[ymt]

so basically, i've really liked four guys in my life. Two of them, i was not physically attracted to them at all in the beginning. But they really grew on me because i thought they were so nice, kind, and caring. But they all turned about to be jerks; inconsiderate and no manners. I got so disappointed because i thought they were "the one". But no, they're all a-holes.

So now i'm having a hard time trusting guys. I don't want to like any guys anymore because i don't want to end up getting disappointed and hurt. i have never met a guy who is genuinely sweet, kind, and actually cares. I seriously think these type of guys are extinct now. What do you guys think?

[Torento <3]

I'm one of them

But yeah, seriously, I understand what you mean, often girls (Japanese ones especially, because usually it's guys who think they are 'easy' that hit on them and yeah....) tell me about the problem.

Good luck, sure you'll find someone nice eventually.

[Shikabane Hime]

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=262196

This is why they turned bad ass.

No really. You should be blaming your female peers.

But then again, you just have bad luck. Nice people have the worst luck ever cause they always run into the types of people that don't want them. Then they feel that the only way to get ahead is to change. And they do. Then they meet someone that wants a nice guy or girl, but it's too late. Aw.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

You know. It's actually all around you.
What you don't know is Behind the words nice and sweet, there's a chain that connects to the word "clingy" and "needy"
of course there are exceptions, but most nice and sweet guys are like that.

When you find that, doubt you're gonna like the guy. Which is why you never find one, when in reality, they're actually all around you.

[f_r_E_a_K]

Lots of girls think it is hard, that's why many people (mostly girls, some guys) are into the Twilight books....it's "every girl's dream", as I've heard it phrased many times before. It's rare IMO to find dedicated and sincere guys, just because of the fragile nature of modern relationships...many times the relationships aren't even sincere, and it's just a fling or booty call... sighhhh ~

[LeCiel.]

ahm.. yea.. i think its hard to find..
i've been liking a guy that is so nice, smart, caring or sweet..
but i found out that he has a gf.. so i was like

i cant really find some here..
they're always getting in trouble..
i hope i can find someday..

maybe there's a guy around you that likes you ^^
and he's just perfect for u ...
i hope you'll meet him

[colloquy]

Eh... I actually find that the hardest thing to find is maturity. Also, friendliness and respect also.

This is why I tend to date older men. And I mean at least a couple years older.

And I don't understand why everyone brings up the fact that some teenage girls prefer a bad ass, mean guy. It's simply a fantasy.

[sukixyume]

Yes.
Every girl wants to find "the one", but if you walk into every relationship with that train of thoughts, you'll end up disappointing yourself most of the time.

[supa'Wanki]

I'm a very very very caring person. I could be sweeter and nicer.

[Gucci Mama]

so basically, i've really liked four guys in my life. Two of them, i was not physically attracted to them at all in the beginning. But they really grew on me because i thought they were so nice, kind, and caring. But they all turned about to be jerks; inconsiderate and no manners. I got so disappointed because i thought they were "the one". But no, they're all a-holes.

So now i'm having a hard time trusting guys. I don't want to like any guys anymore because i don't want to end up getting disappointed and hurt. i have never met a guy who is genuinely sweet, kind, and actually cares. I seriously think these type of guys are extinct now. What do you guys think?

I have to agree with you.. there aren't that many. Just keep in mind that some are better than others.

Don't keep your standards too high, because they have feelings/emotions/baddays/hormones too..

And fugly doesn't necessarily mean nice, my neighbor upstairs proved that for me. So don't just pick out the fugly hoping that they'd be nice.

[maharu.]

Well its boring when all the guys are great. You need those jerks to make those guys shine.
It is difficult to find a sincere person but that possibility can grow if you let it grow.

I have met some great guys due to sports and work.
And I remember I hated this guy cause I thought he was stupid but actually, he just wasn't honest with his emotions.

I tend to think that people who are over mid 20s are much more stable and mature and may grow out of that stage.
Of course it depends on the person but I find people who are over in the mid 20s much more caring, considerate, and has their priorities straight.

[Shikabane Hime]

Well its boring when all the guys are great. You need those jerks to make those guys shine.
It is difficult to find a sincere person but that possibility can grow if you let it grow.

I have met some great guys due to sports and work.
And I remember I hated this guy cause I thought he was stupid but actually, he just wasn't honest with his emotions.

I tend to think that people who are over mid 20s are much more stable and mature and may grow out of that stage.
Of course it depends on the person but I find people who are over in the mid 20s much more caring, considerate, and has their priorities straight.

Oh I see, so girls are only saying they want the jerk, but they're only doing it cause they want to make the nice guys stand out.
Ah, that makes sense, except the fact that nice guys don't pick this up (cause you know, guys are pretty slow) and think being bad ass is the way to go.

Good intention, failed execution.

[manlytoe]

they're not extinct. sometimes, they could be right in front of you and you don't even notice it.
all my guy friends are great people (nice, sweet, and caring). but we all end up becoming friends instead.
either that or they're gay and i have no chance at all. lol. but great guys like that do exist. at least where i am from.

i'm talking to a great guy right now. i do hope these sparks turn into a flame. LMAO. oh god, that sounded corny. lol.

[bebexlove]

Took me awhile to find the my-perfect guy. But it just takes time and patience. Don't worry he's out there. (A bit cliche but.. yeah. ^^)

[euricexlovesxrice]

haha...it's funny cuz now that i think about it....i actually know some

..it's like one of my guy friends... i never used to talk to him except by asking him for help on hw or asking him to draw me something .. and this year. i had joined the math team. .. he was in it.. and since there were only like 8 ppl in freshmen that joined all of us pretty much hanged out everytime we wait till the contest starts. (we wait for like 2 and a half hours) and so every wednesday (that's the practice days) we would get to talk...
in general..for the whole 3 years that i've known him he'll always be the kind of guy to make fun of whatever i say.. or something..and say no to whatever i say.

then 2 days ago.. we had one of those meets... we decided to walk outside (kind of stupid cuz it was freakin cold ) and we went to a pizza place... he bought all 4 of us pizza and a drink for 15 bucks... and he didnt buy anything for himself... i said i'd pay him back he just joked around and said it's his x-mas present...


..now that i think about it... even if he pushes me away or run away everytime i ask him for money, he still ends up giving me some...



hmm... and he always helps me... and stuf...and listen to me.... even if he makes fun of me complaining... and stares at me funny...

and hangs around that sophomore that makes me so irritated....and mayb ...

even jealous..

hmmm...

i think i may be falling

[Stevent]

Nice, sweet, and caring guys are still there. They're the ones that you run to when you have problems or they're the ones that don't stand out as much compared to the "bad ass" type of guys. Not all guys are the same, just that into consideration.

[Emerald Snow]

Most of my guy friends are nice, sweet, and caring. Not to mention mature, responsible, and respectful. They're definitely out there.

[JASON;]

You know what, the other topic about nice guys is so contradicting.

[chocomocha]

true genuine nice guys are out there..but they have very high standards..
they what u would call a great person!

u got to set your standards high and then u will meet someone who's great!
don't fall for people easily.. because then your meet someone who's easy!
someone who's easy is not bottherd

[Torento <3]

Yeah, all the nice guys change because girls like the 'hard' guys.