[cookiechoopyy_201]

well there's been lots of things goin on in my life n to b honest im only 15, yet i feel so older than my age. so im facing this destructive cycle and it started in my freshman year. well at the beginning of my freshman year , everything was okay, i fell gud, i looked great, but sumthing happened to me[ i rather not say it] n i became really sad. i eat to feel better n ta more i do the the more weight i gain. at first i thought to myself "well its only a couples of pounds ill exercise n get back in shape but sadly things didnt turn out the way i thought it would b. im constantly eating n i tell myself everyday tat ill stop tomorrow but i didnt becuz now im so addicted to eating. i gained 30 pounds rapidly n i fell horrible. i havent been hanging out wit friends or go to the mall, or even wear nice clothes no more because im ashamed of myself. the only thing ill b wearing is sweats. my life been horrible. i feel like its my fault in the first place, n im totally right. i really dun want to b like this for the rest of my life, i dun want to let my teen life pass me by. i noe i have goals in life n i love singingn ppl tells me i have a wonderful voice but gaining weight really brought me down n i cant try out for the things i wanted in life. i dun even noe whats happening . i used to b cheerful n a positive strong girls who always tell herself tat if ppl need my help ill b there for them, but now i need help n cant seem to evenhelp myself. im such a crybaby, n yes i cries alot. sumtimes i complained about my life, but then i realized tat i should b thankful for wat i hav.bcuz there r some ppl out there who r worst tham me but again i feel really bad about my life rite now. i dun noe what to do right now. its a destructive cycle im facing. i eat n then gain weight , then fell bad , eat again, n gain weight. i noe im smarter than doin this to myself but i cant find a way to stop. please give me some advice. dun be afraid to tell me anything. yell at me, w/e u want. but yes i really need advice. sorry this is so long but if u read this i thank you alot.

[kuroimisa]

Well, you said it yourself, you're only 15.

When you get into the teen phase you find that you will do a lot of silly things without thinking properly, or think that you thought it out properly, when you haven't.

I know it's an overgeneralisation, but you are growing and so is your mind as well as your mood. Hormones and stuff like that can really frustrate you.

You should really find something you really enjoy and you should also grow to love yourself. I don't really know where I will tell you to find inspiration from, but when I was in my teens, my strongest drive was stumbling across rock music (I really never liked that stuff at all) but I had a really strong connection with the lyrics and went ahead to learn the Japanese language to decipher and to learn more.

I was also a pretty depressed kid back then, but now I'm like fine (though I'm 20 now). Moved on (rock music is no longer my interest, moved onto other things), but the moral of the story is to find something you absolutely love.

At the same time you've got to understand that you need to be healthy and love yourself. A lot of people can't live even if they wanted to, so a life is a very precious thing! Good luck and hope you find your inspiration somewhere. Set small targets for yourself and work towards them. Reward yourself when you get to your targets and achieve them.

[Mattsanity]

15? I was thriving at 15. get to 19/20 first...

[ftislandsarang]

i feel you im 15 too
start little by little to build ureself up
first instead of eating alot of food that is making you gain weight
try eating fruits and veggies instead and drink lots and lots of water this will help you stop gaining weight from bad foods

and get ure mind off things by karoking! i mean sing all out pumping songs and dance like no ones watching and get all that stress out while getting a work out (;

soon you'll be able to be back on ure feet

i kind of went through this phase too but not as drastic
i got my mind off of stress and things by running
weird as that sounds

i hope this helps
good luck!

[lemon_ice]

you're thinking the right way, you know that you're better off than many people out there and you're admitting your mistakes and failures and thats good. But you'll have to stop thinking that you're in a "destructive cycle".

Face reality, and be positive. I'm guessing that your weight gain is the main thing that's making you feel so down, so face the truth that you've gained 30 pounds, and try to change your bad habits. I'm sure you know that eating more makes you gain weight, so try to stop overeating. Start going to the gym and motivate yourself!~ But please don't go on any crazy diets! They're terrible for your body, and they never really work either...

Weight isn't the only thing that matters, take good care of your body and your health too. Don't just only wear sweats, it'll only remind you of your weight gain. Don't over-restrict the clothes you wear, and learn to be comfortable with your own size.

Just take it slowly and change your habits bit by bit. If you keep it up, I'm sure you'll see results.

