[x831]

So I've liked my guy friend for roughly 6 years now? I try really hard to move on and see that we can only be friends but I just keep having that hope. My family tells me to tell him and I started to think over and here is my decisions

1. Don't tell him and just try to let the feeling fade away someday. I mean I will be going to college soon so there will be other options. Plus this will perserve the friendship if he is to immature to look me as a friend every again if I tell him.

2. Tell him how I feel and hear him say we can't be more then friends and finally realize I need to move on. But still keep him as a friend because thats all I ever want. Maybe he would be mature and accept the fact and I wont be wondering "what ifs" for the rest of my life and actually took action.

I know in the end I need to make the decision but I just would like to know ur input.

[Shikabane Hime]

Tell him. What's the problem?

And why would you like an immature guy? lol that's good.

[tontamoo]

I'd flirt a little bit with him first to start dropping hints. Talk about relationships with him. Do nice things for him. Spend time with just the two of you.

Eventually, I'd tell him. Honestly, that was the only way I could get out of my inertia. It was awkward for about a month because I avoided him a little, but I got over him a lot faster than trying without knowing an answer either way.

[azn3dvietboy]

hey if he says no i'll take u on a nice date

[skim_milk]

6 years is a long time, im assuming u guys are in the FRIEND STAGE. hard to get out of that.
If you really wanna risk it, ask him on a date and see how he thinks.

Its better to ask before you guys go to college so you wont have that regret "WHAT IF"

[GloomyPookie]

I assume he's single? If he's not single then don't tell him.

If he's single:

Six years is a long time and obviously you can't move on. I think you should tell him how you feel.
Because if he doesn't return the feelings then you can finally end this chapter and move on.
Hearing/knowing how others feel gives you time to finally accept and then move on.

The reason why you can't move on is because you are stuck on the "What if" question.
So just go ahead and tell him. In the end, no matter how it goes, you will be happy even if it takes time.

I had liked a guy for about 3/4 years. When I was in my last year of highschool I musterterd up
all of my courage and told him that I liked him. All I got was an "OK" kind of answer and I just knew
he didn't like me back otherwise he would have said so. And I accepted that and was happy
that that was finally off my chest. I wasn't stuck on him anymore because my "what if" question was answered
and I could move on. Three years later I met my current boyfriend whom I really happy with.

So tell him! If he doesn't return the feeling you can finally move on and open your eyes for other great guys! And if he does return the feeling
then that's even better! Either way it's best if you tell.

[natsurei]

Tell him. If he says no, it's not the end of the world.
And as you said, you'll be going to college anyway and probably if you tell him and he says no, it'll fade(like you say it would).
There's no use in missing a chance.

I told my friend once, and he probably did before, jokingly or seriously. But he tends to be immature, so I didn't believe it. But inside, we knew what was happening(the feelings developing.) And yeah, if you don't want it or he doesn't, you'll eventually forget.
And at least if you tell him, he might think about it. You never knoww.

Goodluck.

[x831]

hey if he says no i'll take u on a nice date

Thanks for the offer lol.

Thanks so much for everyone's input!! But I forgot one thing...we live 10 hours apart(I moved away the summer before highschool) so now I need decide:
1)Tell him on the phone
2)Write a letter
3) Wait until the next time I go visit and tell him face to face. The next time I visit might be spring break, summer, or next summer...

What do you guys think?

[Left_King]

hmmmmmmmmmmm....since ur so far away now....I'm not sure if telling him ur feeling would do any good...!!!

But i think u should always be honest with ur feelings...if u like the guy, y not just tell him...
That way u hv an answer...
If its a no...then u know its time to move on...and im sure u'd get over him faster than if u didnt tell him
If its a yes...then...happy days ^^

Just find the best moment to tell him....dont just approach him and express ur feeling...
Give him hints... xP
as tontamoo said...flirt a lil ^^

[4ever_sweet]

I think you should tell him on the phone. Telling him in a letter won't help because you won't know his reaction....so then you'll still be curious and won't be able to move on. The phone is nice in that you hear his reaction.

Like everyone else said, I think you SHOULD tell him. You really got nothing to lose, you're going away to college anyways! Good luck! We are cheering you on!