[Babiebim]

One of my close friends lies a lot. I like her as a person, but sometimes I don’t think she knows that even though most people don’t know she’s lying, some people do. I’m a TA for one of her classes, and the teacher asked me to upgrade grades for him a lot. And she’s practically failing everything, literally, not just “asian failing”. And she always brags about how she doesn’t study and she’s getting all a’s in her classes. I honestly don’t think she’s intimidated by me or other people we hang out with, because I don’t get all A’s, and her other friends are mostly in regular classes whereas she’s in all honors. She even lies about her doing kickboxing, and her brother told me all she does is go home and sit there watching random mini cooper on youtube all day and not do her homework. I don’t know what to do with her, because she’s a really nice person and the lying/bragging is the only problem. I know I should talk to her, but she’s the kind of person who gets offended easily, she’s going to think I’m obsessed with her and stalk her around and stuff. How do you deal with people like these?


Don’t tell me to just stop being around her, she’s really intelligent, she’s just not working to her potentials and she probably thinks people would look down on her if she’s not doing all the things she’s lying about (honestly, they’re all pretty much freaked out about her supposed schedule).

Do you know people like this? How do you deal with them?

Feel free to share your experience

[azn3dvietboy]

ur friend just likes to act big but in real she's a shamed of her own life!

ppl lie to cover up the trurth! but once u find out the truth, u get second thoughts about the person!

y don't u try lying to her! and say all this amazing stuff!

[Shikabane Hime]

she’s just not working to her potentials and she probably thinks people would look down on her if she’s not doing all the things she’s lying about

You're trying to defend her even though she brought it onto herself?

Shame. Shame on you.

All you TA's think like this, but have you ever thought that maybe...she just can't do it?

[Babiebim]

^ well.. 2 years ago.. she was really smart, and i know she can do most of the stuff she doesnt do, she just refuses to work.

and i'm not exactly defending her, I just dont want people to get the idea that I hate her, and if anyone I know happens to find this, they know i'm not trying to backstab her, I just really want help on how to help her.

[Shikabane Hime]

That was 2 years ago. 2 years ago, I could do math. Now, I'm barely passing with a percent average of 50.

She's changed, can't do anything about it. Karma bites her in the ass cause she's been living a lie.
Oh btw, you mentioned how she gets offended easily and gets pissy for no reason. Wow, spoiled much?

[`Koko]

Well. I know a friend like that.
She lied to my face and all of our friends about a lot of stuff.
And honestly, we confronted her about it, telling her that she doesn't have to lie to us,
but when we tried talking to her seriously,
she worried more about the bell ringing, and about how her books were 'unattended'
It was so damn stupid of her to do that.
No one really talks to her anymore, but like .. I wouldn't mind talking to her sometimes,
because when I get attached to people, it's kind of hard for me to just drop them like they're nothing.
But then when I think about all the stuff she's done or said, it's hard to talk to her.
I guess I don't really know how I feel about her one hundred percent.
All I know is that she can be so damn annoying sometimes.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

well I think you don't have to hate her, but I don't think you can force her to change either.
It's up to her, I'm sure she will realise that what she's done is wrong and change. It's really up to her.

but to the question, yes I do have friends who lie all the time.
They just ask things on how I'm always at home, I never go out, yeah and more stuff.
Hey honestly, I know he's my friend, but honestly he's a retard, I bet he stays at home playing some damn games as well. He just turns off msn and basically everything to show he's gone.

You can tell when people is pretending anyway. People who are pretending actually brags about it. Like your friend, you know, if someone does do Kickboxing or someone does get A's, I don't think they would brag about it. They show it instead of b*tching about it.
I can assure you 80% of the time no one brags about it, the only thing they'll do is "oh what the hell this is so easy why you can't do it you're so dumb" lol I gotta hate that. But I never meet anyone who brags "oh I got As, suck that dumbass" lol.

[VengeanceDoll]

The only thing you could do is to confront her about it. If she get's all hissy about it, she's probably upset that you found out about her string of lies.
I knew this girl who would lie about random things. Money, grades even her NATIONALITY. I got sick of it and told her if she wanted to be my friend she would have to say the truth -____-
It worked eventually I guess, but it's a bad habit to do JUST to impress others

[eximius]

I know this girl who thinks she can sing when she just steals other people's covers of songs she knows.
Her major 'target' for stealing music is someone on Soompi, actually. I forget the username, but yeah.
She'd also says she speaks fluent Japanese, when everything she says in Japanese sounds retarded.
She speaks Korean but doesn't brag about that.
She also thinks she can drift with a 4wd car, thus making her a 'car enthusiast.'

So, how do I deal with friends that lie? I don't.

