[Longshot]

Okay she just got out of a 3 year relationship and weve become really close and have fooled around a lot and really like each other and talk and almost see each other every other day.. now the other day we were laying in bed doing a little cuddle and she says " Im afraid to get attached to you " ....

How would you take that and what does it mean ?

i also asked why are you afriad ? and she said " cause i don't want to " but to finnish the sentence she said " no no no that sounded bad i didn't mean it in a bad way "

any thoughts or comments ?

[derrek]

Physically or emotionally? loooool sorry

[Shikabane Hime]

EDIT: read it wrong. Hold on.

She doesn't want to get hurt again, so she's locked herself away from expressing her feelings (if she has any for you).

[ILuVTiTTiEZ]

She's on the rebound, literally, she's on you, lol! Jk anyway....

She just got out of a serious relationship and probably just wants to have fun and not take it so seriously.

[han.yung]

well, she just got out of a three year relationship, so she's probably feeling hurt and insecure :/ when she says "i'm afraid to get attached to you"
she's most likely saying that she's afraid anything she starts with you will end the same way her last relationship did.
some people don't want to get attached to others, because then they depend on others for happiness, etc...but that doesn't stop them from getting attached.
tho it seems like the two of you are already on your way to a relationship...

[mikomi]

A little bit of - she wants to know how you feel, like she is looking for a certain type of response to that statement

and a little bit of - she's feeling insecure about relationships- getting hurt. IT definitely means she has feelings for you, for her to say something like that.

[Longshot]

EDIT: read it wrong. Hold on.

She doesn't want to get hurt again, so she's locked herself away from expressing her feelings (if she has any for you).

well expressing her feelings she does though.. she tells me how she feels about me and were always close and cuddly when were out at a movie or at my place.. and ive recieved a couple gifts.. i can see she cares and there is something there.. so what could she be blocking ?

She's on the rebound, literally, she's on you, lol! Jk anyway....

She just got out of a serious relationship and probably just wants to have fun and not take it so seriously.

i think you right.. i mean she told me she wants to take it slow, which in turn makes me think we should slow down on all the sexual stuff we have been doing and just have some fun for the next little while with each other as in and movie or some chritmas shopping or a day out in the city you know ?

well, she just got out of a three year relationship, so she's probably feeling hurt and insecure :/ when she says "i'm afraid to get attached to you"
she's most likely saying that she's afraid anything she starts with you will end the same way her last relationship did.
some people don't want to get attached to others, because then they depend on others for happiness, etc...but that doesn't stop them from getting attached.
tho it seems like the two of you are already on your way to a relationship...

yah im not to sure how to take it.. i think its good but i think its just a matter of time for her since she did just get out of the realtionship so soon.. i think by just continueing to take is slow and just show her im here for her and that she can trust me and that im not just another fling or other guy that is just having fun..
do you think by her saying " im afraid to get attached to you " is a good thing for me ? like why would you say that out loud rather than just keeping it in your head ?

[Shikabane Hime]

so what could she be blocking ?

Mind games. Like always. women.

[Longshot]

A little bit of - she wants to know how you feel, like she is looking for a certain type of response to that statement

and a little bit of - she's feeling insecure about relationships- getting hurt. IT definitely means she has feelings for you, for her to say something like that.

well i asked her " why are you afraid " and she didn't really give me a response but said she doesn't mean it in a bad way and that it sounds bad but its not.. and we really just kept on cluddling and kinda looked each other in the eyes and hugged somemore and started to talk about something else..

that's what i was thinking.. i mean if your saything something like that outloud your showing me there are feelings there.. the comment just kinda confused me cause i dont' think her last relationship was bad or anything it just the guy didn't fit what she wanted to make her happy you know ? and why be with someone who you are not in love with..

[han.yung]

yah im not to sure how to take it.. i think its good but i think its just a matter of time for her since she did just get out of the realtionship so soon.. i think by just continueing to take is slow and just show her im here for her and that she can trust me and that im not just another fling or other guy that is just having fun..
do you think by her saying " im afraid to get attached to you " is a good thing for me ? like why would you say that out loud rather than just keeping it in your head ?

yeah i agree. time is probably what she really needs. you give urself good advice, lol.
maybe the "im afraid to get attached to you" isn't exactly the best thing to say, but at least she's telling you straight out. maybe she's letting you know that so when she's reluctant to do things etc. you'll know it's not because she doesn't want to, she's just trying/needs time to get over the fear and insecurity...if you get what i mean.

[Longshot]

yeah i agree. time is probably what she really needs. you give urself good advice, lol.
maybe the "im afraid to get attached to you" isn't exactly the best thing to say, but at least she's telling you straight out. maybe she's letting you know that so when she's reluctant to do things etc. you'll know it's not because she doesn't want to, she's just trying/needs time to get over the fear and insecurity...if you get what i mean.

I get what you mean and i think its exactly that.. almost like she really cares about me and see's that there is something there with possibly some potentional for a future but yet at the same time doesn't wanna rush into anything right away since she wants to get free and clear from her old realationship and get over anything that is holding her back before starting something new with someone else.. and she confirmed that by telling me she wants to take it slow and now its all making sense it seems.. cause she doesn't want me to go away or leave, but wants me there, she just doesn't wanna start anything until she is completley over her ex..

think that makes sense ?

and if that makes sense i shall just keep going on with who i am and what i am doing and stray away from just sexual stuff and just have some fun times.. and relax and be comfortable with each other.. snow is everywhere here so maybe this weekend i shall just randomly tell her im coming to pick her up and were going out.. so in the day well just go out and head to the city for a random outing like to a fishermans market and look at all the wierd things.. maybe buy a christmas orniment or 2 and have fun with it and walk around to a couple things all while maybe both doing some shopping for christmas.. could be a good day ?

[latina]

-she's not yet ready to be in a relationship
or
-she hasnt move on

[xmelody-love]

from my point of view when she said that she was afraid to get attached to you, i guess she's afraid of what might happen after that. like she might be afraid that since you guys didnt state a relationship if another girl ends up liking you then you might leave the first girl since you guys arent in a relationship for the girl who confessed to you. i'm not really sure but thats my view on it.

hope this helps (:

[Longshot]

from my point of view when she said that she was afraid to get attached to you, i guess she's afraid of what might happen after that. like she might be afraid that since you guys didnt state a relationship if another girl ends up liking you then you might leave the first girl since you guys arent in a relationship for the girl who confessed to you. i'm not really sure but thats my view on it.

hope this helps (:

There is no threat of another girl and i she doesn't have a past of guys leaving her for another girl.. so i dunno if that is really what she means.. she's not an insecure person cause she is very beautiful and has the best personality so she is liked by many...

[13infamyss]

maybe since its a 3year relationship and she just moved on that's why she didn't want any serious relationship with another guy yet?


she maybe still needs time.

[terrorist]

just reply "you're already on me, which proves you aren't scared"

[hippiehop]

She just got out of a relationship... of course she'll be scared to get attached to anyone.

[Longshot]

She just got out of a relationship... of course she'll be scared to get attached to anyone.

but why tell me outloud.. ? i understand she needs time and everything.. is she just letting me know she really likes me and wants to be with me possibly but just needs more time to get over her relationship ?

[GOOMBA]

You`re a rebound
and/or she likes you but she doesn`t want to commit and get hurt
IMO

[Longshot]

You`re a rebound
and/or she likes you but she doesn`t want to commit and get hurt
IMO

well that sucks cause even when she was with her boyfriend we had a connection.. and only till after she broke up did we really start to tell each other our feelings and what not... i dunno how that makes me a rebound ? i sure hope not