I've been dating this guy since the beginning of this year, well we've been on and off.
He's cheated on several times and well... I broke up with him every time I did find out about him cheating.
But he would always come back into the picture, tell me that he's sorry and that he wants me back.
So... what do I do? I take him back...
I hate that I'm so vulnerable when it comes to him.
I've actually never loved anyone until I met him.
I have this small hope in me that he'll change and eventually learn to appreciate me
I just don't understand how he can look into my eyes, tell me that he loves me, then does all the things he does.
I'm stuck in a point... where I know what he's up to but I just don't confront him anymore.
I know that it's hopeless because he's just going to deny it, then we're going to get into a fight and break up again.
I'm scared that the next time, he won't come back for me.
I'm at a point when he has trouble lying to me... I'll help him make up lies.
It's ridiculous actually. As much as I want to let him go, I don't think I can stand it without him.
I know that time will heal the pain eventually
but how am i supposed to let go of some one when I'm so scared to lose him.
I know I sound really sad... but I must say, I REALLY love him... to death.
What To Do With This A$$hole Boyfriend? need your opinion pls.
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 05:40 PM
QUOTE (eebboonbabiex3 @ Dec 11 2008, 06:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've been dating this guy since the beginning of this year, well we've been on and off.
He's cheated on several times and well... I broke up with him every time I did find out about him cheating.
But he would always come back into the picture, tell me that he's sorry and that he wants me back.
So... what do I do? I take him back...
I hate that I'm so vulnerable when it comes to him.
I've actually never loved anyone until I met him.
I have this small hope in me that he'll change and eventually learn to appreciate me
I just don't understand how he can look into my eyes, tell me that he loves me, then does all the things he does.
I'm stuck in a point... where I know what he's up to but I just don't confront him anymore.
I know that it's hopeless because he's just going to deny it, then we're going to get into a fight and break up again.
I'm scared that the next time, he won't come back for me.
I'm at a point when he has trouble lying to me... I'll help him make up lies.
It's ridiculous actually. As much as I want to let him go, I don't think I can stand it without him.
I know that time will heal the pain eventually
but how am i supposed to let go of some one when I'm so scared to lose him.
I know I sound really sad... but I must say, I REALLY love him... to death.
He's cheated on several times and well... I broke up with him every time I did find out about him cheating.
But he would always come back into the picture, tell me that he's sorry and that he wants me back.
So... what do I do? I take him back...
I hate that I'm so vulnerable when it comes to him.
I've actually never loved anyone until I met him.
I have this small hope in me that he'll change and eventually learn to appreciate me
I just don't understand how he can look into my eyes, tell me that he loves me, then does all the things he does.
I'm stuck in a point... where I know what he's up to but I just don't confront him anymore.
I know that it's hopeless because he's just going to deny it, then we're going to get into a fight and break up again.
I'm scared that the next time, he won't come back for me.
I'm at a point when he has trouble lying to me... I'll help him make up lies.
It's ridiculous actually. As much as I want to let him go, I don't think I can stand it without him.
I know that time will heal the pain eventually
but how am i supposed to let go of some one when I'm so scared to lose him.
I know I sound really sad... but I must say, I REALLY love him... to death.
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You need to see the forest, not the trees in front of you.
The answer is right there!!!!!
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 05:42 PM
he's not the last guy on earth.
you can do better than him.
why should you love him, when he doesn't love you?
he's hurt you. countless times. lied to you. broken so many promises. the same one so many times.
how can you say he values you in any way?
he's not the last guy on earth. you can do better than him..
If you want him to learn his lesson
punish him;
leave him.
_ if you want to cope. friends. family. life. replacing memories. etc...
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 05:48 PM
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but how am i supposed to let go of some one when I'm so scared to lose him.
PM me, get to know me, and my presence will push him out of the picture
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 05:50 PM
Watch Maury, he has all the answers.
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 05:51 PM
don't fool yourself into thinking that you love the guy. if you think you do, then you clearly don't know what love is.
you're just infatuated with him a great deal more than you were with when you were dating other guys. this guy may seem different and the way he makes you feel like your ex boyfriends can't EVER compare and that the feeling with this guy is almost like a whole different genre... but trust me, it's not
you're just fooling yourself to the max
you don't want to lose him, but you don't want to get hurt
if he loved you back, then he wouldn't cheat on you, EVER. so the next time he looks at you in the eye and says something like that, you should laugh in his face and walk out of the room.
this guy is a heartless bstard, and you know it.
you remind me of fat ppl lol (not saying you're fat here, just hear me out).
ppl that go on diets know that it's hard and that there's too many obstacles to keep them away from all the food
but once you get used to the diet and you keep going, you'll see results...
now, if you were a fat person and you were dieting, you'd be the type to just jump into cake, ice cream, etc... with a self-loathing emotion.
