[Swanky.]

so i broke up with him yesterday & i don't know.. i feel really broken & torn right now. just listening to him & hearing him talk. i know i was unfair to him about a lot of things, but the things i told him were what i felt & meant to be said. maybe he really was over her & i overreacted? who knows? i really miss him a lot & i wish i was more mature to have been more understanding of him. i do regret breaking up with him, but it's something that's already been done & that's that. anyway, i just want to thank everyone who has in a way help me to sort things out & just like look at this situation in more than one perspective. i really appreciate it!

EDIT! haha i already read like 5 replies on the first page about the killing part. I mean obviously i don;t mean it, i'm just angry, ya know? =]

might be a long read. anyway, read it all or not any comments about it would be helpful.

so my boyfriend & i have been going out for like 6 months now.
& i've only known him for about less than a year.
anyway, he's been with his ex for 5 freaking years
& she cheated on him with his then best friend.
that all happened in like 2005 so like 3 years ago.

most of our fights/arguments are about her.
i caught him trying to talk to her
& found notebooks/journals written about her
(i mean like more than half of the content is about her)
i told him if he's not over her THAT'S FINE,
just let me know NOW so i dont get hurt later.
& if he needed time to get over her, i can give him that.
i mean i understand he was with her for a long time
& its hard to get over people. really, i get it.
but it's unfair for him to keep me around while
he still has feelings (a lot or little) for his ex.
oh also, i told him whether he thinks i'm being
unreasonable or not, he needs to CUT HER OUT,
throw away allll her sh-t, ignore her -ss. lol.
he can go along with it or not.
there's no right or wrong decision, just his own.
hey at least i tell him now than later right?
& i tell him things exactly the way i feel or is,
i dont ever sugar coat my words,
not for him not for anyone
just my brutal, honest, truth.

well, i really want this relationship to work
& make an effort to be together,
BUT would he ever get over her?
how can i stop being jealous (or w/e u wanna call it)
of this relationship they had & is obviously
still on my boyfriend's mind?
oh ya & did i mention he has his ex's
initial tattooed on him?
he was gonna get her whole name, but
the artist told him not to, lol.
omg it's sooo annoying to see on him!!! >=[
i mean how can i NOT think about her!?
i'm thinking of telling him to cover it up
next month when i get my tatts redone.
honestly, i dont expect him to go through with it
i just want to know what he'd do.
i mena i hope he does, but if he doesnt
what can i do ya know?
man am i a crazy, EVIL, jealous, crazy gf!?
or normal? what would you guys say? =[

i mean i know everyone's different
but anyone have a similar story to mine?
whether it be urs or someone else's.

[War_Machine]

I didn't read any of that but you stab her, prison style.

[prisonerzero]

Why do they all just want to kill the girl? Can't they want to kill the boyfriend as well?

[KaiLien]

I didn't read any of that but you stab her, prison style.

LOL!

It seems like your bf has a lot of sorting out to do. You said you talked to him about your concerns right? What did he say to you? I know its extremely frustrating but what can you do, right? You can either continue sucking it up while its eating you up inside or just leave him. It doesn't seem like he's over her at all. Try getting through to him again, tell him you are willing to help him out with his problems getting over her or so. However, he really needs to give you an inch. If he can't even try to meet your expectations at least half the way, soon, then you might be better off without him. You don't want to be second best, right? Don't let them both make you a mad woman. The way you are feeling is fine, just try to be as calm as you can when you talk to him about it though. Good luck.

[FusionGT2]

I know im stating the obvious but the guy's not over her..

[RYUUSEi]

Why are you gonna kill the ex-gf? What did she do besides spend 5 years with him 3 YEARS AGO? If you're going to kill someone, it should be your boyfriend who is OBVIOUSLY NOT over that chick. He's with you in body, but he's with her in mind. He even tattooed her initials on him, and WANTED to tattoo her whole name? Lol, I would never even date someone who was stupid enough to tattoo their ex's initials, not to mention name, on them.

I say you either:

a ) kill him for toying around with your feelings

b ) dump his ass and move on to someone who actually deserves your attention (recommended)

You should erase him out of your life either way, it's not worth staying in the relationship.

[marasshi]

I say just dump him. He needs to get over his ex on his own.
He shouldn't be doing this to you (or to any other girl for that matter).

[prisonerzero]

Why are you gonna kill the ex-gf?

Thank you, thank you, and thank you.

I'm glad someone else realizes that it isn't always the other girl's fault.

[Shikabane Hime]

Ever heard of jigoku tsushin?

[l1lvi3tqt]

why you want to kill her? GO KILL HIM. he obviously not over her. why are you making yourself suffering?
im sorry but i have a feeling he probably only using you right now.

[derrek]

So we all agree that at least ONE person needs to be killed?

[ly*chee]

=D Push them both over a cliff
Honestly he's not over her, and you already know that, so why are you settling for it =(
At least you did let him know how you feel now instead of later, but I think it's dumb of him to keep all that stuff like it was just yesterday.
I had almost the same incident, except not as long of a period of time.
If he really cares about you he'll make the right decision.
But if he gives you crap for telling him how you feel about it, then I think you should just cut him out of your life.
He obviously doesn't value enough over his ex.

[daulism]

I also say you should dump him. He's not worth it if he's not man enough to get over his ex.

[taebins_luver]

I didn't read any of that but you stab her, prison style.

lolz, prison style? LOL


my advice?
well, this is personally just me coming,
but i'd put a hurting on both of them.
i'm sorry, but you guys say his ex has nothing to do with it
she has EVERYTHING to do with it.
if she's the center of his attention right now
and she's callin him as well as him callin her
than she just to blame as well.
i mean hey, if she cuts off all contact and it's just him callin and hollarin
i'd say kill him because he's an ass
but since she's returning his calls and talkin to him as well
she deserves a beating from you too.

and most of all,
i think he should have gotten the idea she wasn't happy.
obviously if she cheated on him with HIS BEST FRIEND
cheers to you and your plans!
leave the guy, cause you need something better.
you should be the one on his mind 24-7,
YOU'RE his girlfriend, NOT his ex.

and his tat?
that tattoo artist was right on.
if my bf walked around with his ex's initals on him
i'd beat his tat until it's red and make him realize THAT didn't last.

[hippiehop]

If he's not over her after 3 years, what are the chances of it happening now?

[JASON;]

HAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHA THE TOPIC TITLE

[mayva]

Only you would know for sure if he really is over his ex or not. 5 years is a long time but when it's over, it should be over, however how long after he and his ex broke up that you and he hooked up? (maybe I might've missed it in your post) If it's just a short time between you and the ex then maybe he does need more time to figure his feelings out.

[mintcracker]

^ three years ago

as it says in the post lol

[mayva]

^ three years ago

as it says in the post lol

Thanks for the clarification, I didn't catch that part... silly me.

Anyway, 3 years ago? Even in a five years relationship I'm sure three years will be enough time to pick up the peices of ones heart and move on. I'm sure she'll always be a memorable part of his past but you're who is in his life now. Don't worry honey, try to deal with his past, try to accept it and be glad that it was that five years relationship that made him who he is today (the man you want to be with) b/c really... I cherish my bf so much more because of the bad experiences I had in the past and b/c I've been hurt before I do not ever want to hurt him in that way. Being girls, we're going to have these jealousy feelings but with time and as he proves his love to you these feelings will slowly go away. All the best to you.

[saieng]

If he's not over her and all that crap you stated above, you should leave the dude rather then wishing he'll get over here. You're only hurting yourself.