[ShadowMax76]

and it didn't work?

_ i'm thinking of personal differences. and people trying to make it work within themselves.
rather than external factors. so ..please don't mention education, distance or parents. :]


SINCE . i keep thinking that the only reason people/friends/love birds ever split up is because of a lack of communication+honesty and the appropriate course of actions.


i keep thinking that 'the' feelings, trust, happiness can be 'rekindled' if the two people sat together and worked on it.

" it feels like you're taking me for granted" / " when you said..." / " i didn't mean it seriously.."etc..


_ of course..between the two people
it'd require maturity, the ability to understand one's self, to be able to tell things honestly as well as listen honestly..
and the ability to act on our flaws, and our bad habits that cause the other understandable pain.
_woo. empathy~

_ that most of the time we're too hurt to listen to what may save us from nights of sleeping on a wet pillow.. [rofl~ cliches -sigh-]


less abstractly..

do you think there's nothing that can't be fixed in a relationship?

[..the only issue i see is immaturity -typically including ulterior motives that guys have, and those psycho girls.. - , which would have to be grown out of.. or even taught/corrected... ]

[akiralove]

i think its possible to fix a relationship.. but i think it just takes time
many people feel awkward to see their ex again after a relationship has ended...
me and my ex broke up more than a year ago... but everytime i see him i think it's kinda awkward
but i agree that communication+trust and course of action is the very key to communication
and maturity of course
i wish i was more mature than i am now half a year ago... -.-

if you asked if there was a time where two people tried their best.. well that didnt happen to me.. it is more one sided...
i tried my best.. still trying heh

[Niji-kun]

Me and my ex tried our hardest, but we kept running into problems, and me and him kept getting more and more distant; he thought it was because we didn't get much time together because he didn't want it to be public.

So we ended up breaking up because we just couldn't make it work no matter how hard the two of us tried. xP
I think it was mostly lack of communication.

We tried... but I don't think everything in a relationship can be fixed, depending on the people in it.

[&teekayy;]

Ha... I think no matter how hard you try and if it's just not the same or like not really workin... maybe there's just no feelings... It happens. That's one thing you can't fix, the natural feeling for the other person, I guess.

Sometimes even when there aren't any problems, and you feel like something's still missing or that something's wrong.. then it's just not gonna work out. haha

[ohlalaitstina]

rawr. me and my ex broke up like almost a month ago, and everytime i see him
i would remember all the memories . . even the bad one. he cheated on me and
lie to me and everything . its hard to accept that i did love him a lot and he did that
to me . . now i can't really trust anyone .___. specially guys .
i want a guy that i could trust and everything.

[Meenuh]

Lol. It feels like this topic was MADE for me. My bf and I have yet to break up (although we did break up multiple times but only to get back together again in a day) permanently. We are totally different. Not lifestyle wise really since we both love playing games and what not but personality wise we clash a lot. It's because the things that upset me don't upset him and vice versa. We are definetly trying our hardest to make it work and trying to fix our personality flaws.

As long as the two people are willing and REALLY try then I believe anything can be fixed. I have fixed a lot of things since being with my bf and he has done the same and although it's a very slow process we're trying to be more understanding towards eachother and it's working. So as long as i'm with him I think i'll continue to believe that anything is possible as long as both of you are putting your all into it.

[Echoe]

It can only work if both parties are willing to try. If only one person wants to make it work and the other doesn't, it's pretty much a lost cause.

[underneathHERskin]

I believe that anything can be fixed if both people put the efforts into it. But then again, if you have to try THAT hard to make something work, then do you really think it's meant to be?

I think not.

[seryberry]

me and my ex tried to fix our relantionship. I did my best to communicate, (because he said i never did) but communicating to him was 'Call him when I take all my breaks, did any of my ex's call? did i run into anybody?."

we lived like 45 minutes away and I always drove up to see him, i spent majority of my time at his place cause my parents are still a little strict (hehe)

he was just so needy, like when I have a day off or 2, i HAD to be with him. And I am very family oriented and he hated the fact that I was so close to my cousins (which is soo stupid!!!)

he was cheating on me with his ex-gf. yeah, took me awhile to crack that code, stupid me.

so when i finally left him, he had already got a new gf BUT he was still trying to pursue me. he's just crazy; he made another myspace so he could message me (because I had blocked his original one) i had to change my number cause he wouldnt leave me alone.

[angelcadex]

Most failed marriages I would say?

If you want a specific example, my mom was telling me about how she fought with her ex boyfriend, they broke up, and months later they decided to get back together to try and make it work. It just didn't feel the same way because of the time they spent apart, that happens sometimes.

[insanelyCRAZY]

I believe..

lack of:
..communication
..maturity
..confidence

are the reasons why relationships just "dont work out"

[sus]

i think that if both parties are willing to communicate and compromise then nethign can be worked out

but if one parti is immature and doesnt want to try.. it will hinder the relationship... n eventualli fall apart

love can always be rekindled... peoples feelings change all the time...