you like to indulge even though it's not healthy for you at all and that you need to LOSE it
i don't get why you're so terrified of letting him go. is it b/c you feel like there's no one better out there for you? well, if that's the case, i think you should really think that over. my sister dated a guy my parents hated for about 4 years. Each time my parents told her to break it off, she kept saying 'you guys just don't understand the love we feel for eachother' or 'there's no one out there more perfect for me'.... well, guess what? just 1 month after they broke up, she found a new guy who was much MUCH better than the first. So the saying 'there's more fish in the sea' is true. so get moving!
you're just infatuated with him a great deal more than you were with when you were dating other guys. this guy may seem different and the way he makes you feel like your ex boyfriends can't EVER compare and that the feeling with this guy is almost like a whole different genre... but trust me, it's not
you're just fooling yourself to the max
you don't want to lose him, but you don't want to get hurt
if he loved you back, then he wouldn't cheat on you, EVER. so the next time he looks at you in the eye and says something like that, you should laugh in his face and walk out of the room.
this guy is a heartless bstard, and you know it.
you remind me of fat ppl lol (not saying you're fat here, just hear me out).
ppl that go on diets know that it's hard and that there's too many obstacles to keep them away from all the food
but once you get used to the diet and you keep going, you'll see results...
now, if you were a fat person and you were dieting, you'd be the type to just jump into cake, ice cream, etc... with a self-loathing emotion.
you like to indulge even though it's not healthy for you at all and that you need to LOSE it
i don't get why you're so terrified of letting him go. is it b/c you feel like there's no one better out there for you? well, if that's the case, i think you should really think that over. my sister dated a guy my parents hated for about 4 years. Each time my parents told her to break it off, she kept saying 'you guys just don't understand the love we feel for eachother' or 'there's no one out there more perfect for me'.... well, guess what? just 1 month after they broke up, she found a new guy who was much MUCH better than the first. So the saying 'there's more fish in the sea' is true. so get moving!
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 05:58 PM
QUOTE (mrsjaejoong @ Dec 11 2008, 05:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
don't fool yourself into thinking that you love the guy. if you think you do, then you clearly don't know what love is.
you're just infatuated with him a great deal more than you were with when you were dating other guys. this guy may seem different and the way he makes you feel like your ex boyfriends can't EVER compare and that the feeling with this guy is almost like a whole different genre... but trust me, it's not
you're just fooling yourself to the max
you don't want to lose him, but you don't want to get hurt
if he loved you back, then he wouldn't cheat on you, EVER. so the next time he looks at you in the eye and says something like that, you should laugh in his face and walk out of the room.
this guy is a heartless bstard, and you know it.
you remind me of fat ppl lol (not saying you're fat here, just hear me out).
ppl that go on diets know that it's hard and that there's too many obstacles to keep them away from all the food
but once you get used to the diet and you keep going, you'll see results...
now, if you were a fat person and you were dieting, you'd be the type to just jump into cake, ice cream, etc... with a self-loathing emotion.
you like to indulge even though it's not healthy for you at all and that you need to LOSE it
i don't get why you're so terrified of letting him go. is it b/c you feel like there's no one better out there for you? well, if that's the case, i think you should really think that over. my sister dated a guy my parents hated for about 4 years. Each time my parents told her to break it off, she kept saying 'you guys just don't understand the love we feel for eachother' or 'there's no one out there more perfect for me'.... well, guess what? just 1 month after they broke up, she found a new guy who was much MUCH better than the first. So the saying 'there's more fish in the sea' is true. so get moving!
you're just infatuated with him a great deal more than you were with when you were dating other guys. this guy may seem different and the way he makes you feel like your ex boyfriends can't EVER compare and that the feeling with this guy is almost like a whole different genre... but trust me, it's not
you're just fooling yourself to the max
you don't want to lose him, but you don't want to get hurt
if he loved you back, then he wouldn't cheat on you, EVER. so the next time he looks at you in the eye and says something like that, you should laugh in his face and walk out of the room.
this guy is a heartless bstard, and you know it.
you remind me of fat ppl lol (not saying you're fat here, just hear me out).
ppl that go on diets know that it's hard and that there's too many obstacles to keep them away from all the food
but once you get used to the diet and you keep going, you'll see results...
now, if you were a fat person and you were dieting, you'd be the type to just jump into cake, ice cream, etc... with a self-loathing emotion.
you like to indulge even though it's not healthy for you at all and that you need to LOSE it
i don't get why you're so terrified of letting him go. is it b/c you feel like there's no one better out there for you? well, if that's the case, i think you should really think that over. my sister dated a guy my parents hated for about 4 years. Each time my parents told her to break it off, she kept saying 'you guys just don't understand the love we feel for eachother' or 'there's no one out there more perfect for me'.... well, guess what? just 1 month after they broke up, she found a new guy who was much MUCH better than the first. So the saying 'there's more fish in the sea' is true. so get moving!
