[isa19]

Well I have this guy friend for about 5 years. Even though we are not really that close in school but at least we talk a lot at the phone or when txting.

It's just that today when me and our friends were talking somebody just brought the topic of him having a girlfriend.
First expression I was really SHOCKED! I know that there is this girl that fancies him but never did I imagined that they will be together because first of all *he is childish, *never took love seriously, * never let a girl sit next to him (except for the close ones though).

But what really made me disappointed about him is that he never told me about this thing. Maybe I was just expecting that he will tell me if he had his first girlfriend ever...

Haish! Help!

[be_mellow]

Well I have this guy friend for about 5 years. Even though we are not really that close in school but at least we talk a lot at the phone or when txting.

It's just that today when me and our friends were talking somebody just brought the topic of him having a boyfriend.
First expression I was really SHOCKED! I know that there is this girl that fancies him but never did I imagined that they will be together because first of all *he is childish, *never took love seriously, * never let a girl sit next to him (except for the close ones though).

But what really made me disappointed about him is that he never told me about this thing. Maybe I was just expecting that he will tell me if he had his first girlfriend ever...

Haish! Help!

I'm lost so he have a girlfriend or a boyfriend? .....Maybe he's the type that "if you don't ask, I don't tell" ?

[axe_pheonix]

Well I have this guy friend for about 5 years. Even though we are not really that close in school but at least we talk a lot at the phone or when txting.

It's just that today when me and our friends were talking somebody just brought the topic of him having a boyfriend.
First expression I was really SHOCKED! I know that there is this girl that fancies him but never did I imagined that they will be together because first of all *he is childish, *never took love seriously, * never let a girl sit next to him (except for the close ones though).

But what really made me disappointed about him is that he never told me about this thing. Maybe I was just expecting that he will tell me if he had his first girlfriend ever...

Haish! Help!

bit confused...

[isa19]

Yeah sorry about the confusion.. I mean a girlfriend.. Sorry again

[Yuenie]

Maybe he just never got the moment to mention it?

And you already said that you two are not that close in school? I don't really think there is anything you can do in this type of situation other than to get over it... It won't do anything good to get angry at him and stop being his friend or doing something drastic. Just don't worry about it, and move on.

[dAN.c]

shouldnt you just be happy for him...if you are good friends, i don't think it matters if he told you or not, i mean he's not your pinkberry

[Shikabane Hime]

EDIT: hold on... Just saw the update.

Maybe getting together isn't that big of a deal.

[isa19]

Maybe he just never got the moment to mention it?

And you already said that you two are not that close in school? I don't really think there is anything you can do in this type of situation other than to get over it... It won't do anything good to get angry at him and stop being his friend or doing something drastic. Just don't worry about it, and move on.

shouldnt you just be happy for him...if you are good friends, i don't think it matters if he told you or not, i mean he's not your pinkberry

Actually I'm happy for him... Finally he is growing up (maturely)....

And no I'm not angry with him... I kinda feel bad that's all... And also maybe I'm expecting too much...

Thanks for your reply. (appreciate it!)

[eximius]

I suppose he has no real obligation to tell you?
Maybe he doesn't feel that it's such a big deal?

I can see why you'd feel disappointed in a friend who doesn't tell you something like that... but then again, you two aren't 'close' in person it sounds like.

[Flicksityy]

You two aren't 'close' as you mentioned, then why do you desire such high expectations that he'll stay single, probably for you?

[Pogichinoy]

I don't think he has any obligation to tell you that he's got a gf.

Sometimes, some people find it difficult to tell those close to them the truth, for various reasons.

[Prot]

As you have stated, you are simply good friends. Bringing up the fact that you are in a relationship generally doesn't occur with the person in the relationship announcing it, it is more of subtle remarks. Nobody goes "Hey guess what guys/girls, I'm dating someone now!" but rather "Oh I am busy X day because I'm meeting up with my girl/boy friend" or other variations of such remarks that would signal that they are in a relationship without them actually saying it.

[PoppinBC]

He's probably just shy... don't be so disappointed, just ask him about it. Sort of a point to figure out how close you two really are. The way you point out his "flaws" makes it almost seem as if... you're jealous? Did you perhaps have feelings for him and not realize it?

My inclination is just to think he's shy about it, having not been in a lot of relationships before.

[ILuVTiTTiEZ]

Aren't you suppose to be proud that he got some, BECAUSE he is a lame-o?

Or are you diasppointed because he didn't tell you that he had a gf?

And if so, ummmm alright?

[~Tropical.Mists]

I think I'd be disappointed too...
I have a few friends who are considered "good" guy friends (even tho we don't talk like 24/7) and back in like... gr. 11? One of my guy friends got a gf and I DID NOT know lol XP It was so random too cuz at the time I hung out with him a lot and suddenly it was like "Oh, I have to hang out with ___" and I'm like "who's that?" and he's like "my gf" O_O
I was SO surprised haha! But I guess it's different to you since you heard it from another source. He probably doesn't think of it as a big deal.

--xoxo.
TM

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

honestly I fail to see the question again.

But why should you feel disappointed? that I don't get.
Unless you like him, now that's different.
And there's many reason why he might not tell you, I mean, he doesn't have to tell you, it's up to him.
surprised ok. Disappointed, no way unless you like him.

[hippiehop]

He didn't mention her because he still wants a chance with you.

I sometimes didn't talk about my (ex)boyfriend to my guy friends who I thought were cute, etc.... I wasn't going to cheat on him or anythhing, I just didn't like doing it because I didn't want to scare them away.

[RYUUSEi]

It's only natural to feel a little hurt over this if you guys are good friends. Try not to make a big deal out of it (maybe that girl is just a fling and/or he's just not THAT serious about her so he didn't feel the need to tell you) and just be happy for him.

[noizrevolution]

I'd say that he probably didn't think it was such a big deal. I'm a girl (albeit a boyish one) and I didn't tell all my friends when I got with this guy just because I didn't really think they'd care very much.

On the other hand, he might not have told you because he was afraid of what you might say. Maybe he was scared you'd be angry or maybe he thought you wouldn't approve. Only things you can do are ask him about it or just let it go.

[sunstori]

I understand what you mean.

When one of my good friends got a boyfriend, she didn't tell me. In fact she told people who weren't even her close friends, but didn't tell me...

I was extremely disappointed and felt a bit hurt that she didn't know me well enough to know that I, as a friend, would appreciate being informed of things. I also felt that maybe it was a one sided friendship. Maybe I was the only one who considered her a good friend... x_x

I guess some people are like that and we can't really do anything about it. I think just try to get over it. *hug* (=