[k.RAE.zy]

here are some statements(or whatever you want to call them) that i made up, please answer them.

WHEN SOMEONE ASKS YOU OUT...

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?


MY ANSWERS

#1 this is a hard question, i would think it's impossible not to hurt someone who likes you but you don't like them but anyway, i would just say, i'm sorry i don't really want to go out with you.

#2 I would say, (his/her name) i only like you as my good friend, i hope that we can still be friends after this, but if you need some time to get over it, i understand...

#3 I would say, i don't really know you at all, so maybe if i get to know you better we might, but i'm not saying there's a very good chance.

#4 i would say, no i don't like you. please don't ask me again.

#5 i would say, please stop asking me out, i've already told you i don't want to go out with you.

I think all these sound kind of mean, but it's pretty much impossible to not hurt someone like that. For #5, i think this might work, i dont really know, it's never happened to me..


PLEASE POST YOUR OWN

(sorry if there is a topic like this already, i must have missed it)

[simple*love]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down? ill probably tell him i dont wanna be in a relationship, or i have someone else in mind.

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship? ill tell him i think we're better off being friends.

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down? Ill say i don't know you like that, it wont work out.

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down? Ill just tell him i dont like you.

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop? Ill most probably get pissed and annoyed, and be rude to him

[CakeIsALie]

WHEN SOMEONE ASKS YOU OUT...

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?

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#1 - I'm sorry, I'm not interested in having a relationship at the moment.

#2 - I'd tell them I only see them as a friend and nothing more. Your friendship/relationship with this person will change regardless of how you respond.

#3 - I'd be pretty straightforward with this. I'd tell them I don't know them well enough to date them.

#4 - Tell them I'm not interested in them.

#5 - I'd probably have to be cold towards this person.

[FluidEmotion]

1. People have to face the truth. If the person you ask turns you down, one should be able to stand back up.

2. You tell that friend that you have no feelings for her or him. It more on the after effects of turning down a friend. Try not to be so awkward around that friend.

3. Ask him something about yourself. If he doesnt know, just walk away. Or at least i would.

4.Just say no.

5. Tell him to stop bothering you. Directly confront him and tell the truth about how you feel about him/her.

[7thprincess]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?

Say sorry, no.


#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?

Say sorry, no.

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?

Say sorry, no.

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?

"HELL NO!!! Don't insult me!!!"

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?

Ask one of my guy friends to act as my boyfriend.

[babiiqrlxT]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down? Tell them that it's better off to be friends for now. I don't know really myself, I'll probably avoid them, yet I'll feel bad. Tell them somethings are meant to be, some things just aren't.

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship? I'll probably tell him/her that I never thought of them more than just a friend. Tell them that it's better off to remain friends so nothing will change between us and tell them that someone will come into their life one day.

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down? I'll just turn them down. I don't even know them to begin with. I don't even talk to people that i don't know or not that close with. Yes, I am a mean person.

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down? Tell them straight out. I don't want to lead them on and give them hopes because it'll hurt more later on.

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop? Throw a big fuss about it. I am mean period haha


Most of these questions are some what similar...

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

wait, do you mean asking on a "date" or asking to be in a relationship? as in bf&gf?

Coz I don't think number 3 is logical, i mean, if u don't know that person, why would they suddenly ask to be bf or gf? lol
but yet most of the replies are talking in terms of relationship lol
I'm confused =/


#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?
Impossible, any answer will hurt the person, unless you give him like $100, maybe he'll forget about you straight away

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?
any answer depends on the guy, if he wants to keep it then he will, any answer won't make a difference, as long as it's nice and polite and appropriate

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?
say I don't know you, too bad if you know me.

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?
then just say no

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?
delete this guy out of your life like deleting a spam in your email

[0908]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?
I'm wishing for a stable friendship between us, nothing more, nothing less...let's not hurt each other more.

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?
Don't you think it'll feel a bit awkward? We're good friends and I think it should stay like that, I'm used to this kind of atmosphere so let's not wreck it.

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?
We clearly don't know much about each other, stop being so hasty, we're already having a bad start.

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?
I'm not interested in you in that kind of way, I just don't feel the same as what you are feeling for me, don't force me, because it's better to experience REAL love than living a lie.

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?
Why do you still keep coming at me? Haven't I made myself clear to you? I'm not interested, and if you keep this up, I won't show myself to you, and simply ignore you. Aren't you satisfied with us being friends? Why do you want to go further, just leave it as it is.


lol~
That's what I'd say .___.
Sometimes, you're just going to have to stay away from that person as much as possible to close all types of communications.

[queen-desire]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?
i don't really know what to do, but 99% of the time i decline and then i stop talking to them.

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?
easy tell them the truth; they'll understand ^^ happend a few times to me and i'm still good friends with them.

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?
say no and then IGNORE !

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?
No and IGNORE

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?
i've already stopped all contact with them @_@

[twinkle_l0ve]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?
tell them honestly that I'm not interested. Friendship is always an option

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?
again, tell them honestly that I'm interested in someone else. If they were a good friend, they'd understand, move on and our friendship would remain. If it doesn't, then I'd work to make things not awkward.

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?
Tell them "sorry, I don't know you (enough)" and never speak to them again lol. They kinda give off the creepy vibe

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?
Say "thanks for the thought, but sorry I don't know you well enough" and run away.

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?
Be HARD on them "I'm not interested in you, and never will be. You're just hurting yourself and wasting time"

[PhuongNguyen]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?

