[EMPORIO]

Do you think that when your 30 you'll look back and say, I did everything I wanted to do in my 20's ? or did a good majority of it ? Do you think your asianness gets in the way of things you want to do ?

[w00tah]

I think reality gets in the way more than which continent you come from.

[EMPORIO]

I think reality gets in the way more than which continent you come from.

I don't know, I know I'm generalizing but a lot of stuff I read on this forum I find very ridiculous, but sadly very believable. I'm sure there are other races or cultures have it worse but Asian people are definitely around a undesirable mindset when it comes to letting loose and living out your 20's to your full potential.

I know it's always a give and take but it kinda sucks that we come from a culture that encourages behavior to live a conservative lifestyle.

[princesspoppy]

In a way I kinda agree with you. If someone was to ask me to describe my life in one word, I'll say: confined. Because that is how I feel. I mean I love my life, and I am privileged and blessed to be where I am, but I know it has to do more about me than my 'asian-ness.'

[Morphiex]

your reality is determined by your own mind.
by blaming your asianess as a reason for your not beng as happy or content as you want to be is dodging resposibility.
truthfully you know deep inside your using it as an exscuse or an escape...

[derrek]

Nope, I don't think it does

[cafe_addict]

not really. it's money that's hunkering me down.

[HERMIT]

Do you think that when your 30 you'll look back and say, I did everything I wanted to do in my 20's ? or did a good majority of it ? Do you think your asianness gets in the way of things you want to do ?

I'm 40 and come to think of it, I think my 30s were more like the best years of my life. My 20s were more stressful - from the stress of graduating college, to the stress of starting out in the working world, to the stress of learning to become independent and self-sufficient in just the real world. Once I got into my 30s, that's when I was more established with my work, I worked down all my debts to where I only worry about a mortgage, had established plans for retirement savings, and life in general wasn't so topsy-turvy. It was in my 30s where I actually had life down to a more predictable routine with which I was more in control. And for me that translated into more 'fun' in the sense that time and money was my own to do as I pleased - and in my particular case, I traveled and experienced more during my 30s than during any other time in my life.

I think to look at your 20s as the be-all, end-all period in your life in which you must pack in the most 'action' you can put in is to sorely limit yourself in terms of life experience. I don't know if this is any real kind of wisdom on my part - but if anything, I would look at and approach your 20s as being probably the most pivotal part of anyone's life where they can dramatically make the most impact on how they want their life's course to take. More specifically, if you focus on and efficiently complete your education, proactively get your professional aspirations jump-started, and get your finances all in order, you could find that you've put yourself in a position to make the rest of your life the time when you can do everything that you wanted to do - and not just pigeon-holing your 20s as just the time to do it.

[BishieAddict]

Not so much my "asianess" as much as my otaku nature is going to make me regretful.
I get so obsessed with things that I don't feel like hanging out. Or maybe it's pure laziness.

[little mixed girl]

i don't think a person being asian has anything to do with fun being sucked out of their lives.
and i don't think that you can assume that non-asians are living it up in their 20s. i'm certainly not living it up.

what gets in my way is money, or my lack of.

if you don't have money, you can't begin to think about doing anything.

[Prot]

Thanks again for being so "open minded" and attempting to correlate race with a person's actions. It depends on what career you are pursuing, what your definition of fun is, and how you decide to live your life, nothing else. People have midlife crisis when they realized they weren't pursuing what they wanted and got caught up in routines.

[EMPORIO]

Thanks again for being so "open minded" and attempting to correlate race with a person's actions. It depends on what career you are pursuing, what your definition of fun is, and how you decide to live your life, nothing else. People have midlife crisis when they realized they weren't pursuing what they wanted and got caught up in routines.

I'm Asian myself and maybe I shouldn't buy into the stereotype, then again I know a lot of people of all races in general and it seems pretty obvious who goes out there and parties and stuff and who doesn't and how easy it is to match that with race.

