[mz_imperfect]

Hm... sometimes I feel like I'm too intimidating at times because I come off as such a strong person and it hinders a lot of potentials haha.

Are any of you like that too?

But then I also believe that if you're too scared to do anything, then you're better off not doing anything because well... I want a guy that's got confidence in everything he does whether it's approach me or give a speech to millions of people in his underwear haha.

So is there a way to not seem so intimidating without losing myself or should I just wait for a guy that's ready to step up his game?

[Pogichinoy]

What makes you intimidating? Your facial expression? Your body language? The way you speak? What you speak about? etc.

[mz_imperfect]

Let's just say I'm extremely strong-willed and come off as a highly motivated person when in reality, if you really got to know me, you'd know I'm the laziest mofo alive haha.

I don't know what makes me so intimidating, but I just have this feeling that I am?

I mean, I'm very opinionated if that's what you mean too, but I'm not rude about it or anything and I'm definitely willing to hear any side of an argument at least once before judging a situation.

It might be my facial expression/body language? But it's not like I have a mirror next to me 24/7 so I notice it haha.

[RYUUSEi]

I like guys that are in the way you described too! Confidence is so hawt. So I think that if the guy doesn't have enough balls to talk to you just because you might seem intimidating, then he's definitely not worthy of you. Again, if he had the confidence, he wouldn't care about your strong presence and just act casual around you. It's not like people who look intimidating are super special or weird, it's just a person, just like everybody else. You can't help it if you have an intimidating "aura".

Most likely, the guy that can hold a speech in front of millions of people in just his underwear - has lots of confidence. While someone who is too chicken to talk to you does not have as much confidence. And since the guys you find attractive are the former, I'd say wait for a guy that can step up his game.

(I'm just like you and I haven't found a way to make myself seem less intimidating, it's just the way I am. Let me know if you find any ways, though, lol.)

[derrek]

I'm in the exact same boat. People are afraid of making mistakes around me, because they see how hard I work to take my own next step. People don't like drinking or smoking around me because they think I'm judging them. People have flat out told me.

I guess when two of us clash it'll make for some potential sparks, hopefully. I like someone that can walk with confidence, and works hard and has a good brain. I do, so I expect the same I guess.

I dunno, I'm always me. I guess I can be blunt and honest sometimes, but I'm never fake. And I guess that's just a little too much for some people. I might be the guy that calls someone out on some my happy poopoo in front of everyone... I dunno. I'll keep thinking about this. I also see things with relative clarity, so I don't waste time with dumb things. That can be scary for people too...

[hippiehop]

I've had people tell me I'm intimidating before... I don't know why. But I think that that is only when you first meet me because after that, everyone else has told me that I'm extremely comfortable to be around... So confusing.

[Apple.Mint]

I understand what you're talking about!
LOL i THINK one of my friend seems "intimidating", at least that's the conclusion we came to because guys won't confess to her even though it's sooo obvious they like her.
But see, to sit here and wait for a confidence guy? Let me just say...confident guys are player, not all obviously but think about it, if he has lots of confident about himself and his love life [such as approaching girl] most likely he has lots of experienced and has been with many girls. Secondly, what if there is a really nice and intelligent guy that likes you but shyness is just one of his quality, i mean a lot of people are naturally shy, they can't help it. I'm not telling you to change yourself or anything, because that's stupid, but you know, if the guy won't approach you, you can approach him instead. Like perhaps you can start talking to him, hint that you may like him/attracted and if he likes you back he'll make a move. And if he doesn't even after you hint to him, f*** that =] [hahah excuse the language] shows he's just a wussy then kekeke

Secondly i want to point out sometime being intimidating isn't a good thing, i mean some will think it's their positive attribute because they are strong-will, strong-minded and straightforward therefore seems intimidating to others. That's what THEY think [loll im being so critical this morning >.o] but i've seen a lot of "bad" intimidation. Like they speak their mind right? and just not wary of other's feeling and opinion, or the way they're so straightforward that it scares people around them. Making them feel uncomfortable to say what the want around that person. Sometimes, holding on to your tongue is a great thing to do, not everyone need to hear your opinion, play it nice and people will learn to be comfortable aorund you even if you look intimidating. [i'm a straightforward person but i learn to be comical about it so people don't get hurt by what i say]

[Shikabane Hime]

I like my women strong-voiced, individual, and confident.

I don't want a weakling that can't speak for herself.
I'm sorry you meet a bunch of pansies that get a puncture in their egos just cause a girl comes off more confident than they are.

Guys, better shapen up, your sense of confidence is relative to century-old traditions. Times changed.

