[seriatim_*]

so, i feel really dumb asking a bunch of strangers for their opinions but, i'm at a loss as to what to do in my situation right now.

basically, i've been single for 4 years now. >< but that's not that much of a problem but lately i've been
wanting to get back into a relationship but something a little relaxed, i know that relationships are hard to maintain
and it does take up a lot of time but i'm pretty sure i can deal with it now.
now my problem is that there is this guy i am interested and i would like to ask him out.
so let me start with how i know him, so he's in my class and i saw him once a week for class, until the semester officially ended
we exchanged numbers at the beginning of the semester cause a couple of people in my class wanted to form a study group
and so every one exchanged numbers.
now during the study sessions and stuff like that, there wasn't much interaction and well i'm a pretty shy girl
so it was hard trying to talk to him and flirt i guess?
anyways, in my opinion and my friend's opinion (whose in my class)
feels as if there the vibes aren't there. you know? when you know a guy is probably interested in you?
and he also seems like the type to ask someone out if he wants to go out with someone
okay so, the last time i spoke to him was my last class, which was just about a week ago
i still have his number but i feel like it'll be weird if i texted him or called him randomly.
i don't know what to do, do you think i should try to ask him out on a date?
or just leave it be, move on, and get over it?

[Shikabane Hime]

Ask him. What's the problem? You afraid? LOL



If you think texting or calling is weird, call him up to meet or something.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

what's wrong with 4 years, I haven't had a relationship since 15 years.

and so. It sounds to me like you're the type of girl who expects the guy to make the first move.
Well that won't happen, so talk to him if you want somethign to happen.

Hate to be the bringer of bad news, but if he hasn't even talked to you since the beginning of semester, I don't think he's interested at you.

[seriatim_*]

^ it's not that we never talked i mean we talked all the time after class and during study sessions. what i was saying was that it was hard for me to kinda hint that i was interested to see his reaction, so i'm kinda in the dark with him.

[jenniferpark.]

i think you should text him and see if he texts u back.. and then after a while ask him if he'd wanna go grab lunch.. or dinner~~~ and slowing go from there.

[ching22194]

thats rather difficult coz there a lack of interaction/conversation between you two.
i remember i had a crush in my class i really call him in his house, ask about something then just talk about
anything, i intentionally make the conversation longer.

if your shy to make the first move just text him. but there should be a topic so you wouldn't be too obvious.

[Shikabane Hime]

^ it's not that we never talked i mean we talked all the time after class and during study sessions. what i was saying was that it was hard for me to kinda hint that i was interested to see his reaction, so i'm kinda in the dark with him.

Don't play games, be direct, be forward, be a man.
Seems kind of silly to play mind games with someone that doesn't really notice you. You know he'd have to be paying quite a lot of attention to you to pick up those MINUSCULE winks or glances.

[cwizwizz]

Have more confidence :]
If he turns you down, who cares? Heck a WHOLE lot of guys out there.
Talk to the guy moreee dear.

[Floatii]

ohh i kinda know how you feel.
i'm that type of girl too. x_x
i'd feel awkward if i were ever to make a first move.

yeaa i guess confidence is the key.
just talk to him i guess. casually and such.

[Prot]

Get to know him. Don't enter a relationship just because you feel lonely being single, but enter it cause you get to know him and actually do like him, rather than superficial feelings of infatuation which will most likely result in a broken relationship in the end. Just be direct and say something like "Hey do you want to hang out sometime, I kinda wish I knew you better." Dropping hints does nothing. Nobody can read minds.

[juiceboxx]

you would be brave to initiate. you go giiiirrl

[小甜密]

Don't play games, be direct, be forward, be a man.
Seems kind of silly to play mind games with someone that doesn't really notice you. You know he'd have to be paying quite a lot of attention to you to pick up those MINUSCULE winks or glances.

lol so true.

[13infamyss]

well, im really not the kind of a person who confesses out. (its just me. i have a low-esteem personality )
i read tons of shoujo mangas where girls ask guys first and fortunately, guys say yes. i thought those kind of stories were cool.
but its not really something i would want to do in real life.....


and just like you said, its not just you who notices that there seems to be no 'vibes' between you....... (DID I GET THAT STATEMENT RIGHT? i was confused for a split second)
well, maybe try asking him like things he likes first or somehow in your conversation, you can slip a topic about his ideal girlfriend or if he likes someone....


cuz confessing to someone might be a good or bad thing. bad thing in a way that maybe he isn't mutual with your feelings and that might ruin the relationship you guys have now.. or good thing in a way that he might be feeling the same as yours. you take the risk.

anyways good luck

[azn3dvietboy]

u can do it! if u put ur back into it!

[Pogichinoy]

u can do it! if u put ur back into it!

Quoted for truth.

[sunnyworld]

i say:
1. be confident in yourself
2. just call him/talk to him [men are not mind readers..they don't take hints either]
3. be yourself..if he doesnt like you then he isnt worth it

dont be nervous, if you really like him then take a deep breath and go start a conversation
once you two start talking, you'll realize that you did the right thing
and if things start happening, you know that it was because you took the first step and you had confidence in yourself