[cooki3s]

oh gosh sorry, i didnt realize it was so long =X

Okay lets just call my friend Mary and her boyfriend Jon.

Mary dated Jon for a year and they've been broken up for three months so far. They are still friends.
They hang out a lot and ocationally they still kiss.
I told her that by kissing it was more like friends with benefits, but she said no they were just freinds.
Mary is still in love with Jon.

Now the reason why they broke up (or rather, why he broke up with her):
He says that she cares for him too much. She's too clingy. etc, stuff like that
but from the things she tells me, its like he gets mad at her for no reason.
He flirts with girls right in front of her and holds their hands too.
And when she just talks to a guy, he yells at her for flirting with him.
She also told me that she cries a lot around him and he always leaves her for that, meaning when their at the
train or something and she starts crying becuase hes being a jerk to her, he just leaves her there to cry.
I told her many times that she deserves better but she really is too in love with him.
He treats her like dirt.
He takes his anger out on her all the time it seems cuase he knows shes not going to leave him.

Even though their freinds now, he knows that she still has feelings for him
He tells her that the only way he would let her be freinds with him is to follow a list.
this list has things like dont call me, dont follow me, dont care bout me, dont think about me

what kind of stupid list is thatt?? like are you serioussss??
I keep telling her that she needs to stop seeing him so that her feelings will go away but she wont listen to me.

I have no idea how to tell her that she needs to stop seeing him becuase only she can do that herself.

Now the thing is, I think hes only mean to her and a jerk to her.
I see him sometiems and hes just a nice guy.
I don't know what his problem is but he has many mood swings when hes with her.
One minute he likes her, the next hes yelling at her.

Can someone please explain to me why?
And help me with this situation, becuase i know that my freind is not happy.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

She don't need to know whatever the reason for him being like that to her.
All she needs to know is that he treats her like garbage and she should just leave her.

Seriously, your friend sound so desperate. All that bullying yet she still likes him?
what's with that? That sounded like drama to me lol.
Well, tell your friend, that there's no such thing called drama in the real world.

Now the thing is, I think hes only mean to her and a jerk to her.
I see him sometiems and hes just a nice guy.
I don't know what his problem is but he has many mood swings when hes with her.
One minute he likes her, the next hes yelling at her.

Can someone please explain to me why?
And help me with this situation, becuase i know that my freind is not happy.

well I'll accept it, girls will be girls, they wish they have some dramas in their life.
And this sounded like drama... you know, where the guy is all angry to the girl when in reality he's actually in love with her. He just needs to do it for the benefit of the girl.
Maybe that's how your friend thinks of it, thats y she still likes him?
well welcome to the real world There's no such thing like that in here

Even if he still likes her, why should she stay with him? she's not treating her well.

anyways, tell your friend that

[Daikirai]

How old are they.. ?

Since she's still attracted to him, she keeps justifying everything he does. Even though he's a jerk, she'll still like him. Just let her. And then one day.. she'll learn.

[MaryMagdalin]

apparently your friend likes being treated like dirt lol..

[Tuxedomask]

This is one of those times where you just can't help the person.

[xo_sugar_ox]

oh gosh =__= i wish your friend would fall out of love with him. she deserves better treatment.

[cooki3s]

She don't need to know whatever the reason for him being like that to her.
All she needs to know is that he treats her like garbage and she should just leave her.

Seriously, your friend sound so desperate. All that bullying yet she still likes him?
what's with that? That sounded like drama to me lol.
Well, tell your friend, that there's no such thing called drama in the real world.
anyways, tell your friend that ;)

she already knows he treats her like crap, and those were her exact words but she still goes back to him =/

How old are they.. ?

Since she's still attracted to him, she keeps justifying everything he does. Even though he's a jerk, she'll still like him. Just let her. And then one day.. she'll learn.

their juniors in high school. Its been a year and a few months, I feel as though she should have learned by now.

This is one of those times where you just can't help the person.

I think thats true too but every time she tells me things about him
I can't help but put him down and I don't think that helps her so I dont even know what to say anymore.

oh gosh =__= i wish your friend would fall out of love with him. she deserves better treatment.

she really does.
The other day she went to get hot chocolate for him after work and went all the way to where he was to give it to hiim
just so she could get screamed at for going.
I don't know if they were suppose to meet up or soemthing but he shoudln't tell at her for being sweet.

[WildSevenGirl]

This guy is one of the many that I really wanna punch in the face. Since she's madly in love with him and doesn't care if he treats her like crap, I'm gonna assume that he's this super hot guy or something.

==; Have someone scar his face or something.

Nonono, jk.

But really. I'll assume that you've already talked to her about this already.

Talk to him?

Since you already detest him, it should be quite easy to get out what you wanna say. And if he's gonna throw a hissy fit for that, flip out also.

[M!ke]

Love is blind.

Your friend takes it, because she doesn’t know any better. But sometimes the best way to learn something is to learn it the hard way. She’ll (hopefully) eventually come to her senses and realize that this idiot isn’t worth her time.

I know it’s painful to watch, I’ve seen it before. I guess it’s a sign that you’re a good friend by looking out for her. Sometimes the best way to get a message across to someone who won’t listen is not to do it straight up, but slowly, bit by bit, and over time.

