[terrorist]

So i'm in college, and i seem to be the only always initiating conversation. what a hassle.

So i had a flashback in highschool. when girls would come to me and talk to me.
One random time this really hot girl started to get interested in me and staring at me a lot. I'm a pretty average--below average looking guy.
We became good friends during school.. we'd talk a lot etc etc.

Now i wonder.. what made her want to talk to me? I wasn't anything interesting, or i'm wondering if she had Asian fetish.. because she would often talk about her Filipino ex...


So the question for you girls. girls who actually approached a guy, for whatever reason.
What compelled you to approach him and tried to become friends with him or get to know him.

Was he cool? funny? mysterious?
give me the detailed story please-- short summary.

[yujiniffer]

I would approach a guy if he looked like he was easy to approach, open, kind and overall had a good personality. You know one of those guys you'd just love to get to know because they seem so good humored all the time.

For me, it doesnt have anything to do with looks because more often than not, (and i'm just generalizing here) the really good looking guys also tend to be judgemental/shallow or hard to approach.

Probably in college (unless you go to a liberal college) its pretty big, big classes so not everyone will notice everyone else whereas highschool is a pretty sheltered atmosphere so it wouldnt be hard to know most of the people in your graduating class.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Now i wonder.. what made her want to talk to me?

You know I wonder this as well. I don't wanna sound cocky or whatsoever, but I think my gf is quite pretty or at least above average for her age I mean, even my friends say that.
But anyways, I always wonder why? Out of many guys, there's many guys better than me, I don't know if I'm good looking or not, I certainly don't get "wow that guy is hot", or maybe I just don't hear them say that.
But to me I think i'm an average looking. So yeah sometimes I'm just confused, I don't look good, I don't this and that, so why did she like me??

BUT, I figure it out now. That's just because I have crap self esteem. I don't believe in myself.

anyways, I'm not a girl, so I don't know why they would approach guys, I say first impression really counts? lol.

[bad boy]

its different view and attractions to every girl

u cant do anything, its just base on luck

u should quit worrying and be yourself, be happy

go ape mini cooper!

but from my experience, u gotta make yourself known to get a girl attention

stand out of the crowd rather then blending in

life is too short to follow everyone else footstep

u gotta create your own path, and a lucky direction challenged girl will end up following that road along behind ya :]

[Shikabane Hime]

Only reason they talk to me is cause I look like I know my directions
And you know how new immigrants are generally lost. I guide them to my apartment.

[bad boy]

Only reason they talk to me is cause I look like I know my directions
And you know how new immigrants are generally lost. I guide them to my apartment.

LMAO LOLOLOLOL!!!!!!!!

i wish a hot chick do that to me

[LaydeeMel]

I approached my boyfriend. He was sitting like 2 feet away from em and we were waiting for his other friends. Somehow though we ended up alone and I was bored and he played a song from his phone and I had the same one on my phone. It was coincidence, but I approached him anyways scooted over to talk and get to know him.

I did it cause I though he was pretty cute, and didn't seem like a bad guy. Usually I approach guys who seem to be nice and laid back. But I used to be shy in High School and didn't do stuff like that till I got out of high school.

Usually I think most girls are scared to approach a guy first because they might think it's weird or be nervous or pretty much don't know how to. =x

[Flicksityy]

Only reason they talk to me is cause I look like I know my directions
And you know how new immigrants are generally lost. I guide them to my apartment.

ROFL I want to approach you already.

[joie.de.vivre]

i would only approach guys if they look friendly [not sure how to describe the 'friendly' look...it's just a feeling i get]

[~Tropical.Mists]

Hahaha! Well I started talking to my bf cuz I thought he was really interesting.
He was different from the types of guys that I generally liked or hung out with.
I guess it worked out cuz he's DEFINITELY different but it's refreshing and new =)

--xoxo.
TM

[happiisunshin]

Some of you guys don't look at yourself clearly. Maybe you ARE good looking or perhaps your personality is the most beautiful of all. Most girls are willing to fall for you when they have discovered the brilliant person behind the dark hoodie with a frown on his face.

The point is something about you is interesting and that caught those girls.

You see, the guys that I wanted to get to know more about, they all had something about them that made them appear interesting. I just felt that feeling (not in a romantic way but more like "Oh, I want to be his friend..") and then I approach in a friendly manner. And then friends!