Either way, I'm going to have to hurt them, so I'll just be straight forward. I'm not the type that beats around the bush and give them a string of hope. Usually I'll just say "You're a great person, but I don't think of you that way"

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?

Now this is a bit hard. Honestly, from past experience, I tend to just "ignore" them and pretend like it never happened. Not exactly the smartest way to handle the situation because it makes me kind of avoid them and drift apart. I think the best thing to do is just be straight forward, however... most likely, the friendship won't be the same.

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?

If I don't know them, I won't really give a crap. A straight out "not interested" is good enough imo.

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?

Do I hate them then? Just like my previous answer. A straight out 'not interested' is good enough.

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?

Be mean to them and make them dislike me. I've encountered these kind of dumbasses my whole life and they're pathetic. Some guy called me 5 times a day to ask me out, to the point that I literally had to cuss him out because he couldn't take no for an answer. If they can't respect my decision, I don't need to respect them. Stop being so damn pathetic and desperate because it actually turn me off even more.

[Strawberii]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?

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#1: I'm sorry, i just don't like you that way.

#2: "*laughs* i thought you were serious! You know we can never go out, it'll be so awkward!" <-i would pretend that i thought he is joking, that way it would be less awkward for both of us and we could still be friends.

#3:"Sorry, i don't really know you....[i think we should get to know each other first]"-i would only say the last part if he's cute.

#4: Sorry, i just don't like you; i'm sorry.

#5: I'll just tell him i'm already going out with someone that i really like.

[kimchi hana]

#1 "I don't want to go out with you."
#2 "I don't want to go out with you."
#3 "I don't want to go out with you."
#4 "I don't want to go out with you."
#5 "I don't want to go out with you."

Magical 8 words. :D

But seriously.

1. "I'm sorry, but I'm not interested."
You have to make it nice, but clear enough that you're really not interested.
2. "Mmm, I like you better as a friend. I'm sorry."
Just continue as you would if they didn't tell you.
3. "Let's be friends and see how it goes."
Dating strangers are just weird or desperate.
4. "I'm sorry, I don't like you like that."
No sugar coating! Say it straightforwardly.
5. "I'm going to live a life of celibacy."
Hahaha, no, just kidding. Just ignore them.

[Sleepy213]

#1

I will tell them my feelings for them is just friends and I see nothing more.

#2

I would say I don't think our friendship should be ruined after this but It's better for us to remain as friends.

#3

I would tell them I don't really know them and it's better to get to know eachother.

#4

I would just say no way..u kidding? *smile.*

#5

I will say, you can ask me 100millions of more times. The answer will remain the same.

[Kimbree]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down? No

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship? I dont want to ruin our current friendship D:

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down? *Runs away & Laughs*

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down? *Runs away & Laughs*

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop? Pee off, Wanna see my bf's guns? (Muscles)

[-aimeex]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?
-Actually I just turned down someone last Saturday. I told him that I didn't want to go out, but we could be friends.

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?
-Erm I'll probably tell him the truth and that I don't have those sorts of feelings for him and hope that we can still be friends.

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?
-If I don't know them...I'd probably tell it straight with a 'no'.

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?
-Tell him no but we can still be friends.

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?
-if it gets way too annoying I'd probably blow up in his face...idk.

[myxo]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?
There's nothing nice about rejecting someone. Either way it's going to hurt so might as well tell the truth and get it over with. I'm blunt, which taken the wrong way makes me a pinkberry. The last two times I rejected someone, I just told him I didn't like him that way and have made it clear from the beginning that I was only interested in being friends.


#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?
It didn't destroy our friendship. I told him I only regarded him as a friend/brother and that I had no other intentions. AND at that time I DID like someone else, so I told him who I liked. heh


#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?
Dude... I don't even know you.


#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?
This is getting repetitive. Same as all of the above.


#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?
You know, if it's a friend and I specifically told him I didn't like him and he still doesn't respect my decision enough to leave me alone, then he's not much of a friend, is he? If it's a stranger or someone I barely know, then avoid at all costs!

[x__harlequin]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?

hmmm well there's really no nice way of rejection but i'll say sorry but i dont want a boyfriend right now

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?

i'll just ask him about if we're still gonna b friends after we break up and i'll say no i just wanna stay friends

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?

i'll say "sorry but i dont know you"

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?

say "i have a boyfriend"

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?

ughhh i hate ppl that do that! it really pisses me off. i just say "get the *BEEP* away from me you little *BEEPY BEEP BEEP*!"

[Left_King]

:S I dont think i need to explain my answers... I'd just say... "I'm Sorry" ...and hopefully she'll understand!

Being honest is the best!!!

[xrockstar]

#1...and you don't want to be mean and hurt them, how do you turn him/her down?
Jusy say sorry, and if they were real friends, they would understand.

#2...and it's actually a really good friend of yours and you like someone else, how do you turn him/her down without destroying your friendship?
Say, I hope we can still be friends, and if that doesn't work out, confront him.

#3...and you don't really know this person, but he/she says he/she knows you, how do you turn him/her down?
Well depends actually. If you have heard that this person really likes you, I might him a chance. But if I don't know him AT ALL I would say no.

#4...and you don't like this person at all, how do you turn him/her down?
A simple I'm sorry and walk away.

#5...and this person wont stop asking you out how do you make them stop?
Yell. <-- immature, but I would do that if they are annoying you.