[panda1212]

im not sure if there is a topic on this already but i saw this on my friend's away message and it just got me thinking about my relationship with my significant other and how i love him to death but yet i can't trust him because the things he has done to me in the past.
but anyways my question is

would you rather have someone not love you or love you but can't trust you?

edit:
here is my whole opinion on this. i think it is possible to love someone without trust, but it's impossible to have a relationship without trust. i mean there are certain people that we would go out of our way to take care of, or worry about but we just cant trust them for one reason or another. even though they have screwed you over so many times you still cant help but wonder if they are ok or not.

so to sum it up i think that relationship= trust while love= where the heart takes you

[Elee]

not love me. because if a guy loves me and doesnt trust me, then thats not love. because if a guy loved me, i would want it to be based on trust and honesty because those are the main ingredients of a healthy relationship.

if you dont trust him but you still love him, i think you should learn to let it go. its really your choice. you shouldnt always follow your heart because it might mislead you. think of what is the best and imagine 10 years from now what would happen. my sisters ex boyfriend loved her to death and she just kept cheating and cheating and never stopped. i felt really bad.. he loved her so much he didnt care.. he would always check her phone and see what she was up to there was a point it didnt make sense anymore. your just digging a hole for yourself and your going to be miserable. even if you love him, you have to learn to love yourself first.

[abusegirl]

i wouldnt have either. lol

if someone doesnt love me well...wtf...why are we even here? and if someone doesnt trust me...sooner or later we're gonna end up in a physical fight so...ending it.

*shrug*

[Torento <3]

Wow.

What a stupid question.

How can you 'love' someone if you don't trust them. Gee, you guys throw that word around like candy.

[han.yung]

^ and getting hit by candy hurts. especially hard candy. :x

true. if they love you but can't trust you, then it's going to end, and most likely, painfully.
that's how my first serious relationship ended.

i agree with torento, my ex said that he loved me, but just couldn't trust me. i don't really understand why not, since i've never done
anything to cause him to think like that. :/ and i never lied to him either. he couldn't take it anymore, so...

so i'd rather they didn't love me, because that would save everyone a lot of trouble and hearts would remain unbroken

[jihyepii]

I beleive in order to love someone there needs to be trust...or it wouldn't be love.

[Torento <3]

I beleive in order to love someone there needs to be trust...or it wouldn't be love.

[panda1212]

Wow.

What a stupid question.

How can you 'love' someone if you don't trust them. Gee, you guys throw that word around like candy.

im just wondering because im in this situation, i mean at first i trusted him too, but all the things he did to me, i began to not trust him. I still hold on to hope that one day i can trust him again. i do love him and i am not the type of person to throw this word around. im sorry if i seem very ignorant to you but really i am just a person looking for answers. im sorry that i wasted your time especially since you took the time to respond.
i still though want to know people's opinion on this and i thank you you for putting your two cents in.

[OrangeSky]

Not love me cause distrust hurts more then a broken heart.

[Emyli]

not love me. why would the other person love me but not trust me? that just means that i undeserving of the love.

[Torento <3]

im just wondering because im in this situation, i mean at first i trusted him too, but all the things he did to me, i began to not trust him. I still hold on to hope that one day i can trust him again. i do love him and i am not the type of person to throw this word around. im sorry if i seem very ignorant to you but really i am just a person looking for answers. im sorry that i wasted your time especially since you took the time to respond.
i still though want to know people's opinion on this and i thank you you for putting your two cents in.

No problem.

Perhaps the definition of 'love' is each to our own. Thank you for not taking my direct reply as a means of instigating some tension

[lemon1accw]

love is trust. love is trust. love is trust. love is trust. love is trust. love is trust.

[GOOMBA]

im not sure if there is a topic on this already but i saw this on my friend's away message and it just got me thinking about my relationship with my significant other and how i love him to death but yet i can't trust him because the things he has done to me in the past.
but anyways my question is

would you rather have someone not love you or love you but can't trust you?

Bolded : You`re not the only one !

& Wait, when you say not trust you.. is it because you did something wrong? Or you`re completely innocent?
Cause if I`m innocent, I`d go with the guy who doesn`t love me
If I`m not, if I did something wrong, I`d go for the not trust me guy.
Heh

[akiralove]

im in the same situation.. i love my ex but at the same time i dont really trust him either heh.. alot of things happened between us
but i know i do love him... it just hurts to think about the past sometimes
i hate the feeling of not being trusted :[
it hurts a lot

[damyoungji]

I rather have someone not love me, than to be stuck in a (potential) relationship with him when he does not trust me.
When there is no trust between two people, or one of them cannot trust the other, there is not point of staying together.
After all, the relationship will eventually break and throughout the time spent together, neither of you can be happy at all.

When your "significant other" does not trust you, it is likely that you will not trust him either (as though he wants to argue enough to end the relationship).

[panda1212]

No problem.

Perhaps the definition of 'love' is each to our own. Thank you for not taking my direct reply as a means of instigating some tension

no problem everyone is an individual with there own personal opinions and ideas. We each word our thoughts differently and sometimes it may come out harsh, but that is what makes us all unique. Plus the world would be a boring place without controversy

Bolded : You`re not the only one !

& Wait, when you say not trust you.. is it because you did something wrong? Or you`re completely innocent?
Cause if I`m innocent, I`d go with the guy who doesn`t love me
If I`m not, if I did something wrong, I`d go for the not trust me guy.
Heh

its not my boyfriend but more like me that can't trust him. he's just done a lot of things to me, but he is trying to win my trust back. im just hoping that one day i can trust him again.

I rather have someone not love me, than to be stuck in a (potential) relationship with him when he does not trust me.
When there is no trust between two people, or one of them cannot trust the other, there is not point of staying together.
After all, the relationship will eventually break and throughout the time spent together, neither of you can be happy at all.

When your "significant other" does not trust you, it is likely that you will not trust him either (as though he wants to argue enough to end the relationship).

the last part in bold is actually what i have been doing recently with him. every single time he says something i would throw in his face how can i trust him when he's *insert event* or i would say how am i sure you are not lying. i know i am being childish for doing that, but i just cant help but feel resentment towards the things he lied to me about.
i think i need to learn to forget and forgive
or learn how to deal with my anger better.
but i want to give him another chance. i mean people always change right?
or am i just being highly optimistic

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

um you're giving me the same choices.

someone who doesn't love me

someone who 'loves me' but doesn't trust me........(that's not love)- on the surface it might look it, but it's not love.

there are things you forgive, but you should NEVER forget.

[natsurei]

How can you love without trust?
Lol.
That's not love.

[Shooting_Star<3]

neither of them... I do not want someone who doesnt love me.. and trust is really important in a relationship...

[xo_sugar_ox]

i'd rather have someone not love me, because if someone "loves" me but doesn't trust, there really isn't any love in the first place.