[lea11]

I just turned 19, and it has come to my conclusion that I'm an adult, and I don't know why - it just struck me as some sort of an epiphany - that I am (should be) mature enough to live on my own.

I attend college near by so there's no need for me to live in a dorm - however, my dad likes to lecture me saying I'm responsible now blah blah blah and that always leaves me feeling guilty that I'm sitting here using up my parents' money. Does anybody get this? I know Asians tend to live longer with parents, but my dad can be a bit harsh when it comes to parenting kids saying we need to know what the social world is like, - he's been lecturing that topic since I was about eight.

Partly because I'm annoyed with my dad's constant lurking, and feeling very guilty that he has to pay for food and tuition - and partly because I feel loser-ish...

Ahhh it's mixed feelings basically. But I really didn't mean to turn this into a PERSONAL thing, just wanted to know what you guys thought about it....

I thought after college graduation you could move out, you know? And that wil happen at 24 or 25 for me.

Discuss.

[lea11]

Oh wow. My bad for even attempting this post.

[whatakorean]

you should first evaluate whether or not you could live on your own financially. do you know how to pay your own bills? do you have a job that can pay for those bills? can you rely on your job all the time to pay those bills? these things

[chinkboye22]

im planning to move out when i got everything straight in life but the main thing is that i have enough money to support myself w/ a real career full time job

[puchaa]

i wanted to move out too but my parents are like " you're not ready" and it's true because i can't paid for everything myself and i rely on them for place and food ^^

[`LANE]

i'm only 17 now but i told my dad i wanted to move out after graduation and live with friends, and we'll make our own living and support ourselves.

and hes like: "YOUR ASS NOT LEAVING THIS HOUSE UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED."
and then i'm like okay well what if i get married when i'm like 24-26, and hes like "YOU STILL NOT MOVING OUT"
*sighs*

[felinius]

OP, I moved out at 17, but that's only because my college is out of state. I would probably say to stay and suck off of your parent's money until you graduate college. If you feel guilty using their money, why not just get a part time job?? I feel bad about taking my parent's money, so I work to supplement it so I don't have to ask for more!

Don't feel like a loser. At least you're going to college.

[grainsofrain]

What about a part time job?
I bet if I brought up the subject of moving out, my mom would give me reasons not to move out.
I'm heading out on an internship for half a year so it'll be like an experience for me to "move out."

I'd say stay.. I only leech off shelter and food from my mom (and my car insurance lol) and everything else I pay on my own.

[yuiyean]

When you start working(not part time ones) after graduating that is. I've decided on that already. Just get a cheap flat first... For now I try to get a job every sem break and not ask for money (only take when offered)..oh yea, I live in apartment.

[HtyPotter]

when you can afford it, OR when you just can't deal with living at home, for whatever reason.

[snowii]

well i just turned 18 and i cant wait to get out of the house. i'd probably be moving late jan or early feb.
reason being my uni is wayy too far to travel to and from every day. i dont want my parents waiting for me till 5am in the morning, i cant stand the over protectiveness. AND i need my own space.

i guess you know when your ready, theres no need to rush it..

[akira53]

when you can afford it, OR when you just can't deal with living at home, for whatever reason.

exactly. and usually you need a credit check when applying to rent a place so keep that in mind too.

[supa'Wanki]

Take your time. The economy is in the hole right now.

[erure]

If you move out and your parents pay for your rent and such, then it really doesn't mean anything -- you're just wasting your parents' money even worse. For me, I moved out to dorms when I was 18 but I had to since my school was far away from home. If I had a choice like you, I would have stayed put until after college graduation...

[zombienarc]

I think it depends on a person's level of maturity..and whether is that person prepared to live on his own...
Most importantly, whether his parents are ready to let their son/ daughter thrive on their own...lol

I am 17 next year..going to college next year too ...however, i dont think i am any of the above LMAO
Its not like i'm gonna pay the tuition fees myself, my parents are still paying them for me cz i dont think i will be working during this first year of being partially independent since i am still financially dependent on my parents.

From my POV, kids with ages ranging from 16 and above can move out I guess...

but before moving out, be sure that u know how to do the basic chores...
cleaning ur room, do laundry, wash dishes, sew on any detached buttons or zippers HAHA, feed urself, budgetting, self-control, and taking care of urself lol.

I am nervous for college ...because my parents wont be around taking care of me HAHA

[vikkay]

twenty eight! =D




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[Stolen_waters]

^
HAHAHA.

I think it depends...especially on the culture the person grew up in:P
I'm 20, and I'm still living with my parents; however, there was a year when I lived all alone (w/ my dog ). My family left me at home and moved to a different country! lol Good thing I was in my home country, so it was not that hard.

The good thing about living with your parents is that you don't have to bother about food and rent But I heard some people have parents who ask them to pay rent and other bills. I do a lot of cleaning, cooking, and laundry though.

[daehanminguk1345]

Ha! I'd be on the streets right now if I tried to live on my own. My job can't pay for rent, utilities, food, blah blah. I'd love to, but as of yet, I haven't established financial stability. Yeah. Plus, I go to a local university, and I live close enough that I can walk right over to campus in about fifteen minutes or less. And from there, I can take buses between the two campuses. Yup.

Really, I don't think there's an age where you have to stop living with your parents. If I could, I'd live with my mom forever. It's one thing to LIVE OFF OF your parents, but I'm planning on supporting them once I find a stable career. See? Now I can live with them AND be independent.

[jinjin<3]

I'm planning to move out when I go and get my Masters and PhD. Mind you, not really by choice. I would love to live at hoem if the university in my area had a good program.

[_dax_]

When they have enough money obviously