[sus]

wow that kinda sounds like me but not that bad~~~
im tryin to figure out... why my bf is similar..
he gets mad at me for no reason
gets all PO/ n when im cryin he just leaves me there

bloody tears my heart apart,,, i duno why im still with him

maybe cos i know hes not realli like that...
maybe im naieve n hopin he would change

i duno but its realli hard for the girl to leave the guy... u kno how they say .. treat them mean keeps them keen.......

its cruel but i think when ur friend takes s step bak n realises that hes not worth it..
she will leave himmm

[PhuongNguyen]

Some girls just like being treated as dirt. My friend is an extremely good example.

Her boyfriend cheated on her. Left her out in the street; while it's raining, and while she's crying. Called her a "pinkberry" all the time, in front of everyone... just for laugh. Took away her virginity then called her a slut for giving in too easy. Made her pay for everything. Call her a dumbass everytime she say something that he doesn't agree with.

Finally, they broke up. And it's not because SHE had enough, but because he found another girl that he wanted to ACTUALLY be with. My friend begged and cried, did everything to win him back, and he told her to take a look at herself, why on earth would he want "a piece of garbage".

There's nothing you can do... except be there for her and comfort her. Your friend seem like those type that hang onto every last strand of hope until the guy get so annoyed that they totally ignored them.

[chayzo]

maybe he's bipolar ?

[g-yo]

Her ex is such a jerk - but she sounds SO desperate too.
She needs to get over it and show that she's not someone that you can easily throw away.
So tell her not to be friends with him anymore - stop kissing, stop acting like friends with benefits essentially. Just cut off the relationship, no matter how hard it is, and he'll see what he was missing.

By then, your friend had better realized she can do so much better.

But really - desperate much?

[babiiqrlxT]

To me, he seems nothing but a jerk. These are guys are not worth waiting for. You should talk to her, and maybe put some sense into her too.

1. No point of forcing herself to be with him, and forcing to make something that just won't work because once things are forced, that isn't how happiness is gained.

2.Tell her maybe she feels the way she does is because she is use to him being around her.

3. She needs to learn to separate her wants and her needs because they are two completely different things. She obviously don't need him to survive, but if she keeps thinking that it's going to make it worse for her. Believe me, she only wants him because she was doing perfectly fine when she never met I'm sure of, so without him, I am pretty sure she'll be fine too. It's just the matter of time.

4.She should just let go, and move on, because life does go on. She shouldn't let one person bring her down.

I don't see any reason why she would want to stay with him, because she can't always count on him for her own happiness. She is lucky to have a friend like you. She deserves a better guy. Sometimes you can't always help her as much as you want to because there are a lot of things she just have to realize on her own.

[sujugirl]

Ooh, my friend's boyfriend is a JERK too.
Like he said harsh things to my freakin bestfriend, and recorded my other friend kissing his (my friend's bf) classm8 and let the rest of his classm8s watch the video. The other day, my friend slapped him in front of us. That's so embarrassing but served him just right.

Ooh, btw. they broke up.

[Left_King]

He's just taking advantage of her :S Is he not?

[AlyM37]

what a jerkk. heres what u do: go to ur kitchen, take a butter knife and STAB JON!!!!!!!!!!!














lol,jk

[xo_sugar_ox]

she really does.
The other day she went to get hot chocolate for him after work and went all the way to where he was to give it to hiim
just so she could get screamed at for going.
I don't know if they were suppose to meet up or soemthing but he shoudln't tell at her for being sweet.

wow O___o she needs to dump that loser

[Fui]

The feeling of being neglected by the person that you care for isn't great.
Just pull her away whenever he's nearby. She deserves better but can't get that embedded in her head.

[GloomyPookie]

Sounds like my best friend and her ex.

He also takes his anger out on her, he's bossy. She's wasn't allowed to do certain things while he did them hisself too.
He physically abused her! etc. etc. They were always fighting (she crying).

I'm sorry but knowing the situation with my best friend and reading yours... sounds like a situation in which she
has to get through this on her own. I have said to my best friend MANY times that he's NOT a good BF for her.
And she also said she knows that but she said they are soulmates...

I asked her if she sees herself in the future with him day in, day out fighting... And if she liked feeling that way
all the time. She said no... but again said: they're soulmates.

Her relationship with him ended when he broke up with her because they were each going to a foreign
country for school for 6 months and he didn't know if he could hold up. Riiiiiiight, meaning he just wanted to sleep around.

Anyway those months of not being together helped her be without him. She and him are back from being away in a foreign country.
Even now she still talks about him and still claims he is her soulmate (that they have a connection). But she also claims
she will not get back together with him but would NOT mind if they do. :S
I keep telling her he's not good for her!! I hope she will stay out of an relationship with him.

I'm telling you... people with a personality like hers are hard to convince...
I don't know what it is: afraid of being alone? Naive?

All you can do is keep telling her he's not a good boyfriend and that she can get better. And that she just needs time.
When you 2 go out to do something fun look at other guys with her for fun. Maybe she'll meet someone
who will change her mind.