[azunxkandie]

ok to make this somewhat short lol

the relationships i've experienced ended up with the same problem;
each one were the heartbreakers.. being the forgiving person i am
tried to stay friends but ended up getting ignorned and more hurt
it's frustraiting!

QUESTION:

is it possible for the heartbreaker to be more hurt
than the one that he/she hurt ?

maybe because of guilt, stubornness...

what do you guys think ?
feedback or comments would be nice =)

[Jamila]

is it possible for the heartbreaker to be more hurt
than the person that he/she hurt ?

I guess it depends on the situation but
I'd say no, but I've never broken any hearts (that I know of) so ...

[Tuxedomask]

QUESTION:

is it possible for the heartbreaker to be more hurt
than the person that he/she hurt ?

maybe because of guilt, stubornness...

what do you guys think ?
feedback or comments would be nice =)

Yes...I'm living proof =)

Broke up with my gf because I couldn't commit enough time to her. We were together almost 4 years but saw a huge business opportunity and moved away. We tried to make it work for a year and half but failed miserably. I broke her heart and now she's going out and enjoying life. I don't regret it though, she's doing better without me in my opinion.

Me? I'm heart broken (no pity needed) and alone here in the US.

I have tried to date but nothing compares.

[MNLV27]

I think they can be hurt but they're not as hurt as the heart they broke.
I admit, I've broken some hearts and that's not a good feeling, I always end up feeling really guilty and all that, but then the feeling goes away after a while.

[azunxkandie]

I think they can be hurt but they're not as hurt as the heart they broke.
I admit, I've broken some hearts and that's not a good feeling, I always end up feeling really guilty and all that, but then the feeling goes away after a while.

i agree with your first statement,
because i've been heartbroken
my 1st ex said it's hurting him more then it's hurting me..

and im like... hmm, say what ?
*confuzzed*

[cupicake]

it's possible for the heartbreaker to be more hurt ofcourse.. it just depends on the situation. it's also possible that both of them would be equally hurt as well.
one thing i know for sure is that guilt can ruin people to the point that theyd rather be dead just like the way heart break can.

there's those times when you cant help breaking someone's heart. you could try to make things work out but you know that they'll never work and you'll just hurt that person even more for sure. the more you hurt that person, the worse you'll feel. the best choice is to break that person's heart so as to not to inflict any more pain on that person. even if you don't have any feelings him, guilt will stab you each time you see that person, especially since you know how much that person's suffering because of you. what's even worse is if he still loves you even after all you've done. it makes you feel so depressed.
id rather be hated and cursed upon cuz it's somewhat comforting and will lessen my guilt since i know that i'm getting my punishment for breaking that person's heart. if that person forgives me just like that, without giving me any punishment, i'll continue to be haunted by my guilt. that's why i'll avoid him and pretend he never existed so that he'll hate me. im selfish like that. i want him to hate me forever eventhough i know that it'll be easier for the both of us to forget and let go if he just quickly forgive me.

[Torento <3]

Yes, but depends on the person.

[derrek]

I have tried to date but nothing compares.

awww, that's rotten dude! But I'm sure everything will work out! Keep your chin up!

[speak without my voice]

yeah I think it's possible. The one who broke my heart... I found out he blamed himself (now we're not even really talking, and well, I am not talking to him- I'm not initiating contact) and felt really guilty. and wanted me to talk to him. I didn't even realize that he felt that guilty. I figured he just happily went on with his life and that I am obviously not on his mind b/c other girls are. or that he is totally oblivious to the lack of our friendship. I wish I could talk to him about this because I didn't find out from him directly, and not 100% clear on some things he had said. I'm not sure if talking about it... would it even be beneficial? It would only be beneficial in understanding the situation, but not sure if that's going backwards and lingering unnecessary on the past. aah, I went off on a rant, sorry

[ShadowMax76]

heart breakers usually prepare for the break up, so they don't get it sudden like the heart broken - hence, it hurts.

but there is always that regret and guilty sadness any person holds as they walk away from a broken heart.

_
usually when there's an argument between a couple, one side is wronged.
but even then
both sides are hurt.

_ i've tried to act serious/emotionless/mature in an argument/reconciliation
and it practically did the worst thing for my case.

even if i was practically a mess on the floor past midnight . she didn't know it.

still. i deny it. people these days tend to think it's better to lie that you weren't shattered by something that didn't matter in the end.. [doesn't make sense, but meh. ]

[swtfirefly]

You know, I always wonder about that.
And reading everyones responses seem to answer my question.

But yeah, I think it depends on how bad the breakup was.

[Green Apple]

I've broke a heart.
Ever since, I would constantly wonder if it was the biggest regret of my life so far.
Finally seeing him moving on made me glad, hurt, and miserable all at once.

[damyoungji]

I guess it depends on the reason why they broke up?

When I broke up with my ex, I felt terrible. I locked myself up and refused to see anyone.

As for him? He was over it within a week and was taking girls out on dates by the second week T.T

[^Mk^]

depends on experiences?

[azunxkandie]

if you tried staying friends with the hearbreaker
and they continue to be ignorant, what would you do ?

that's my situation..
he's my highschool sweetie and i dont wanna lose him as a friend =(

the first time we broke up, it took a month for us to start talking
then our second break up 5 months later he ignorned me again

i figured he just needed time and space..
but it's hurting me too

maybe i should just move on or wait ?

[spixder]

From experience i would say to move on, hold your head high and don't look back. Let him know that you want to be friends, but at the same time also let him know that you are moving on with life. Time will heal your wounds and time will also find u someone else.

[sus]

it depends i mean if the person who broke it off... was cause they felt they no longer could b in the relationshup cos their s/o was treating them like crap
then they would be more hurt of course..

but usualli i think the one who gets broke up wit hurts the most ...