You say that I don't know about love... and maybe I don't.
It wasn't easy for me to admit that I did.
I've been living in denial for SO long.
I kept telling myself that I didn't love him... that I didn't need him in my life.
I've tried moving on... but every time I meet another guy... I can't do it.
I can't bring myself to be interested in this person... all i can do is compare this person with HIM
and that's not fair to others.
I have to say... the reason I'm so terrified of letting him go is because I've let him go before....
and it hurts. it hurts so much...
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 05:59 PM
baby, u fail
u not only tolerate his cheating once, but MORE THEN ONCE
and u love him to DEATH?
is it me or girls getin dumber these days
u not only tolerate his cheating once, but MORE THEN ONCE
and u love him to DEATH?
is it me or girls getin dumber these days
ask me out already~!
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 06:01 PM
QUOTE (Shikabane Hime @ Dec 11 2008, 08:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
PM me, get to know me, and my presence will push him out of the picture
LOOOOOOOOOL.
well, i think you should just leave him. he`s not worth it at ALL!! i dont even know why anyone would waste their time with a$$holes like him. forget him! there are plenty of other fishes in the ocean and one day you can find someone who would really appreciate you. and if he cheats on you again, just leave him for good. maybe by doing that, he would open his eyes and realise how much he `loves` you and regret all that mini cooper his imposed on you. i mean... you dont know what you ahve until you lose it. be strong.
and i suggest you start taking these advice especially mrsjaejoong. i mean like... thats the point of creating this thread isnt it? not so other people can feel sorry for you.
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 06:02 PM
QUOTE (eebboonbabiex3 @ Dec 11 2008, 08:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You say that I don't know about love... and maybe I don't.
It wasn't easy for me to admit that I did.
I've been living in denial for SO long.
I kept telling myself that I didn't love him... that I didn't need him in my life.
I've tried moving on... but every time I meet another guy... I can't do it.
I can't bring myself to be interested in this person... all i can do is compare this person with HIM
and that's not fair to others.
I have to say... the reason I'm so terrified of letting him go is because I've let him go before....
and it hurts. it hurts so much...
It wasn't easy for me to admit that I did.
I've been living in denial for SO long.
I kept telling myself that I didn't love him... that I didn't need him in my life.
I've tried moving on... but every time I meet another guy... I can't do it.
I can't bring myself to be interested in this person... all i can do is compare this person with HIM
and that's not fair to others.
I have to say... the reason I'm so terrified of letting him go is because I've let him go before....
and it hurts. it hurts so much...
I'm here for you. Well, when I have free time lol
In any case, you just need someone to carry you out of the waters.
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 06:34 PM
You're scared to lose him?
You like kissing other girls? You like sleeping with other girls?
That's exactly what you're doing.
You like kissing other girls? You like sleeping with other girls?
That's exactly what you're doing.
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 06:38 PM
lol.
my friend works like this:
if you cheat, i'm gonna cheat too.
hope that helps.
my friend works like this:
if you cheat, i'm gonna cheat too.
hope that helps.
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 06:42 PM
Get a freaking hobby, woman. Take an afternoon painting class or something. Once you put some meaning and accomplishment into your life you'll suddenly find that all this relationships, drama, he said she said whatnot are but trifle human affairs
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 06:43 PM
Forget about him, not worth it. Move on with your life and be successful and be the woman you wish yo become.. He is just a loser for you
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 07:05 PM
I don't understand, how can you still love someone after he cheated on you numerous times?????? I'd be so disappointed in him cuz then it means he is not who i thought he is and he will no longer be perfect in my eyes. I don't think i will be able to love him as much as before after that. Sooo what is it about this guy that you like? is it his looks?
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 07:09 PM
You might not see it clearly, but the best thing to do is to let go. Why put yourself through so much? The longer you drag it on, the more hurt you'll get. I don't even see why you put up with him. Why give your love to someone who doesn't treat you the way you are suppose to be treated?
Love isn't suppose to be like this.
Love isn't suppose to be like this.
Never Ever Give Up.
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 07:09 PM
Honestly this might sound a bit harsh, and I know its hard, but do what's right for you. No one else can make decisions for you. And if you cant then I guess you suffer for the choices you make
Best piece of advice ever: Let me tellyou something, men will treat you the way you let them. There is no such thing as “deserving” respect, you get what you demand from people
Best piece of advice ever: Let me tellyou something, men will treat you the way you let them. There is no such thing as “deserving” respect, you get what you demand from people
Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.
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Posted 11 December 2008 - 07:12 PM
Drop him and pick me up! loooooooooooooooooool!
 
