[chocolateturtle]

It's long, sorry.

So I recently moved into a new apartment in October and am living with a random room mate since I had to leave my old apartment and leave my original room mate at last minute.

About a month ago, for two days she treated me like crap like blasting the music loudly when I'm in bed and it was when I was on my period too so I was exhausted and in pain. I probably know the reason why she was mad but I couldn't tell really if she didn't say anything about it but ignore me, give me the cold shoulder and use my dishes without washing them. It might have been that I'm on the phone a lot but not to the point where it's several hours at a time, no...but I do get frequent phone calls, thats all. I left for the weekend to stay at a friends place just because the environment was so bad. When I come home for the weekend, she proposes a rule where every phone call I get, I have to take it outside the living room... and it really affected me and my boyfriend because we cant talk in bed for 10 minutes every night before bed as our usual custom (long distance relationship). I at least thought she would understand how hard it is since I only get to see my bf couple times a year that we could at least talk in bed and to say goodnight and such.

So she proposes that rule, but the thing I found it to be unfair is that her boyfriend comes over every damn weekend, and they cuddle, do intimate things in bed in front of me and I could hear them say do you want to shower now, so they take a freaking shower together for god knows what they're doing in there, laughing and such. And then they come into the room and play starcraft blasting it and such. One weekend when my friend wanted to come over and study the day after her bf leaves, my roommate basically told us we couldnt study in the room and she ends up watching anime all day and my friend leaves within a few minutes after that hint. I was so upset at her because its my room too, and basically I cant bring any friends in my room but her bf gets to eat, sleep basically live in our room when I cant have friends visit?

Now, she's complaining about me eating...Yeah, I have to chew with my mouth open sometimes when the food is either really hot or big,and she's like "do you have to chew like that" and I'm like it's hot...you want it to burn and steam in my mouth? She says where she comes from its rude and such but it's my room too, I think I have the right to chew the way I want while she gets to scream(sing really loudly like an amp was there) in the shower every time she goes to the bathroom.

I want to confront her and such but I'm afraid to be in an environment again where she'll be a total ass and such blasting music and such. What can I do....I really suck at confronting...and she's the domineering type also...

Edit: I only talk during peak hours or reasonable day hours not past 12 or such or before 8 am...@_@ and they're usually for few minutes, not past 30 mins.

[Tuxedomask]

Hm wow....That's really bad if I was you call her a B-word to her face haha.

Anyways, can't you request for a new roommate or a room switch? That's really unfair for you. The cell phone thing I can understand if she was sleeping or something and you were talking on the phone, but her not letting your friends over is a way over the top. Try not to let her win so easily and argue back.

You should be able to come home from school and relax not stress even more.

Keep us updated ^^

[ITS VIVIAN! =D]

Do you live in a one room apartment? I really think that it's unfair of her to tell you to take your calls out to the living room, it's your room also afterall...

I believe you should SPEAK UP. You seem so weak and fragile, she's bossing you around like crazy. Bad news to you but, if you don't say anything or talk to her about her doings, she WILL continue to dominate you. She WILL continue to blast her music whether you like it or not.

Take my advice:
-Set up RULES for BOTH of you guys. Rules that both of you would agree would. (make sure its fair)
-Meet out for coffee or have lunch, and talk about the rules. (do it in a public place so she won't do anything physical or yell)
-Sorry but if she continues to break the 'RULES', it's time for you to find a new place and move out.

Hope that helps.

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

She thinks you're a pushover.

[Raito!]

If i were you, i would seriously move out of there asap.