[derrek]

Me too. I have a crush on Alice (as played by Milla Jovovich) in the Resident Evil movie series. She's so bad ass.

[PhuongNguyen]

People told me that my looks is intimidating. So yeah... I know how you feel, because a lot of people are scare to talk to me. They think I'm going to bite their head off, or I'm going to be like "psh, I'm too good for you".

Oh well, in a way... it's a good thing, because that means that only a CONFIDENT guy would talk to ya, and that's what you wanted, isn't it?

I actually like guys who are shy, so yeah. = /

[mayva]

I know where you're coming from. Lots of people who are now my friends had told me that before knowing me they hesitated to even approach me or talk to me, I know it has a lot to do with my facial expressions because if I don't smile I come out as if I'm irritated or pist off. Some people had told me that I look stuck up which took me by surprise because that is the least how I want to look like. However, even if you do look intimidating if a guy see potential in you they'll make the move, those who don't just aren't man enough.

[blueskiezgurl]

Yea, i know how u feel.. Its like ppl are scared to talk to you, and if they do, they do it very quickly like theydon't want to mess up by talking some more...sometimes it leaves u asking yourself if somethings wrong with u, when really, you think you're a pretty nice person...i don't know i guess you just have to wait for a guy who has the guts to talk to u, definetely he'll be something and worth it...

[ILuVTiTTiEZ]

Yes I know the feeling. But I have grown to love it, and now I get all the boys because I just go and get them. Boys are dumb, lazy, and are such pansies! So I get my way with them. ::shruggs::.... Maybe if they would man up, they wouldn't feel like such a girl around me.


But whatever, they're still gettin some, so everyone's happy! ;D

[supa'Wanki]

Ive been told I come off as intimitating, like they're afraid of saying the wrong things to me, but I'm a nice person!

[henryman]

I agree with Apple Mint on this one. Give us shy guys a chance thats all we asking. Pretty please?

[derrek]

I'm not proud of the intimidation... it makes me less approachable, that's not a good thing. Then again, I suppose only fellow intimidators will come up to me!

[GloomyPookie]

I think some people think I'm intimidating too. I'm very firm on my morals and am quite strong opinionated on that.
I tried to stop someone from cheating and since then on that person is afraid to do anything wrong in my presence.
He thinks he has to justify himself to me, but the one he should be talking to is his gf.

And some others are afraid to tell me their mistakes too (I know about those mistakes because my bf told me) because I'm really against what they've done.

Atleast I'm not fake. I'm straight forward. BUT not in a way that I am mean towards others. I do think about what I say.
I don't want to hurt others. I'm only straight forward in things that are just plain unfair (like people cheating etc.).

And yeah... when they've done it themselves then they're afraid to talk about it to me. They are fake to me.
Because they do talk about others that they think it's awful what someone else have done, while I KNOW they have cheated
themselves too. Talk about fake. It makes me wonder when I can trust them with being honest.

[Chanellas]

A lot of guys said my roommate is intimidating. She's incredibly intelligent, highly opinionated, loves a good debate, and isn't afraid to say what's on her mind. One of my friends tried to use big words to impress her, the only thing was that he didn't make any sense so she was like, "... what?" Just be yourself.

As for me.... I just come off as cold sometimes LOL

[mz_imperfect]

Haha you guys are awesome =) We should start a club.

to applemint-- I never saw it that way to be honest. But I think there's a fine line between confidence and cocky. I want a strong, confident guy, not a cocky, player-attitude type. And don't get me wrong, shy guys are great too. But I guess I was saying when you actually hint out there "yes, there's something here between us" and they STILL don't take it, that's when the whole pansy thing starts kicking in. Because if you've been comfortable with me for a while and I hint this at you and you're STILL unable to take the opportunity, then there must be a lack of confidence somewhere? Or maybe I should stop putting it on the guys and just do it myself LOL and stop applying these stereotypes women have tried so hard to break =P

and derrek -- I've done that before where I thought if I did something 'wrong' in someone's eyes, I would fall off this imaginary pedestal and I think at some point, you realize that everyone's only human and we all make mistakes? And even if they weren't mistakes, we are our own people with different morals and are capable of making decisions. And whether that fits someone else's agenda doesn't really matter haha not to sound TOO selfish.

[Shikabane Hime]

But I guess I was saying when you actually hint out there "yes, there's something here between us" and they STILL don't take it, that's when the whole pansy thing starts kicking in. Because if you've been comfortable with me for a while and I hint this at you and you're STILL unable to take the opportunity, then there must be a lack of confidence somewhere?

You call yourself confident? Can't even make a move
Mind games are for pansies.

Being able to speak up and get what you want is confident: coming here and posting it on a forums is not.