Good luck! Just pm me if you need any more advice

[Hiroto14]

Well some things I learned were
fast food makes you feel sluggish, lazy and tired. It's food that makes you more depressed and lazy.
So if you're eating fast food I suggest you stop and turn to more healthy choices.
Also, stop wearing sweats, loose clothing hides your body so you're not aware of how much weight you're gaining.
I would suggest joining some after school activities or something and try pushing yourself into being more involved with your life.
Also try to keep yourself busy with whatever you enjoy doing, because boredom sometimes leads to eating.

Or if you can't find the motivation to do anything maybe you can talk to your parents/concelors about what's going on and get help with it because this might be depression you're dealing with.

[azn_honey]

heyy^^
i have the same problem like you
but you know what it's very terrible to live like that really
you can't waste your youth like that
but as i told you i feel the same
i feel very depressed to looking at myself and i don't want to wear nice clothes or make me more beautiful i mean wear make up or get a new hair cut because i am too ugly because of my figure
no matter what i wear i will look ugly anyway
i have no self eestem and i am not confident
but i want to change it and show the other people that i can be different
so i set some goals for me
today i start with it
i signed up in fitness studio
to get rid off the needless pounds
and it was my first day i worked out and you know what i feel much better then being at home and being sad about this
after i have reached my ideal body weight i want to change my complete outlooks and i will work on my self eesteem
i hope i could help you a little bit
if you want to talk about this you can write me a message
so that we can both fight against it to being sad hehe

[chinobingo]

calm down.
at your age, people go through emotional cycles a lot.
they go through tons of mood swings and hormones and stuff.

youre only 15. your problem here is your weight. come on, thats nothing!
everybody goes through worst things.

theres billions of help everywhere on how to lose weight. youll be fine.

[cookiechoopyy_201]

Well, you said it yourself, you're only 15.

When you get into the teen phase you find that you will do a lot of silly things without thinking properly, or think that you thought it out properly, when you haven't.

I know it's an overgeneralisation, but you are growing and so is your mind as well as your mood. Hormones and stuff like that can really frustrate you.

You should really find something you really enjoy and you should also grow to love yourself. I don't really know where I will tell you to find inspiration from, but when I was in my teens, my strongest drive was stumbling across rock music (I really never liked that stuff at all) but I had a really strong connection with the lyrics and went ahead to learn the Japanese language to decipher and to learn more.

I was also a pretty depressed kid back then, but now I'm like fine (though I'm 20 now). Moved on (rock music is no longer my interest, moved onto other things), but the moral of the story is to find something you absolutely love.

At the same time you've got to understand that you need to be healthy and love yourself. A lot of people can't live even if they wanted to, so a life is a very precious thing! Good luck and hope you find your inspiration somewhere. Set small targets for yourself and work towards them. Reward yourself when you get to your targets and achieve them.

thank you for being ta first one to reply my thread. i felt alot better now and im inspired by u to modevate new things in my life..lol. i love a lot of things and i do have a big goal in life and yes.. ill work toward to achieving it. thank so much~~~!!!!

i feel you im 15 too
start little by little to build ureself up
first instead of eating alot of food that is making you gain weight
try eating fruits and veggies instead and drink lots and lots of water this will help you stop gaining weight from bad foods

and get ure mind off things by karoking! i mean sing all out pumping songs and dance like no ones watching and get all that stress out while getting a work out (;

soon you'll be able to be back on ure feet

i kind of went through this phase too but not as drastic
i got my mind off of stress and things by running
weird as that sounds

i hope this helps
good luck!

thank!!ftislandsarang! hahah ur idea sounds fun and jumpy . ill sure try tat out myself. i guess u like ftisland?...i like bb n wondergirls so ill try to pump it along wit their songs... man tooo bad i cant use my bed no more...just got a new one so... hahah BUT... BUT ill pump it on the ground then!

heyy^^
i have the same problem like you
but you know what it's very terrible to live like that really
you can't waste your youth like that
but as i told you i feel the same
i feel very depressed to looking at myself and i don't want to wear nice clothes or make me more beautiful i mean wear make up or get a new hair cut because i am too ugly because of my figure
no matter what i wear i will look ugly anyway
i have no self eestem and i am not confident
but i want to change it and show the other people that i can be different
so i set some goals for me
today i start with it
i signed up in fitness studio
to get rid off the needless pounds
and it was my first day i worked out and you know what i feel much better then being at home and being sad about this
after i have reached my ideal body weight i want to change my complete outlooks and i will work on my self eesteem
i hope i could help you a little bit
if you want to talk about this you can write me a message
so that we can both fight against it to being sad hehe

wow u spoke my mind...tats how i really feel....haha how much pound have you gained so far? i gained like 30 but im going to burn it off by sart going to the gym too!:] yes we can both fight this. tomorrow will b my fist day and guess wat im already excited! haha can i add u as a friend just for the both of us to keep in contact n once i get but my fitness back ill send u my picture jst to show off hahaha..JK..JK...btw thank you!

