[sidney]

I'm just wondering what do you guys reply when your s/o says I love you.....but you're not ready/don't want to say it back? Stand there? "aww how cute"? "aw"??? Or lie and say i love you back too even though that makes you uncomfortable? Or do you tell him straight out you don't think it's necessary to say it all the time or you're not ready for that yet?

The thing is back then I already told my bf to stop saying ILY to me (it was 3 weeks into the relationship ) and he got really hurt from it, he went emo for 2 days (to his defense, 3 weeks is pretty fast but we knew each other for 2 years before that already).... Ever since he hasn't say it but lately, 5 months later, he been saying it again and i didn't know what to do so i just......give no response.

[Adionik]

lol @ emo.

but in all seriousness...i don't blame you. i see how you're no stranger to his life with the 2 years thing and all. but he sounds a little over excited. I don't know if talking to him will do anything considering the way he's acted already

I was put in this position once and...i think i lied. it is extremely ridiculously uncomfortable....

[legoart]

Be honest. Tell him that while you care for him and like him, but you need your own time.

At the same time, understand that he might genuinely feel for you, and believe his love for you as valid and sincere, so while you might not be on the "love boat", don't make him feel as though he's progressing too fast and being fickle.

Good luck.

[sidney]

At the same time, understand that he might genuinely feel for you, and believe his love for you as valid and sincere, so while you might not be on the "love boat", don't make him feel as though he's progressing too fast and being fickle.

but how do i do that? ><

[PhuongNguyen]

My boyfriend told me he loves me after 3-4 months, but I didn't tell him until after 2 years. He knows I feel very strongly about that word so he didn't expect to hear it back when he said it. He told me that he said it because he felt that way, and whether or not I felt the same at that moment didn't matter because either way, he still loves me.

But yeah, I pretty much just gave him a hug and a kiss when he said it.

[sus]

mmm i actualli laughed at my SO when he first said it
i thought he was joking.. cos yea it was one month into our official relationship....

mmm then he goes he serious then i asked him why how... etc was curious n stuff
of course he knew i didnt love him...

so yea he accepted it
he still said it to me waitin patientli....

n yea i evntualli said it
=)

[MNLV27]

My s/o was the first one to say it to me but at that time I wasn't ready to say the same back. Just like the op, we known each other for two years almost three and just started dating for a few weeks and he already said it to me. But I told him the truth, I said that I wasn't ready to actually say the three words back at him yet and he understood.

But the way he first said it to me was really random and kinda mean..lol..but in the end it was really cute...
he was like, "Linda, I don't like you anymore."
After that we were silent for a few minutes, I was thinking 'did I do something?' and I was starting to feel sad and I didn't know what to say.
But suddenly he said, "I don't like you anymore because I love you now."
Immediately that brought a smile to my face and it was just a really big relief. then he started laughing and saying, "you thought I was going to break up with you huh?" and all that other teasing stuff..lol...and I told him that I wasn't ready to say it back to him yet and he understood...But when I did, it was at a time when he was mad at me, and I used his method..lol...At that time he really thought I didn't like him anymore..lol...revenge was sweet but its all good..lol..

[manlytoe]

i'm a "me too" person when i don't know how to reply to them that's when they say something like that.

like if he says "I LOVE YOU." that's when i go "awwwww, me too" lol.

[blush]

i'm a "me too" person when i don't know how to reply to them that's when they say something like that.

like if he says "I LOVE YOU." that's when i go "awwwww, me too" lol.

HAHAHA! Me too, me too! <-- xD

Yeah, I mean, I say it without ACTUALLY saying it. It works most of the time.

Or, if I feel really uncomfortable, then I laugh nervously and somehow make the subject change.

[Unanimous]

this happened to me but vice versa (im a girl btw)
i said "I Love You" first. we both agreed not to say it unless we meant it, well i said it when we were about to break up over a nasty fight.
my s/o didnt say "I Love You" back at that moment but he did hug me and we ended up not breaking up.

so my suggestion is if you are not ready just play it cool. there's no need to lie or create tension. a simple hug and/or kiss would do. or just smile and continue on with whatever that you both were doing ^.^

[onewaylove]

SEE YOU IN CHEMISTRY! *slams door in face


hahahah, drake and josh. but uh. i am a 'me too' person... too xD

[Lilaaa]

"That's nice..."

[Pogichinoy]

Just say 'Thanks.'

Like Ryan and Marissa on the O.C.

xD

[Tuxedomask]

I just tell her that I really like her.

[clear_blue_rain]

idk i haven't been in this situation yet
but.
i probably would say "ME TOO" and give him a nice big hug!

[cinnamoroll]

i just giggled and hugged him the first few times. he stopped saying it thereafter. i think he began to think about it. and it also made me think about it. and i was like when i say it, it's going to be real (or as far as i know in that point in time). and there was no rush either. but he said it again like 2 months later, and i responded back because i couldnt wait to.. i had to tell him. i couldnt let him not know by that point. he also admitted that the first times he said it he didn't mean it like he did this time. i know it took him a lot of bravery the first time to say it, so i know he thought it over before saying it to me.

[Melitus]

"let's break up, i didn't want you to developed feelings for me too fast because I'm only in it for your money, since you're going to ask me to marry you sooner or later, basically a life sentence. I'll choose to lose a couple of $$$$ then to be with you"

[GOOMBA]

"you`re so sweet" + a kiss

[situponatree*]

"thank you very much."


ah poor dude.

[underneathHERskin]

My boyfriend said this to me within the first month of going out. He said it on night on the phone when we were about to hang up. I thought I heard wrong, so the next day, he was like "Did you hear what I said last night?" Then I prentended I didn't and he was like "I said I love you".

It was silent for like two seconds and I was like "thanks...". Then I told him I'm not gonna say it just cause he did, I'll say it when I'm ready. It's been 8 months and I still haven't said it to him, but he always go like "I know you love me too" LOL. Boys..... T_T