[Heart<3]

My parents have been giving me the 'talk' lately and they desperately want me to have a boyfriend. There were quite a few opportunities where I could've had one but was just too afraid to be in one I'm not really sure what I'm afraid of cause all my friends have boyfriends and they seem to be happy lol I'm apparently the only person in my circle of friends who has never had boyfriend.


Is anyone going through the same situation as me?

--edit--

lol I'm 21, that's why my parents WANT me to have a boyfriend X)

[shirotaka]

Usually when girls are given "the talk", its about "IF YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND I'LL KILL YOU".

Uh sorry I can't really relate, there's nothing to be afraid of, just another joy in life.

[ShadowMax76]

o.O' they WANT you to have bf?

that's new..

:] -salutes- good luck.


just start making friends with guys.

it'll all come after that.

[7thprincess]

WOW! Really? Your parents want you to have a boyfriend?! That is amazing! Its ok. Don't feel bad or left out. There are plenty of soompiers who are 21plus and never been in a relationship.

[Rin<3]

I can relate (: I've never had a boyfriend either but my parents never gave me a talk or anything like that. Maybe when I'm older, I'll face it (currently, I'm 17 and will be turning 18 this March). But it's true that everyone around me has pretty much had a boyfriend at least once as well, and yet I've always been afraid to be in a relationship even though I'm exposed to these couples all the time. I have crushed on guys and all, but if any of them showed any sign of wanting to get into a relationship, I would get intimidated. I think I'm just shy (: And I feel like I don't want to be a bad girlfriend and get dumped after being so attached to him, etc...as in I don't want to go through that stress and pain. Or maybe I'm just generally afraid of guys despite my attraction to them, haha.

[Wendyyy]

You just have to find the right person.
Maybe unlike your friends, you have the need to wait, instead of rush.

Your parents are crazyyy if they are rushing you. Maybe they are just worried because you seem to show no interest in guys.
Reassure them that you want to take your time to find the right person to be in the right relationship for you.

What might work for some, doesn't work for others.

[영원한 사랑]

I just turned 20 years old and my parents dont mind if I hav a boyfriend, but they don't care if I don't either.
I've never had a bf before or even a kiss and I wouldn't mind having one if one did come along....^^

[mmm0403]

LOL...i'm on the same shoe as you. Just recently, my mom and everyone, the women, else that are close to me started saying I should date some distance uncle's son. They all were saying he's perfect for me, etc... Same as you, I have never had a boyfriend before and I'm just really scared of being in a relationship with a man. I have seen and heard about so many trouble marriages. My friends that I met back in elementary, middle, and high schools all got married and have at least two kids now, only me still not having a bf. If I want one, I can, but it's going to take a lot of guts. For me, it's really embarrassed to be seen with a man by someone I know. LOL...so the word "boyfriend" is still very far. Right now I know I can never tell someone or introduce someone as my boyfriend. Well, this is my story. It may be boring and weird, but it's my story.

[tontamoo]

Think of it as a good thing. I'm pretty much in a similar situation as you. I'm 24 and never really had a real relationship. (Had one in college but we never were that close)

I'm currently in a relationship now and it's great. There is always that uncertainty that comes with a first relationship, but it's also nice because you don't carry any emotional baggage. Thankfully, my boyfriend is also very new to relationships, so it's a little fun as we try out new things (holding hands, kissing, etc) I always find it very amusing because these are parts of a relationship that a lot of people have already done a lot of in high school. I think It carries more significance for me and I am able to appreciate it more with my boyfriend. Everything is very new. If you find the right guy that is able to overlook whatever flaws and inexperience you have, it's wonderful.

[xxiaoMEI]

Ahh me too.
This friend of mine is showing signs that he "kind of" wants to get in a relationship and I kind of feel intimidated even though part of me wants to too. Is it because I'm shy or just because my mind is telling me I'm not ready yet? What should I do.. >.>

[mikeh]

My parents have been giving me the 'talk' lately and they desperately want me to have a boyfriend. There were quite a few opportunities where I could've had one but was just too afraid to be in one I'm not really sure what I'm afraid of cause all my friends have boyfriends and they seem to be happy lol I'm apparently the only person in my circle of friends who has never had boyfriend.


Is anyone going through the same situation as me?

--edit--

lol I'm 21, that's why my parents WANT me to have a boyfriend X)

maybe your afraid of commitment and the ups and downs that follows in a relationship. perhaps you dont wanna feel heart broken?

Ahh me too.
This friend of mine is showing signs that he "kind of" wants to get in a relationship and I kind of feel intimidated even though part of me wants to too. Is it because I'm shy or just because my mind is telling me I'm not ready yet? What should I do.. >.>

i think your just shy but try going out on a few dates like movies, shopping etc and see how it goes. if both of you click then it'll happen quite naturally

[sillymeboy]

Hey I'm single ,too... my place or yours? Lol j/k
Yeah, I get that prep talk sometimes too from my sisters and I'm like "I don't want to be in a relationship just to be in a relationship" .It's pretty dumb to me but they think I've been single for too long haha.

[Tuxedomask]

Yeah.

I'm pretty scared of relationships right now. I'm scared of commitment, I know that I won't have much time because of my business and school.

[sweetxxsoul]

if you're afraid, it probably means you don't feel ready,
or that you never had true feelings for those 'potential boyfriends',
i don't think you should force yourself into a relationship for anyone but yourself,
or until you feel that you're ready
the right man for you will show up eventually! (:

[Emerald Snow]

I never had my first relationship until quite recently, and I'm already 20+. I wasn't afraid of being in a relationship...I just knew that I'd rather focus my attention on other things such as education since HS boys were too immature for me. The right person just never came along. Love comes when you least expect it, and I agree. What will happen will happen. =)

[o1honey]

Well I can't really compare myself to you.. because that time I was like 15 or so? (just a few years ago =P)
But I was really scared of being in a relationship.. it's really weird.. everyone thought I was weird.. my boyfriend's FRIENDS though I was extremely weird.

But the fact that I was afraid was I was scared i couldn't handle what it takes to be in a relationship.. I really don't wanna hurt anyone nor myself. and the fact that I was raised into a pretty independent person.. having a boyfriend seemed to be the last thing on my mind
plus I had a lot of insecurities as well (weight, image, shyness.. etc.. etc..)
And another reason why I was afraid to be in a relationship with my boyfriend was because the year before.. i liked his friend ".. and being a noob freshman.. I obviously made a fool out of myself in front of them.. and being in a relationship with him.. meant I would have to see my old crush.. and that group of people again.. I was suuper shy and I just can't handle being in the spotlight >.>

But to overcome something you afraid of.. you must face it.

Maybe you should try going to a speed dating function.. and stuff.. there's no commitment involved.. and all you do there is just meet people of the opposite sex as your potential boyfriend

and if things flow... go with the flow ;]

[Left_King]

Just take ur time...what ppl say doesnt matter...
Tell ur parents that the guy will eventually show up...so no worries...!!

Whateva will be, will be...!!!

[aiaigasa]

definitely scared. i'm taking it to mean i'm not ready. i'm 20 now... but i'm still really immature and selfish and believe in the "disney love". i can wait til my prince comes... or i grow up. haha ><

[emc123]

i'm 20 and my parents still tell me 'i'll consent to you seeing a boy when you're in your 40s' haha
personally though i don't care for a relationship right now. i am definitely NOT a committed type of person and easily get distracted. it's not that i'm scared it's more that i'm perhaps too lazy to put in the effort?

[bbon]

i think i'm a commitment phobe.
haha