddies right?
He said "Don't get mad about stupid things. I went there to see you".
So... I shouldn't be mad because you were here to see me..
Ok.. that makes a little sense to me, but I don't want to see them if they're going to have me wait at a bar for 50 minutes with nothing else to do since I ate all my dessert and drinks.
So imo, I think I should still be mad, but all of my friends are disagreeing with me.


What do you soompier think?

Was this for your birthday? If so than yeah you have a right to be mad.
Did they make you wait alone? Yes? you have a right to be mad.

But if it's just a friendly get together with everyone and you're upset because their late then I don't think that's right. You could have talked to your other friends around you.

Perhaps you have some feelings for your friend that you're not aware of? (Don't be mad at me okay it's just a suggestion )

[eximius]

I'd be pissed.
I have better things to do than to wait around on my ass for 15 minutes (or more) for people who don't think it's a big deal to be late.
15-30 minutes is as long as I can wait for someone without getting too fed up... anything more than that? Then I gotta wonder if being on time is even a priority for them, and if they even give a crap about me waiting around for them to show up. And if they were to have the same reaction as your friends? That'd earn them a swift verbal beating.

Then again, I have low tolerance for most things, especially with inconsiderate people.


And you can invite whoever the hell you want to your parties.
You didn't invite her because she was "horrified" of the stuff so you were just being considerate.

[Gucci Mama]

Was this for your birthday? If so than yeah you have a right to be mad.
Did they make you wait alone? Yes? you have a right to be mad.

But if it's just a friendly get together with everyone and you're upset because their late then I don't think that's right. You could have talked to your other friends around you.

Perhaps you have some feelings for your friend that you're not aware of? (Don't be mad at me okay it's just a suggestion :P)

It wasn't my bday, and I wasn't waiting "alone".
There were 8 other people.
But just because people are there, I don't think they should be FIFTY MINUTES late.
We sat there for 1.5 hours hanging out, and they all of the suddden decided to show up
(when they initially told us no)
sending us a text saying "we'll be there!"
and showing up 50 minutes after the text
We ended up staying at a bar for effin 3 hours


okay.. you're probably right
maybe im just crazy

Then again, I have low tolerance for most things, especially with inconsiderate people.

same here...

[MaryMagdalin]

yea i would be livid
just forget about him and his gf
and dont invite them to anything anymore

i do have one friend who is late all the time
so i tell her to be there 1 hour earlier than when i arrive. no joke.

[Tuxedomask]

Well no. You do have a right to be annoyed to some degree.

If you guys were there just to hang out and they wanted to join in whether it be late or not should be okay. Unless you guys had other plans and they held you back then yeah I'd be pissed also.

[Pol2ns7al2]

And his gf..
We had a Pajama movie party and i told her to get everyone to dress in pjs.
She said "ok" and it ended up being that I was the only one in PJs..
I was like WTF

LOL

anyways, i know someone like that too, and we're waiting for the right moment to kick her out of our group.

[Daikirai]

My friends keep telling me not to get mad at my two friends,
I had a guy best friend and we had been close for a long time.
One day he found his current gf, and I find her shady.

Are you even friends with his girlfriend? Why do you have to be friends with her just because she's his girlfriend? Pssh, she's a loser. I don't like her.

50 minutes is a loooooong time. How rude. I would've left.

You definitely have a right to be mad. They're so irrational.. ditch them.

[precious4e]

^
^ LOL

My friends make me wait ALONE all the time and I get so pissed.
But if i'm in a group I don't get as mad just because I have other ways to entertain myself.

Anyways, if you think your friends are being inconsiderate of you then just don't call them out anymore.
And if your guy friend is screwing you over just because he got a new gf, then forget him too.

[sodaniechea]

And his gf..
We had a Pajama movie party and i told her to get everyone to dress in pjs.
She said "ok" and it ended up being that I was the only one in PJs..
I was like WTF

Then there was a time when we went to a festival.
She and another friend told me to buy drinks for them, so I did.
When her bf was like "WTF gucci mama why did you buy drinks?" and she was like "YEAH WHY DID U BUY THEM?"
so effin fake..
She told me to buy them....

THere was another time when she didn't get invited to a party that I had because she didn't want to be around "alcohol" anymore due to a bad experience. I didn't think she'd want to come because she always says that she's "horrified". Then it turned out to be that her bf ditched her that day, and got angry that I didn't invite her to my party.
She said that she didnt want to go to alcohol parties, but should I be inviting her anyways? Am I wrong not to invite her?

What do you soompier think?

I know what you mean about people being late, like you and your friends prepared themselves early and why couldn't they have the courtesy of doing the same thing right? :l

Howeverrrrrrr the pj thing was completely messed up. From my point of view it seems like she just wanted you to look ridiculous.

The drinks thing at the festival would've just crossed the line for me lol I'm sorry but if somebody did that to me, I'm not talking to her anymore.

As for the party thing, she shouldn't overreact like that. I mean I'm not an alcohol person, mainly because the smell of it makes me nauseous and if I drink I can't breathe and whatever, and I rarely get invited to parties while my bf always gets invited and I let him go Perhaps she's just clingy and jealous of your relationship [or if you prefer friendship] with your bestfriend?

[bonitagirlx]

yea i would be livid
just forget about him and his gf
and dont invite them to anything anymore

i do have one friend who is late all the time
so i tell her to be there 1 hour earlier than when i arrive. no joke.

yes! i am one of those late friends and thats what my friend does tooo >_<

i mean, i feel bad for doing it but its just a happen i just cant get rid of....

try to understand they are there for you and its not like they want to be late its just their lazy...

[dropdeadbarbi]

Put it into perspective, they're a couple. Maybe they were busy doing their own thing and got caught up with time. I assume you haven't told your "GUY BEST FRIEND" how annoyed you get when they're always late. I don't even think that they thought it would be any more of a nuisance since they're notorious for it. I wouldn't call the guy shady because of it, his decisions and priorities revolve around his girlfriend.

*Just because he's dating the girl, it doesn't automatically make her your Girl-friend as well. She has friends too (or at least she should).

[Gucci Mama]

Put it into perspective, they're a couple. Maybe they were busy doing their own thing and got caught up with time. I assume you haven't told your "GUY BEST FRIEND" how annoyed you get when they're always late. I don't even think that they thought it would be any more of a nuisance since they're notorious for it. I wouldn't call the guy shady because of it, his decisions and priorities revolve around his girlfriend.

*Just because he's dating the girl, it doesn't automatically make her your Girl-friend as well. She has friends too (or at least she should).

did you even read what i wrote?
I told him and he said that instead of being mad I should be HAPPY that they came to see me
even if it was 50 minutes late

and if they wanted to do their "couple thing" then they should've never told us that they'd show up
and do their thing together

and who said that I wanted her as a friend?
she follows her bf EVERYWHERE so its not really a choice
its a natural happening when she shows up to every event

and they told us that they LEFT
they had to be 60 miles away to take that long
i know he lives 12 miles away

[forgottenmemories]

I hate it when people make me wait when its uneccessary. So yes, you have every rights to be mad at your "friends".

[WildSevenGirl]

I'd be super duper pissed.
If they have to make you wait for FIFTY minutes, you have a right to be mad.
Alone, a right to be mad.

If your best friend was REALLY your best friend, he'd hear you out and at least TRY to be reasonable. So what if she's his girlfriend?

I'm surprised you didn't punch this girl in the face yet, lol.

But yeah.