[taebins_luver]

and i'm not exactly defending her, I just dont want people to get the idea that I hate her, and if anyone I know happens to find this, they know i'm not trying to backstab her, I just really want help on how to help her.

you can't help someone who isn't willing the help themselves.
if she's going to fail, let her.
it's not your business to help her pick up her life or whatever.
she's grown and so are you,
you make mistakes, and you learn from them, not lie about them.
you want to help her?
slap her with some reality and tell her she's a dumb as a pig.
if you continue to be this 'friend who wants to help'
then she'll be leaning on you forever.

i've had friends who lie and brag about crap they didn't do
and you know, just as well as i do, that's pathetic of them.
if lying helps her sleep at night, then don't bother,
cause it'll prove pointless when she comes accusing you of stabbing her in the back.
so either be real with her, or let her go on doin her business,
cause you got business you need to take care of too, not only her.

[lalagladys]

mmmm; yes i can see where your going; its like just tell the truth already!

- i know this girl and she's a very good person; at least she tries to be. she's friendly with all around her; but thats not the true her. she is actually very mean; and hurtful. she's not innocent like how she acts, and she doesnt care if she hurts people. she's played so many guys and she thinks its a game. im one of the only people that know this. but sometimes they just do this so that they can have the satisfaction of being liked and praised. they LOVE the feeling of adortion. and they love to be the center of attention.

it gets pretty annoying ; but you need to get to her;
i was like that once.... i used to brag about everything!
and now look i've realized people get annoyed. and you just need that one person that you can open up to.
so maybe you should talk to her about it; and be like
"everyone still likes you even if your not as great as you claim to be;"

^^

[I Cook With A Flashlight]

Now how do you know if your friend is really your friend if s/he is a chronic liar.

[bujahwee]

just hate it when my friends lie to me. it kills me when they do hate it hate it hate it !! AHHHH!!!!!

[P a p e r_C l i p]

I have a friend like that xD
he lies all the time just bragging about how he can do practically everything and gets good grades & everything
he also lies about knowing/being tight with people and stuff like that o_o

a lotta people dont know he's lying but yeah some do,
its kinda annoying sometimes but i just learned to ignore it

[babyroo]

yeah O__O " and we`re ' best friends ' too .
she would tell me she passed , when usually she failed. she tells me she wants to go to my house to do homework , when really she just wants to steal my food . she brags about how she has branded clothes and i ' don`t ' o_o
& most importantly , she bs-es about me when we`re in fights , haha .

what a great friend i have

[JJ no Baka]

Cockyness kills.

Just make her realize that lying about her life and this and that does not make her a better person.

[emceej]

i know a friend who is like that. she lies about being asian. like she says "i'm half asian" to us even though she's not. and she pretends like she knows all these people and lies about other things too. with all the lies she's been telling, she's getting caught up with it and changing her personality a bit. with that reason, it's making me drift away from her. i don't hate her or anything, it's just her personality that changed due to her lies.

[periwinkle]

I had a roommate/friend like that. She lied about anything and everything. But I figured out that she probably has a disorder called Pathological Lying. Which is someone lying about everything (even little things) and they can't control it. These kinds of people need professional help because they're not really in control of their lying.

I don't know if your friend is like that but if she talks about stuff like she can hack into the CIA and has taught kung fu for the police department in her town then most likely, she's a pathological liar. Because my ex-roommate/ex-friend has told me a lot of those crazy stories. I couldn't handle it anymore. My advice is, if it's affecting you in a really bad way, cut her off. It's just going to be detrimental for you. But if you don't want to do that then definitely distance yourself from her.

[Babiebim]

Update: yesterday i talked to her about it... she turned it back on me, saying that i was lying about her lying coz TA arent supposed to be able to enter grades on the school system. I just told her that she can lie to everyone if she wants to, but she's gonna know if she's lying or not. I hate it when people i know turn their back on me when i try to tell them how i feel .

and later on... she told me that she's not a bad person, that she's a really nice person because she gave me something for christmas... i dont really see how that justified her lying, but i cant do anything!!! i hate it wen i feel helpless like this.

Periwinkle: haha, i dont think she has pathological lying, she's probably just insecure.

Taebins_luver: i picked be real . now i'm just gonna hope she gets it.

[Flicksityy]

If she's your friend and you're oh so loyal with defending her, then why does it matter that she lies?

Oh but let me bring out something ridiculous, some chick in my school told everybody that she was raped twice and that she was having cancer. And the thing is, she said she was vomiting green and that every guy wanted to have sex with her. She also said she had a Japanese cousin whom she showed a picture, but was apparently a Japanese super star (Yamapi <3) and she stole ulzzang girl pictures and said they were her sisters HAHA.

Funny thing is, she's awfully unattractive, she isn't even Japanese, she was still hairy and singing happily in Japanese when she had 'cancer' and wouldn't you be upset or somewhat emotionally unstable if you were raped twice? Well that's not the case here...

ROFLLLL.