[mystified]

problem solved --mods please delete

[mentholatum132]

i think...
you should have a meeting with everyone in ur house and try to talk things out. if ur guest starts crying, don't immediately forgive her. tell her what you don't like about what she's doing or her habits. make your point, and don't back down.

just some adivce, hope it helps

[natsurei]

...Oh samething happened to me.
We had my aunt and uncle's whole family staying.
And they started to boss around me and my siblings like we were maids.
And my auntie told me I was adopted and should just run away to make more room for her family. (Which I'm not, but that was just o__O offending).
I told my mom about this, and she talked to my uncle(her brother). And @__@ the way they solved it was..she lent them money to down for a new home. Yeah.

It's kind of hard to show them your point, because they're older than you though. And you need to respect the elderly. So yeah, I handed the issue over to my parents. And when they cry to try to get out of the problem. Make sure not to pity them. Or atleast make a compromise? And make sure they stand to their word.

[ly*chee]

Sometimes you need to know when to put your foot down.
I can lend you my dad...he never stops yelling even when you're crying on your knees.
Jk about the lending part.

Anyway I agree, you guys should have a family meeting with this person, and tell them that you can't stand what they do.
You've given them plenty of chances to change, you've extended your hand out to help them and they don't even have to pay rent [or are they?] and yet they thank you by treating your house like a hotel. If they start crying, don't start jumping in saying sorry, tell them you don't want to see them cry, but unless they start showing change, they'll have to find somewhere else to stay.

Best of luck... luckily I've never had this situation...just remember they may be crying just so you feel sorry for them and forget why you were frustrated in the first place.

[cerys]

If I were your parents, that relative of yours would have bee kicked out long ago.

I'm nasty like that :E

[xxxxxxx]

I think you should tell your parents.
I don't really like the ideas of family meetings because for me, kids never get a say in things. When you said that the relative expected you to apologize, it just shows that she doesn't take you seriously.

As for your possessions, get a lock . It helps (:
I hope things get better.

[CaramelSweetie]

kick them out! >( I wouldn't be able to handle being bossed around by someone other than my parents.

[scatter_me]

Just kick them out, you've tried as hard as you can.

[bunnypark]

i thoought u meant like a brother or sis.
and i was like yeah!! my sister!!! haha. jk.
but u should talk to her nicely. or mean.
since ur annoyed. i would tell my mom and
whine until they get kicked out! it really works. haha.or make
up an excuse that u need the room cause
ur moms having a baby or something.

[Wendyyy]

Is this relative of a certain age?
It's only out of respect if its like your grandmother that your parents let her do what she wants.
If it is like a cousin, then let her know that she is in your territory!
If it's an aunt, have your mom or dad have a talk with them and state your concerns and issues to address it with her.

I have had this situation many times and it is veryyyy annoying! Lol.
Don't bottle it up because the feeling is unbearableee!
Hopefully your parents will understand and help you with the situation, if not, I think that you should confront the family member yourself.
In a calm and stern manner of course.



GL!

[lovecubedlee]

when i read the title, i was like "dude. i know exactly how you feeeel. i hate our new dog"

but now im like WTF
kick them the freak out.
i know you're pretty much useless in the situation cuz you're "just a kid"
and your parents obviously don't have the heart to tell em how it is...

maybe you should be a complete pig/b**ch/jerk/everyterriblenouninthedictionary
and then they'll be like "wow. wtf. i don't wanna live here anymore" and peace the heckk outt.
give them a taste of their own medicine (<-- is that the right phrase?)

[YUNA!]

OMG.
I SO TOTALLY UNDERSTAND YOU!! :#@%*($%&

My sister has this best friend of hers since elementary school that moved back to Japan
BUT she had to come here for high school study, so even if handling three children and a dog AND TWO OTHER FAMILIES THAT LIVE IN THE BASEMENT IN THE FREKAING BASEMENT isnt enough, my parents, AS KIND AS THEY ARE, brought that homestay girl into our family. All she does is eat, eat, eat, eat, EAT. She doesnt even help out with the dishes. Okay, I understand that she's a homestay and she doesn't NEED to do dishes. BUT COME ON. If you were staying at your best friend's house, wouldn't you be at least courteous to your aunty and ask her if she needed help cleaning up? NO, NOT IN HER WORLD. SHE EATS, AND SLIDES OUT OF THE KITCHEN. SHE EATS LOTS TOO!! GAWD....@#*(&%(*^ AND the worst thing is, she is staying here for about two or three years. WORSE, she's influencing my little sister to talk about BOYS BOYS AND ONLY BOYS ever since her arrival. The ONLY THING that comes out of her mouth is: BOYS. GSO:FJKS

Aghhh... sounds similar-ish? ><!!!!

[P a p e r_C l i p]

Have you talked to your parents about it? You should tell them how you feel about it
& if they feel the same way but don't want to kick them out because they feel bad, then convince them otherwise & tell them what they've been doing to you and your stuff. Let your parents know your point of view

It seems to me that they're crossing the line & you should let them know that
If your parents never do anything about them then they'll never learn =/

[Flicksityy]

Tell your parents about it, and actually have hard proof. Tape down what they are doing when your parents aren't home, and actually show them who's the boss.

You're your parents daughter, so you should be the priority when it comes to believing.