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I Need Help With Advice To Give A Heartbroken Friend. Its been 5months and 2weeks.

#1 User is offline   RaeBabyx 

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Post icon  Posted 24 December 2008 - 09:37 AM

Okay so my bestfriends bf broke up with her when she came back from her holiday during summer break. He was like her first boyfriend and they were together for like 6months? Its been 5months and 2weeks... i know because shes been counting the days (pretty sad right?) Like i really dont know what to say to her anymore and i dont want to sound like everyone else and tell her to "just move on" and "try harder" cause i know shes trying hard already.

What pisses me off the most is when he messes with her and starts hugging her and holding her hand when they walk home because he knows she isnt over him. I remember one time when he kissed her.. i wanted to beat the crap out of him because hes not gonna take her back and im left here trying to help her pick up the pieces.

Anyone got any advice? What can i do to cheer her up and take her mind off him?
I dont want her to go into the new year still beaten up about a stupid guy.

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Posted 24 December 2008 - 09:41 AM

People tell others to just "move on" for a reason.
There is no better advice. They understand completely what she's going through cause they went through it themselves, so they understand the meaning behind their words.

We don't just tell people to "move on" cause we have nothing better to say, or that "she's trying." Yes, she's trying, but she'll just have to try harder.
Oh, and beat the guy.
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Posted 24 December 2008 - 09:41 AM

wow, that guy is a jerk.
i woulda caved in his face...jk.
but right now just support her.
I dont really know what to say,
but it sounds like she needs
someone to be there for her :]

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Posted 24 December 2008 - 09:43 AM

Try introducing her to a new handsome guy as a distraction from him. Good luck to her. FIGHT!
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Posted 24 December 2008 - 09:47 AM

Hahahaha, Yeah i know right.
Im seriously looking for a cool guy to introduce her to.
"Life isn't about keeping score. It's not about how many people call you and it's not about who you've dated, are dating, or haven't dated at all. It isn't about who you've kissed, what sport you play, or which guy or girl likes you. It's not about your shoes or your hair or the colour of your skin or where you live or go to school. In fact, it's not about grades, money, clothes, or colleges that accept you or not. Life isn't about if you have lots of friends, or if you are alone, and it's not about how accepted or unaccepted you are. Life just isn't about that. But life is about who you love and who you hurt. It's about how you feel about yourself. It's about trust, happiness, and compassion. It's about sticking up for your friends and replacing inner hate with love. Life is about avoiding jealousy, overcoming ignorance, and building confidence. It's about what you say and what you mean. It's about seeing people for who they are and not what they have. Most of all, it is about choosing to use your life to touch someone else's in a way that could never have been achieved otherwise. These choices are what life's about."
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Posted 29 December 2008 - 09:35 PM

help her find another guy. go out with a bunch of friends and tell her to tag along with the intention of setting her up. help he to date again!! she needs to see the world as a brighter place again
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Posted 29 December 2008 - 09:42 PM

set her up on dates with good guy. go out with her. let her meet new people

and oh yeah , BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF THAT JERK. please do. guys like him need to go to hell. arg
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Posted 30 December 2008 - 04:41 AM

Aww you are such a good friend. smile.gif

I think you should have a serious talk with the guy. Tell him your friend means a lot to you, and that if he's got a heart, he would stop playing her.

I hope everything goes well. biggrin.gif
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Posted 30 December 2008 - 07:21 AM

Ermmm... This is sad...!!!
Well...if i were u...i'd talk to ur frd...and tell her to 'Move on' ...in an indirect way!
Since that guy's a jerk... I'd just tell her of what a #$%%^$ he is...and that he doesnt deserve her...
From what u said ...He is, in some way, using her and/or trying to piss her off, no? like holding her hands n kissing her...

Tell her to be realistic...they're no longer together... The guy doesnt want her back and he's just taking advantage...
This might make ur frd feel bad...but thats the only way to go...being realistic

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Posted 30 December 2008 - 10:15 AM

KEEP HIM AWAY FROM HER.

My best friend and her ex-bf kept breaking up and getting back together. I basically made sure my friend kept away from him and I was really really close to yelling at him to stay away from her... think of any way you can to keep them apart. If she sees him all the time, there is no way she can get over him.
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Posted 30 December 2008 - 10:34 AM

Aw, what a good friend you are biggrin.gif
You should keep telling her that he was, afterall, her first love/bf/whatever, and that there ARE and WILL BE other guys-- MUCH BETTER guys in the future.
She's got an entire life left to live with a WORLD full of cuter and better boys who won't break her heart. She can't just stop progressing through life just because of one, single, insignificant, lousy, stupid, heartbreaking boy.

Doll her up and take her somewhere nice to meet these other boys-- you know, something to boost her confidence :]
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Posted 30 December 2008 - 11:09 AM

I don't think it's entirely the guy's fault here x_x as much as he's wrong for "trying" in his own way to make her feel better, his intentions may not be bad.

If you can talk to the guy and let him know that his actions are no good for her, that would be the best.

I could be wrong, but I found myself once in a situation where I still cared for my ex, and wanted him to feel better, if only temporarily, because it hurt me to see him like that.

Really though, you could help her by hanging out with people that don't remind her of him, or him at all.
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Posted 30 December 2008 - 11:24 AM

find her another better guy to be friends with her biggrin.gif and you should also tell off her ex because what he's doing is just wrong.
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