[AngelsWhisper]

I've been with him for about 3 years, and I still love him a lot...but for some reason, we've grown slowly apart...Just recently, I couldn't get him to talk to me. He's showing signs that I'm losing his trust (and even love..) by hiding truths, avoiding me, or opening up (He's known to be a very open, sweet, honest, and a friendly type of guy). It doesn't seem like he talks to me as his love or even a friend anymore...so I was assuming he was acting that this way, because I was acting clingy? Or maybe he just found 'someone'...(got super paranoid about a certain girl who is either a close friend of his or a club memeber...) I was going insane...And yes, he does so visible signs that's he's falling for someone. (or I could be wrong) I got really concern, but if I ask him about it, he'll try to avoid it...I could be jumping to conclusions, but don't know...I'll have to pry in but I don't want to do that..

So guys, what can I do to have my boyfriend open up to me again...? And does it makes you hate your bf/gf when he/she acts clingy?

[Shikabane Hime]

He can't finish the game he started.
What a quitter.

Ask him what future he says in your relationship, then make a decision.

[l1lvi3tqt]

i agree with the person. what a quitter loser.

ask him. be direct. with this kind of situation, just be straight forward with it. the more you drag. the more you will get hurt

[13infamyss]

its a good thing that you actually took the initiative to ask if he's falling for someone and to him to brush it off is just
there's only two choices in the question you asked and for him avoid it means there's something wrong in your relationship now.

maybe you can try talking to him about how you feel like you guys are starting to fall apart. then state those reason's you enumerated to him as to why you feel like that.


and to answer your second question, it depends on a person. my boyfriend doesn't mind a person like me who's being clingy and all that... to others, it matters... so -___-

[JASON;]

most likely your intuition is correct.
confront him about this and come to a direct conclusion.

[RYUUSEi]

Instead of asking soompi, ask him what's wrong. It's the only way you'll get an answer. It seems like you're jumping to conclusions and it's bothering you alot as well so it's better to just confront him about it rather than letting it drag on any further. I know it's scary because you don't know what his answer will be and you're afraid it will hurt you, but the sooner you find out what's wrong, the sooner you/you two can move on.

I don't want to make you sad or anything, but I think he's lost interest in your relationship based on your post. But what do I know, right? Talk to him.

[daulism]

"All good things come to an end". But if you're still willing, go with what most people suggested -- go talk to him!

[Fui]

most likely your intuition is correct.
confront him about this and come to a direct conclusion.

I agree. Best way to deal with this is to talk to him about it. Make him open up to you and talk to you.

[Aeoz]

Yes, it gives discomfort if you cling and become too possessive to your loved ones.
Give him time alone, he might need it. When the time's right, talk to him and don't hesitate to reveal your thoughts.

[VengeanceDoll]

I agree with the people above, just speak to him directly about what's really wrong. Your suspicions may be correct.
As for the second question, some people don't mind if their bf/gf is clingy but usually I find guys like girls who give them space

[AngelsWhisper]

He can't finish the game he started.
What a quitter.

Ask him what future he says in your relationship, then make a decision.

He didn't exactly quit...I just found out he was just busy; however, I still feel like he's seeing someone, because he didn't combat it when I asked...

its a good thing that you actually took the initiative to ask if he's falling for someone and to him to brush it off is just
there's only two choices in the question you asked and for him avoid it means there's something wrong in your relationship now.

maybe you can try talking to him about how you feel like you guys are starting to fall apart. then state those reason's you enumerated to him as to why you feel like that.


and to answer your second question, it depends on a person. my boyfriend doesn't mind a person like me who's being clingy and all that... to others, it matters... so -___-

Exactly. Him avoiding a few things was what makes me really paranoid. Even if I asked him that I notice that our relationship is falling apart...he'll might just avoid it. I'm eager to hear his voice, his opinion, his problems etc, but he doesn't really open up to me anymore. I do show visible sign that I want to hear from him. How do I get him to be comfortable around me? ><

Instead of asking soompi, ask him what's wrong. It's the only way you'll get an answer. It seems like you're jumping to conclusions and it's bothering you alot as well so it's better to just confront him about it rather than letting it drag on any further. I know it's scary because you don't know what his answer will be and you're afraid it will hurt you, but the sooner you find out what's wrong, the sooner you/you two can move on.

I don't want to make you sad or anything, but I think he's lost interest in your relationship based on your post. But what do I know, right? Talk to him.

Maybe I am jumping to conclusions...^^; I did comfort about it to him (well, sorta) I just wish he would talk to me...as he usually do for his friends

I sure hope not =( but I kinda got the feeling that in he lost in this relationship too...but in some other times, he does show that he does like me. So confusing lol I'm not gonna give up on him just yet. >3 Anyway, thanks for the advice.^^ It actually struck me in some thing...haha

Yes, it gives discomfort if you cling and become too possessive to your loved ones.
Give him time alone, he might need it. When the time's right, talk to him and don't hesitate to reveal your thoughts.

haha, I figure xD I'll try to be less clingy...but that's like impossible right now cuz I'm feel really jeaous and desperate right now. I hope he's not falling for someone...And trust me, I revaled most of my thoughts that was bothering me. I didn't really understand his respnse...I'm gonna ask him about this situation again. Thanks for the advice.^^

[13infamyss]

How do I get him to be comfortable around me? ><

Going on dates again might not be a bad idea.
Like ask him to go christmas shopping or what not.
Then if he disagrees to go on a date with you, I don't know.
I hate to say it but you might want to ask for a cool off.
you can't consider a no-communication relationship as a perfectly fine relationship.
if he doesn't want to open up stuff to you, it defeats the purpose of having you as his girlfriend. right?
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[schadenfreud1c]

I'm listening to loveline repeats and something like this came up yesterday night (or the night before... gah~ 10pm-12am radio is too intense).

As the wise Dr. Drew (and slightly less wise Stryker) would say: You're 17, and a 2 and a half year relationship is a very long time. Unfortunately, when you're young, people's feelings for each other changes. It's natural for people to get too comfortable after a while and start to lose interest, emotionally detach from one another, or even to fall out of love. He might be at the stage where he's ready to move on and you're not and there's not much you can do about it. He might still love you, but not romantically anymore and by pulling away he's (maybe subconsciously) trying to show you the signals that he's no longer committed to making the relationship work.



Don't flame me, that's what they said.

[*its`STEPHHY.]

No matter how much he avoids it, you're going to have to bring it up to him.
That's the only way you'll know what is going on rather let something like this continue.
Tell him how you feel, and think of a solution.

If he agrees to what is going on and he still truly loves you, he will try to fix this.
But if he doesn't... That tells a lot.