[daulism]

Ummm, when I like a guy, & when time is running out (Like let's say he's a senior & bout to graduate soon) then I'll approach him.

[ILuVTiTTiEZ]

I mostly do it because I have no patience with boys/men anymore. I use to wait to be patient and wait to be courted, but I have found out that I'm much more skilled and BETTER than the boys/men that I encounter at courting someone.

Such as, if I'm at some sort of social event and a guy and I have been eyeing each other for some time during the evening, and nothing has yet to happen, I will get up and walk up and say, "Hello."

OR, if a guy is just that hott/interesting, I will simply introduce myself at first sight....

And these men that I do approach are usually: tall, blonde(sometimes), handsome, and carry a nice/big smile!

[yellowfishieee]

I approached my boyfriend because I didn't know anything about him =P We were in the same class, we sat across the room from each other, we lived in the same dorm (something I didn't know till later). I didn't talk to him till after the class was over (the next quarter). But I saw him at the bus stop almost every day. He seemed like such a shy guy, I remember in class every time he got embarrassed he would smile really big and he's got a great smile. Basically I approached him because he was good looking and I thought he was the cutest thing ever (the shyness). He's actually pretty different than my first impression but I'm not disappointed =)

[dabombhomiez]

Dude..be yourself man..
the harder you try the harder it is for you to get attention. you can't seem desperate..just relax and be confident..i think girls like that confidence in guys so yea..

[Xenos]

I mostly do it because I have no patience with boys/men anymore. I use to wait to be patient and wait to be courted, but I have found out that I'm much more skilled and BETTER than the boys/men that I encounter at courting someone.

Such as, if I'm at some sort of social event and a guy and I have been eyeing each other for some time during the evening, and nothing has yet to happen, I will get up and walk up and say, "Hello."

OR, if a guy is just that hott/interesting, I will simply introduce myself at first sight....

And these men that I do approach are usually: tall, blonde(sometimes), handsome, and carry a nice/big smile!

Now that's my kind of girl, assertive and direct getting what she wants.

Except no, guys should always make the first move. It's the rule of dating, sorry hun.

[eebboonbabiex3]

Personally, I don't have a problem approaching guys.
I'm pretty straight forward actually.
I think it's rather dumb when girls are just crushing over some guy but never do anything about it
If you want something, you have to go after it.
Most of the time, when I see someone I'm attracted to (appearance wise or whatever),
I'll walk up to them and introduce myself.
Your friend probably thought you were a cutie and wanted to get to know you.

[~koe*no*sainou~]

I would approach a guy if he looked like he was easy to approach, open, kind and overall had a good personality. You know one of those guys you'd just love to get to know because they seem so good humored all the time.

For me, it doesnt have anything to do with looks because more often than not, (and i'm just generalizing here) the really good looking guys also tend to be judgemental/shallow or hard to approach.

Probably in college (unless you go to a liberal college) its pretty big, big classes so not everyone will notice everyone else whereas highschool is a pretty sheltered atmosphere so it wouldnt be hard to know most of the people in your graduating class.

I 100% agree! If he looks like he's really outgoing and easy to approach, and wouldn't be weirded out when you talk to him...then it's worth a try! I hate people who seem to just stare at you like "ok..." when you try to talk to them. When I get that kinda impression from someone, I tend to avoid them.

I heard that folding your arms subconciously makes the person feel that you're not approachable and therefore doesn't approach you ^ ^; Uhh...smiling helps? xD It's better to be with one other person as well...who's of the same sex of course. Since it'd be intimidating to approach you while you're with a group of guys...and it's hard to see your true personality when you're just sitting alone. Then when there's another guy there, it's easier to engage in a friendly conversation ^ ^

[RiderKamen]

Long story short, I met this girl on a chat site like months ago and since this week we've been going HARD on the keys. I think eventually we'll meet up in person.

I asked her why she found me attractive (cause people don't say nothing to me online or offline) and she said that I looked approachable and that I'm laid back. And I definitely know that I stick out like a roach on a white wall. So hey

[None]

Well, see... he was just so.... you know, I mean, he's like... he's just like... so.. I mean he looked so.... you know... just standing there and all... and I was just... I mean.. he's just makes you.. like... you know?