[blackthorn]

So I'm in college, and I have this problem...

I have a lot of guys interested in me, but none are interested in being just friends. they all either like me or want to hook up with me- even the ones with girlfriends!

and once they find out i'm not interested, they don't want to be friends anymore.

why does this happen to me? and how can i change this? im really sad about it..

[blackthorn]

does any have any suggestions? im getting really annoyed at the situation..

[Strawberii]

Could it be the way you dress that makes them think this way?
Maybe you just give them a "sexual" vibe?
i suggest if you dress provocatively, change it.
Try to not give off the flirtacious vibe?

[milk-o]

Seriously, you don't need to put much effort if you really do just want to have some guy friends. If you're annoyed at those guys who'd hang out with you to hook up with you, then you probably just don't know the right places and people to hook up without the glitch of ulterior motives.

But in a direct sense, maybe there is one problem with you. Guys might think you're one of those who looks too girly and easy that guys prolly think that you're one playing hard to get...

[ms. rachellica]

only one of my guy friends was like that. if all ur guy friends are like that, i dun think they're gud guy friends. i'm in college too and a majority of my friends are guys. the only reason why they look at me as just a friend is 1. i'm taken and 2. they look at me as a lil sis.

[sodaniechea]

Are you flirty with them? You probably just haven't met a good guy friend yet

[nolavalon]

As a guy, I think the majority of guys who befriend a girl is for the purpose of trying to get with her.
Obviously I am different from all those guys, I am sincere and honest....ahem, back to you.
Those guys are probably not really your friends anyway if that's what they are after.
But on the other hand, make sure you don't send mix messages and inadvertently egg them on.
Drop hints like "You are a great FRIEND!" or when the topic of what type of guys you are into, be honest and describe something he is definitely NOT.

[miika]

Maybe you're talking to the wrong types of guys... There are good guys out there not looking for relationshipss... Usually you have to approach them first.

And maybe it's you. Do you act too flirty?

[marvinoppa]

So I'm in college, and I have this problem...

I have a lot of guys interested in me, but none are interested in being just friends. they all either like me or want to hook up with me- even the ones with girlfriends!

and once they find out i'm not interested, they don't want to be friends anymore.

why does this happen to me? and how can i change this? im really sad about it..

cuz you a ho....or at least you give off that vibe.

As a guy, I think the majority of guys who befriend a girl is for the purpose of trying to get with her.
Obviously I am different from all those guys, I am sincere and honest....ahem, back to you.
Those guys are probably not really your friends anyway if that's what they are after.
But on the other hand, make sure you don't send mix messages and inadvertently egg them on.
Drop hints like "You are a great FRIEND!" or when the topic of what type of guys you are into, be honest and describe something he is definitely NOT.

you sir, are obviously single...or gay.

[heyitzthatfc]

cuz you a ho....or at least you give off that vibe.



you sir, are obviously single...or gay.

HAHA

[myxo]

cuz you a ho....or at least you give off that vibe.



you sir, are obviously single...or gay.

Haha..... not.
That's not necessarily true.


Most of my guy friends end up liking me at one point or another, but those that stay as my friends after I reject them are true friends. Most guys I meet at parties don't generally want to be just friends. I've met lots of guys who give off the vibe as just wanting to be friends initially, but later they end up asking me out on dates. And for the record, I don't dress provocatively or act promiscuous either. Most guys I meet at school end up wanting to be just friends even if I end up rejecting them later. Just change the situation/environment where you're meeting people at.

[ShadowMax76]

As a guy, I think the majority of guys who befriend a girl is for the purpose of trying to get with her.
Obviously I am different from all those guys, I am sincere and honest....ahem, back to you.
Those guys are probably not really your friends anyway if that's what they are after.
But on the other hand, make sure you don't send mix messages and inadvertently egg them on.
Drop hints like "You are a great FRIEND!" or when the topic of what type of guys you are into, be honest and describe something he is definitely NOT.

LOL. ...no..LOL

cuz you a ho....or at least you give off that vibe.



you sir, are obviously single...or gay.

unfortunately, i agree with the first statement.


_______to the OP:
young men are young: they tend to have one thing on their mind _ ..my only argument for them is "they can't help it"

you're probably one of the most visually appealing female around. so the boys flock to you with one intention, especially if they're super nice...

[plus... i'm guessing you've grown comfortable with guys? it may seem to them you're flirting.. >>' there's hardly many girls that are comfortable with guys, so when a new guy feels this instant connection with this girl that gets well along with him... it's expected. ]

Guys don't grow out of this mindset until they have met girls like you , and/or have realised that they should stop falling for the next pretty girl that crosses them. that they should have a 'friendzone' as well.. to prevent wanting to be with any girl that's pretty.

-salutes- all you can do is teach 'em . and search for the guys that have learned this.

BTW. =.=' immature boys run away when they don't get what they want.. _ college... lol. aren't there a heap of hooking up going on ? neh. -sighs -

[KateLove]

Those saying she's a Ho or dresses like one. Umm not necessarily true.
Most guys being to talk to a girl because of some sort of attraction == it's
normal for guys to fall for a girl-friend.

The question really is why they won't stay her friend when she suggests they
just be friends ... could be the type of guy she goes after, o0oor she could be
putting out a "I like you" message.

[ueboprincess]

Ok.....FIRST off...GUYS WITH GURLS NO NO!.....they can do the same thing back at u...
SECOND......if u not feeling them and u reject them and they hating on u cause u said NO...then WHO CARES if they dont wanna be friends with u no more
to be straight up with u....THEY WANNA GET IN UR PANTIES....

if they dont respect ur rejection then they not worth it......

also....it doesnt have to be the way u dress...it can sometimes be the personality of a person that draws someone.....look dont let them get u down ...ur in college to do ur thing...dont let guys mess up what ur trying to succeed in doing with ur life.

[Pogichinoy]

The guys have too much pride to be just your friend after being rejected, and/or they didn't want to be friends to begin with.

Why do you attract these guys? Usually it would be from your looks.

[sus]

maybe its the way u portray urself
the way u interact with the guys

maybe flirt less ( u mite not be aware u are)

maybe the clothes u wear

how u talk etc...

tone it down

[Flicksityy]

Maybe you're just naturally a flirt but you just don't see it?