[anikano]

There's this guy I've liked for the longest time and I found out awhile ago that he was moving away to
London for 2 years. At first I was really excited for him because I use to live in London and was telling
him about the fun things he could do, but now that it's finally sinked in, that he's moving. Although I'm
still excited for him. I'm kind of, well, speechless, for the lack of a better word. :/

So I recently gained enough courage to tell him that I like him and he said that he liked me too but the
problem is that I don't know if I should really start anything with him knowing if he's moving away for 2
years. I'm really torn because I really really like him.

I really need help because I don't know if I should even try when he's just going to move.

And I would also like to know, if you would date someone when you know they're leaving/moving away?

EDIT: He's moving Jan 7th about a month from now. :[

[MoonlightChunsa]

Well, he's only gonna be in London for two years right? So you could still date him if your okay with not seeing him in person for awhile and just keep in touch with him through emails or whatever. Or you can just stay like his close friend and date others and if you still want each other when he returns...then start dating? Personally, I guess i feel a little torn too...but if i really like the guy and know that i will see him again, i think i would try and do the long distance thing...hey it worked for my mom and dad, once! You see, my dad was living here in america to study, while my mom was back in my home country Peru. As she told me, my mom only got to see my dad for a week every year, for a few years...through the rest of the year they wrote each other...they made it through all that and got married (not saying you should be thinking that far...haha but if it worked for them...*shrugs* )

[EGLx]

hmm depends, when is he moving? if its not anytime soon, you can still talk to him and stuff, although, it WILL hurt to say goodbyes... but if he's moving soon, i guess you just have to be strong and tame your feelings, you'll be happy that you did and that the feelings didnt grow stronger than what they would have been if you guys dated on a more intimate level.

I'm actually in the same position you are, but i was already dating the guy when we both found out. His parents decided to move to nevada next summer (we're on the east coast) and we're both in college. We've been dating a little over 2 months, things are smooth... and i try not to think about him leaving. I'm just going to enjoy and cherish the time i have with him now, we still have like... 5 or 6 months until the end of next semester, so who knows, maybe we'll end up hating each other and/or breaking up within those months... but if we dont and end up falling helplessly in love then, im screwed i guess? cause i dont plan on having a long distant relationship, im trying to not get too attached cause it'll hurt us both in the end, and leaving him now is out of the question cause we still have a lot of time to be together. If we knew he would end up moving before, we probably would have thought twice, but if things do get serious, i guess the only thing that'll happen in the end is that we'll eventually drift away from each other =/

[Morphiex]

let me tell you this, enjoy the moment that you have right now. you could die in a insane crazy accident anytime , like a falling space toilet seat hitting you in the head , its slim but the possibility is there.

what i mean is , if you like him , he likes you and you think you can have good times together, then have those good times, enjoy those memories you will get from them.
You cant live your life thinking of the hurt that might come instead of the good that will come.

i just had a little relationship with this girl who moves back to her country in two days, we met about 3 months ago we both knew it was short while , but we both spent our time together and enjoyed our lives at this time.
instead of worrying about how we would feel afterwards we just were happy feeling happy right there and then.


as for long distance relationships , i dont think they work. you might think otherwise but 6+ months long distance will never work, eventually you run out of things to talk about or one side gets bored.

like i said just enjoy the good times you can have with him for now and then have those memories and move on with your life and if you two happen to be in the same place both emotionally and physically next time you meet then go with the flow.

[skim_milk]

dont waste your time, long distance relationships dont work either. its best not to get emotionaly attached

[bad boy]

There's this guy I've liked for the longest time and I found out awhile ago that he was moving away to
London for 2 years. At first I was really excited for him because I use to live in London and was telling
him about the fun things he could do, but now that it's finally sinked in, that he's moving. Although I'm
still excited for him. I'm kind of, well, speechless, for the lack of a better word. :/

So I recently gained enough courage to tell him that I like him and he said that he liked me too but the
problem is that I don't know if I should really start anything with him knowing if he's moving away for 2
years. I'm really torn because I really really like him.

I really need help because I don't know if I should even try when he's just going to move.

And I would also like to know, if you would date someone when you know they're leaving/moving away?

EDIT: He's moving Jan 7th about a month from now. :[

who cares, go ahead and fall in love!

he may move, share the memories now and reminisce later :]

enjoy the pleasure now, and reap the sorrow later

[babiiqrlxT]

I was still with my boyfriend even when I knew he was going to move to Las Vegas, Nevada sooner or later and I live in New York. When the day came he moved on October 27, 2008 it was very hard for me and him. I cried endlessly for a few nights and till now I still miss him a lot.


You can choose to stay with him if you think you'll be able to put up with it later on.
If you don't want to get hurt later on, you can try to move on.

But personally I think it'll be best if you can share as much memories as possible with him with the remaining time left.

[bad boy]

u can share the memories with him now, and share a long distance relationship

and have a substitute guy to keep you company in the mean time :]

[MNLV27]

I say that you should go for it. Spend as much time with him until he leaves, and if you two can get through the two years faithfully together, when he comes back, everything will be a piece of cake of you two since distance is the biggest obstacle for a couple and if they can go through that then they can go through anything. Well that's what I think, since I my s/o and I are in a ldr right now.

[kimmyb07]

This is EXACTLY what my situation was. Except, we had more time... My boyfriend and I went to college together last year, except he's an exchange student from Japan so we both knew he was leaving at the end of the year. I had absolutely no intention of going into a long distance relationship. Instead, I dated him because I liked him and just assumed that we'd break up before the end of the year.

Um, DIDN'T HAPPEN. We fell in love and it was impossible to leave it at goodbye. LDR's are tough, I'm not gonna lie. But I'd rather ride this out until we can be together with him than go be with another guy.

It's really up to you, but I don't think you should be scared off by the distance. Even if my relationship with my boyfriend ends up failing somehow, I don't regret a second of it because I've grown up, matured, and have learned a lot from the experience.

[Debbie1633]

I met a guy a month before I moved to a new city... he said that he would come down to visit me often and he said that I should go up to visit him. He was really persistent with me about dating him but I flatly refused. My reason is selfish though... I was going to move to a new town and I knew I was going to meet lots of new people. Why should I date someone I've known for just one month before I move?

BUT sometimes I do wonder what would happen if we had dated... would we be together still?

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Wouldn't.
Because there is no point of Long distance relationships.
but I would feel very sad, though.

[ji-hae]

I'm on the same boat as kimmyb07. My bf is an international kiddie too. I liked him and he liked me even though we were aware he was leaving 3 weeks later, we went out anyways. I originally thought it'd just be a fling, but we ended up caring for each other more than expected and are now still together. the relationship has its tough moments, but im happy i decided to go out with him. if our relationship falls apart because of the distance, its just how it turns out. i really enjoyed those 3 weeks and he should be back soonish. 5 months on christmas eve.

anikano: you should just try it out, it could be one of the happiest times you have. at least you won't regret having not tried. i know i'm glad i tried.