Maybe I feel like I need to stop hanging out with Asian people so much, I mean I know people of other races but I've always put in effort to stay within my own race. I should try to pursue different groups of friends.

[chinkboye22]

i understand what you are saying EMPORIO for your last post but back to the topic, being Asian doesn't limit your actions to enjoy life to the fullest, some ppl are content w/ certain things while others strive for more

i don't blame the Asian ppl that i hang w/ that i've become this way but i only blame myself...now im trying to turn it around

[little mixed girl]

I'm Asian myself and maybe I shouldn't buy into the stereotype, then again I know a lot of people of all races in general and it seems pretty obvious who goes out there and parties and stuff and who doesn't and how easy it is to match that with race.

Maybe I feel like I need to stop hanging out with Asian people so much, I mean I know people of other races but I've always put in effort to stay within my own race. I should try to pursue different groups of friends.

maybe your friends don't like partying?
a number of my asian friends from middle/hs/uni are always going to parties and clubs and planning events.

they seem to be a pretty large pan-asian group, however.
so if you're only into one type of asians, then you're probably limiting yourself.

i don't know if i would consider any years of my life "most fun" so far...

[Raito!]

what is asianess? please define sir


my 20's is quite stressful like hermit, with the economy being as it is, its hard to find a decent job, i hate mines sooo bad, i can't even afford rent LOL

[kidd]

it's all your personality, every ethnicity/continent/whatever has fun, lets loose.

[EMPORIO]

what is asianess? please define sir


my 20's is quite stressful like hermit, with the economy being as it is, its hard to find a decent job, i hate mines sooo bad, i can't even afford rent LOL

Asianess I suppose to me it is, well in this situation is being afraid or not bothering socializing with new people, not wanting to try new things, being internal instead of external, rather staying home on a Friday or Saturday night instead of going out of your way to have fun or to dress up and go to a party.

[HERMIT]

Asianess I suppose to me it is, well in this situation is being afraid or not bothering socializing with new people, not wanting to try new things, being internal instead of external, rather staying home on a Friday or Saturday night instead of going out of your way to have fun or to dress up and go to a party.

LOL, based on that description I could've easily used the screen name "ASIAN" instead of my current one?

[boka]

Do you think that when your 30 you'll look back and say, I did everything I wanted to do in my 20's ? or did a good majority of it ?

Hopefully, yes. After I first graduated from uni and got a job, I thought I'd done everything I wanted to do and the only thing left was to settle down, find my wife, buy a house and have kids. Then I went back to uni for postgrad and during that time I got a few new ideas - get an international skydiving licence, learn horse-riding, go mountaineering. It doesn't seem too impossible.

Do you think your asianness gets in the way of things you want to do ?

I'm not aware of any mental or physical disabilities that prevent me from doing things that I want to do.

Asianess I suppose to me it is, well in this situation is being afraid or not bothering socializing with new people, not wanting to try new things, being internal instead of external, rather staying home on a Friday or Saturday night instead of going out of your way to have fun or to dress up and go to a party.

I think you have confused "Asianness" with "introversion".

[Prot]

Asianess I suppose to me it is, well in this situation is being afraid or not bothering socializing with new people, not wanting to try new things, being internal instead of external, rather staying home on a Friday or Saturday night instead of going out of your way to have fun or to dress up and go to a party.

I don't go out of my way to do anything unless its something I wanna do rather than what is deemed fun by others. If I don't want to see that movie, I am not going to see it. If I don't think a certain party is going to be fun, I am not going to go to it. If I don't think a video game is fun, I am not going to play it.

What you're saying sounds like you are being brainwashed by society and media that somehow being the most outgoing and social person and attending alot of parties means fun. Fun is different for everyone, you don't need to be an extreme extrovert to have fun. Being asian doesn't affect whether you are an introvert or extrovert, that is called stereotyping. Some people prefer being more introverted, some people prefer being more extroverted, some people want to be more social but are shy, some want to be more social simply because they feel pressured by society and media that it is what they should want and what is fun which is not the right way to go about things.