[iluvvw]

Ok so this goes for the people who are married or who has been in a Long Term Relationship. In your response to the post state how long you have been in the relationship and be truthful. So we have all grown up and been taught about a love that is so strong that it last a lifetime ever lasting.

But now as I get older and have been in 1 relationship I wonder for those who are married DO YOU EVER WAKE UP and feel the spark is gone, or dose the love go away for a few days to a year and comes back again.

I remember hearing this women who was married for close to 50 years and when asked what was her secret, she said "we didn't fall out of love at the same time".

The statement stuck with me, is divorce rate high because people give up too easily and that we are told a love that last forever but it dosen't and we have to worked hard for it?

I think this would be helpful for young people because I know most of my friends and I have not asked this kind of Q's to are parents because we know they would probably not tell us the truth although my mom said that even though she loves my dad she said people change and they don't want the same thing but she stayed because she dosen't want to be alone and that she has good days and her bad days but the good is greater.

[ShadowMax76]

not that i can answer this by experience, but
i think that we all are allowed to take people for granted sometimes.. [otherwise we'd be stressing a bit too much..]

and when that happens, we shouldn't pretend.. but just take some time off. with a little smile of course.

"give me some time to miss you" i used to say. xD _ i don't think i'll ever be sure of how she took that. ._.'

but she knew how i liked my freedom. and i'd come back every time a bit too affectionate... xD


_ oddly enough. it ended because i couldn't get over my insecurities, and my nature to judge people..
i left her, having never talked to her about that reason. so i 'spose that's how it died. when it became harder to say three words so many times, when i didn't mean it anymore.

not that i should talk
but i think everlasting love comes from
understanding that love is a bit like the sun; it isn't 24/7; that it needs some time to 'recharge'.
and to just know they won't leave you... but also sometimes fearing they will.

'balance'.
o_O' um... did that answer the question?

[princesspoppy]

I have always believed that the only true unconditional love at first sight is between a child and a parent. And for everlasting love, I also believe it relates to children. When you look at your spouse, you see them as the father/mother of my child(ren). And I kinda think that brings a new kind of love.

Of course, you also have to work for everlasting love.

[Prot]

Depends on how you define love, but obviously you are not going to have the crazy strong feelings you had towards your s/o later in life as opposed to when you first start off. It is the same as how when you first ate (name favorite food here) it tasted 1000000x better than it does after you had it so often for many many years.

[iluvvw]

yeah that is what I really wanted to know, I agreed with a child and parents of love at 1st sight. I just wanted to know is for people about people who have been long terms relationship on they deal about the sparks fading, it seem most people would break-up but others stay together.

[JJ no Baka]

I work at my mom's shop where this old couple would come in. The grandpa would always be holding his wife's hand and he would pull out the chair and help her sit and help her feel comfortable. He would always order and ask for his wife's choice and when they sit and talk, they laugh and smile and be holding each other's hand while eating. It's super cute and sweet and I think that is an example of everlasting love.

[Misao]

^ :'( <333

as for me, THERE ARE NO SUCH THING AS EVERLASTING LOVE only in fairy tales bleh and krn drama

[wees2dee]

love, is a complicated thing, but if two people can make it work, they can love each other, respect one another, trust and have faith in one another, they will be able to make it work. their relationship will take them as far as it can go and i cant only go far as the grave.... everlasting...?? i dont think so.. just for 60 -70 years

[13infamyss]

love, is a complicated thing,

ditto.

im in a relationship for 8 years. being in a long term relationship doesn't mean pure happiness. ive gone through painful experiences too and there were times when we both wanted to give up. i guess at the end of the day, love keeps up from breaking apart. i believe in invisible red thread and believe that is the only thing that binds us together. i also believe in destiny and soul mate. i think they're really true we're still young and up until now, i still cant say that he'll be the one who I will be spending my whole life with but I wish and long for it to be happen.

were there times that i felt that spark is gone? i thought there were times but i was wrong. i remember when we had a cool off, i tried to like other guy but whenever i thought of kissing that guy, my boyfriend's image suddenly pictures in my mind. its painful. i cant move on and my body, my mind and my heart are not synchronized. they dont work the way i wanted them to. i thought to myself i would die without him. it was just my POV. i dont know if my boyfriend ever had a thought of dying without my presence. even if i asked him, i still wouldn't know if its the truth or he's just saying it cuz its me who he is talking to. but he did cry and beg for me to come back to him when he called our relationship off. so i guess this time around, we've proven once again that we're in love.


i know we're still young (20) and our future together is still uncertain but we both want to grow old together.
in 8 years of relationship, ive learned that love takes a very special role for a relationship to last long. unless, you find true love, you wont know how to endure pain, be at the peak of happiness and to lower down your pride and dignity for that person.

[PBnJams]

there is no such thing as everlasting love

[tiger325]

when you really and truly love someone you wont ever be able to forget or stop loving them

[小甜密]

I believe in evertlasting love. God has been with us ever since he created Adam & Eve. It's been many milleniums..and he's still with us.

[HappyExpress]

the "spark" doesn't last long....
Go figure people define love as feeling spark? what the........