[*its`STEPHHY.]

So I'm 16. I have beenhaving this problem for the last year or so after I tured 16.
I get nagged by my family about how 'immature' I am.
They said I act like a little kid, talk like one, look like one, and SOUND like one.
When I ask my friends, they don't think so.
I don't know if immature is the right word, but they use it on me so much it's staring to BUG ME.

I admit I sound 11-12. But It's not something I can help.
How SHOULD I act? When I get hyper, they say I act 10.
They never take me seriously and this is just... ME.
I can't possibly change myself. I talked to them about this matter and they laugh at me.

My parents don't give me the freedom a16-year-old deserves.
"NO BOYFRIEND TIL 20."
"NO GOING OUT AFTER 8."
"NO MAKE-UP." --(Even though I don't wear make-up)
"NO SHIRTS WITH SKULLS(??)" [Referring to my Ed Hardy shirts. No matterhow superstitious they are, I believe I should have a right in what i wear as long as it's not shorts that looks like a bikini. Clothing is like ones' expression to me.]
"NO BUYING STUFF WITH YOUR WORKING MONEY UNLESS YOU ASK." --When I WORK for the money.

They look through my stuff without permission. ><
Every little thing that goes wrong in the family,
they blame ME because I'm the youngest and the "dumbest" who can make mistakes easily.


They are SO TRADITIONAL; Who else is in this situation?
Is this only my freakish family? T___T



EDIT: ADD-ON

I'm at my third year into high school, taking ridiculously hard classes, for me at least. =/
AP classes enough to tae u 5-8 hours of homework a day.
-But thing is, I get grades for the classes along the lines of low C's, and D's.
-Now, I dn't know if that's normal or just me, but I try MY BEST.
-I took a chance this year so it's my FIRST year into AP's.
-But they never appreciate what work I put into it. They DO see me doing hmework nights after nights.
-They would still yell at me everyday(i.e. "YOU HAVE GRADES LIKE SH.IT! You wanna grow up being no where in life?!"
-It's INTIMIDATING. Working so hard, and not even having peace and quiet.
-They said "BACK THEN, when we were in school, we passed high school with SRAIGHT A's!"
----But that was back then. The standards are now HIGHER.
-They complain about howI don't clean the house and "contribute"
---But thing is. I DO. They just pick out times when I DON'T. And I don't have time. I dig my head into a homework book all the time.


-These parents aren't my real parents, they're actually my aunt and her husband.(Aunt mom's side. Meaning my mom's older sister)
-My mom never took care of me, always throwin me to my grandma.
-So I aunt took me in after she got married 10 years ago.
-I treat them as MY parents. I don't care much about my other mom/dad.
--But thing is... When they get mad, they throw such HARSH things at me, like
_____"You're lucky we took you in, might as wel live with you mom. you're gonna run away either way"
_____"If we find out you're dating, we're taking you back to your careless mom."
_____"$&^%$&*$^*^ YOU'RE GOING TO TURN OUT JUST LIKE YOU &$*#($ MOTHER!"

It hurts. I tell them about that before, they never said sorry or anything. They just always believe that they're right and I'm wrong. I'm to "immature" to decide right from wrong.

[Shikabane Hime]

Who said those are freedoms 16-yr-olds deserve?
Your freedoms are determined by who pays for your tuition, food, and housing.

My only concern is how you're confronting them.
Are you crying and screaming about your supposed "rights" that are given by the constitution, which happens to talk about having bf's when you're 16, no 8 o'clock curfews, wearing lots and lots of make-up, and wearing skull shirts (??).

lol, if you talked to me about the rights you have, I'd also laugh.

[happiisunshin]

Immaturity is often viewed in a negative sense and in essence basically an obnoxious person with childlike actions. As long as you are mature when the situation calls for it you're fine. Besides, who says you have to act a certain way?

[aiaigasa]

HAHA. i'm 20 and i act like a 5 year old, or so i've been told by my sisters. ^^; i'm not into the stuff that most college students are into (alcohol and partying) and probably come off as "bubbly" to most people because i'm smiling/laughing 99.9% of the time.

as for my parents, i know when to act maturely with them in order to get what i want. i'm technically not allowed to date and my dad would like me to ask him or let him know before i blow my paycheck on a bunch of crap haha.

BUT my parents are generally pretty lenient. ^^ my parents don't say much about makeup (aside from the occasional "omg you're gonna get wrinkles from putting that on!!!" from my mom ^^; ) and they let me stay out as long as they trust who i'm with.

my parents really used to get on my nerves but ever since i started spending large chunks of the year away at college i've been able to get away with dating and staying out late (what they don't know didn't hurt them yet ^^; ). they also don't see what i'm wearing most of the time... your parents are really traditional i think, but once you spend a little while away from college i think you'll value their advice. in retrospect i'm pretty glad they restricted me so much during high school, seems like the situation keeps getting worse and worse. a few days ago my sister was telling me about how some kid outside the school asked her if she wants to buy some "squares"...

bottom line, if i was a parent i'd probably be just as restrictive/traditional xD your parents are likely just trying to protect you, and having such loving/caring parents is rather rare nowadays ^^

[happiisunshin]

bottom line, if i was a parent i'd probably be just as restrictive/traditional xD your parents are likely just trying to protect you, and having such loving/caring parents is rather rare nowadays ^^

Actually, I don't find loving parents rare these days. Love can take on many different forms.

[terrorist]

Lol, it just takes time for you to become mature

Btw... i think shirts with skulls are lame
just for the info.. if i saw a girl with skills on her shirt i'd make fun of her.

Go to Marc ecko section, nothing but skulls.. it's rather boring.

[starforme]

I'm sure you're fine. They probably just want less of your hyper moods and can't find a better way to make you stop so they say that ^^;
Keep your head up ... and just take small steps to show them that you can be independent, responsible, and reliable as their child and as an individual.

[aiaigasa]

Actually, I don't find loving parents rare these days. Love can take on many different forms.

then, maybe i am thinking too much of stories in current events about parents killing/abusing/molesting their children.

while love comes in many forms, i would think that wanting to protect the ones you care about is the ultimate love. as corny as that sounds. xD

[lilatlbabishorti]

im 18 and i act like a 12 yr old xD since i look like one somewhat e.e hehe it all goes to watching too much anime haha x3

and yeah my parents are traditional besides my dad who is semi but my mom is WAAAY too traditional adding a bit of psycho-yelling everyday e.e
and pretty much i dont see a problem with those rules you just needa find loops that wont harm you and your parents o.oV

"NO BOYFRIEND TIL 20."
-- now see here your parents are just worried about u in highshool or middle school to get a good future e.e and plus you're technically young (although im consider young too XP) so not having a boyfriend til 20 isnt so bad =P

"NO GOING OUT AFTER 8."
-- the world is dangerous in every corner @_@ sure you would like sleepovers but then it should b ones that your parents fully trusted if not..too bad ==;;

"NO MAKE-UP."
-- yea there is no point in makeup unless you see yourself REALLY BAD (oO)...make-up will definitely screw your face even worse you see those american celebrities D:?

"NO SHIRTS WITH SKULLS(??)" [Referring to my Ed Hardy shirts]
-- well i hate to say but she's probably religious e.e;; your mom that is...haha even my mom didnt like me wearing skulls much but no can do =P

"NO BUYING STUFF WITH YOUR WORKING MONEY UNLESS YOU ASK."
-- well....cant help you on that e_e im being nailed down like that by my mom lol

[imaviet]

I'm sure that what your parents are doing is making sure you grow up right to mature into someone responsible.

I'm 16 and I try my best to follow my parents. After all, they do know best.

[Flicksityy]

I'm 16, I don't listen to my parents, however I respect them when it comes to reasonable matters such as the time you go home etc.

And honestly I have to agree with terrorist, if I see a kid who wears a skull shirt without piercings, hardcore hair or emo looking, I find it funny to laugh at the person.

[touchthesky]

That's okay...that just means you're a kid at heart. Most people I know can be considered immature, but they know when to be serious and that's what matters

About your supposedly deserved freedoms...your parents rules are pretty reasonable for a 16 year old. I'm 16 too and that's basically how it is for me. Like they're so traditional that they freak out when I have boys over just doing homework lol. the makeup thing is kinda pointless but I can kinda understand why cuz my mom's like that too, but I don't listen to her. and skull shirts...why would you wear them anyway. lol.

[vee.pee]

Yeah, my parents always yell at me for being immature, but who cares.
I like it the way I am, i don't to grow up and grow old

"NO SHIRTS WITH SKULLS(??)"

LOL, my mum has problems like that too.
She goes it's bad luck and crap.
But i don't wear skull shirts anyways~

[blurr]

dude i have to be home BY 5PM. im not allowed a boyfriend. i cant wear chains or anything with skulls cause it is "hoodlum-like/evil" according to my parents either.
im 16 also. although it would be nice to have more freedom ; i'm honestly satisfied atm =/
just enjoy what you have right now.

[Yukita]

i think...
hmm

yeah i think you just need some time to grow up
honestly i felt like you at age 16 and my parents were way more lenient

like you'll understand why your parents do what they do when you're.. like
out of the house.

like i feel like i only started getting close to my parents when i moved out
if anything just try to understand

[fortyone.]

i have the mind of a 5y.o.
and i'm fine by that.
less things to worry about.

lol. don't worry, my parents are like that.
and i'm thankful.
just shows they care. [:

LOL, my mum has problems like that too.
She goes it's bad luck and crap.

is it an 'asian' thing?
my mum's also like that.

[KOGEPANN;)]

blehh.. I'm old and everyone including family and friends nag me about me being immature, something like 'you're ___ old and you sound and act like a 9 year old, it doesn't make sense!!'
but, I don't care, because I know when to act mature at the right situations you know?
I'm sure you know when to be mature right? so it's ok

[hippiehop]

No matter how old you get, your parents will always think you are 12 years old.

[영원한 사랑]

I'm twenty years old and I still act like i'm 13-14 years old I know when to be serious, but yeah LOL

[chopstick^^]

Family are like that..
they wont treat u like a adult unless u show them u can be like one!
I dont think there is anything wrong with being hyper like u!
but u must show them that you do well in school and that you can look after yourself even if u behave childish!
then they likly to think u r a bit grown up!