Well some things I learned were
fast food makes you feel sluggish, lazy and tired. It's food that makes you more depressed and lazy.
So if you're eating fast food I suggest you stop and turn to more healthy choices.
Also, stop wearing sweats, loose clothing hides your body so you're not aware of how much weight you're gaining.
I would suggest joining some after school activities or something and try pushing yourself into being more involved with your life.
Also try to keep yourself busy with whatever you enjoy doing, because boredom sometimes leads to eating.

Or if you can't find the motivation to do anything maybe you can talk to your parents/concelors about what's going on and get help with it because this might be depression you're dealing with.

WOW FAST FOOOD slow u down n make u depress?...i guess i learn sumtin new too day!!!....guess i have to run down the block n burn tat one new burger king place down..hahah . ill stop wearing sweats today but cant really blame myself for wearing it...it so loose n comfortable..heheh...but ill stop. illl push myself to be involve in my life by finding new hobbies!thnx for ur words!

[cookiechoopyy_201]

you're thinking the right way, you know that you're better off than many people out there and you're admitting your mistakes and failures and thats good. But you'll have to stop thinking that you're in a "destructive cycle".

Face reality, and be positive. I'm guessing that your weight gain is the main thing that's making you feel so down, so face the truth that you've gained 30 pounds, and try to change your bad habits. I'm sure you know that eating more makes you gain weight, so try to stop overeating. Start going to the gym and motivate yourself!~ But please don't go on any crazy diets! They're terrible for your body, and they never really work either...

Weight isn't the only thing that matters, take good care of your body and your health too. Don't just only wear sweats, it'll only remind you of your weight gain. Don't over-restrict the clothes you wear, and learn to be comfortable with your own size.

Just take it slowly and change your habits bit by bit. If you keep it up, I'm sure you'll see results.

Good luck! Just pm me if you need any more advice

yes i am wakening by all of ur words. ill take things slowly b/c i learned tat ta more i push myself in doin someting ta more stress ill b n ill slow down. i'll learn to b comfortable wit maself but ill work to b more healthy as well..thank you so much!:]

[motheritried]

When I was 15, I went through the same thing. I didn't gain an excessive amount of weight, but I can relate to the feeling ugly and fat part. One of the problems with the "tomorrow" reasoning is that when you tell yourself that, your mind does not understand because it can only deal with the present. So said my creative writing teacher, who read that in an article. Anyway, I can tell you this: I'm soon to be 21 and although I haven't gotten over all my insecurities, I'm working on them. I still feel the "what's the point in doing x, when I'm x" type thing, but I realized that there is no point being upset over things you can't change. What you can do is work with what you have and stop comparing yourself with others.

[AzizOnDeck]

I'm sorry i can't help you in anyway because everythings been said and done. All I wish for is for you to live a healthy positive life and may you spread joy around the world =)

[azn_honey]

hehe good to hear that you go to the gym too
yes you can add me as a friend
do you have msn??then we can keep in contact
i have gained like 30 pounds last year
but this year i will fight against it

[edrianisawesome]

OHCHILD! I absolutely feel your pain , I was just 15 last year, and though it didnt happen to me the same age, it happened to me back in the 6th grade, where 6th grade is supposed to be the happiest year of your life, since it was the last year in my elemetary school and instead , things went wrong, I guess my hormones kicked in and stuff and defenitely going though puberty >>> ignore that <LOLZ , But what I am trying to say , is just be really OPTIMISTIC & TAKE RESPONSIIBLITY for your own actions, I mean if you are so tired of feeling that way, the only person that can change the way you feel is none other than YOU! So, the moral here is, you have the all the power to change your life. Its okay, everything will be fine, its not permanent (:

[gracelee_5508]

Better to find a hobby! It really relieves our stress.
For diet, i never really do diet. But what i did is keeping my refrigerator full of fruits and never buy chocolate/candies
and dont eat junkfood~ eat healthy food.

[edrianisawesome]

thats what I did too, except for that refrigerator stuff, but think more natural as in fruits as to humanmade?!! like junk foods, and defenitely cut out soda ! I defenitely lost a few lbs automiatically because of that (:

[lifelovebeauty]

Find some other things you enjoy as much as eating... Try to get a new hobby or pick something exciting to save up your money for and work hard to get it. Try yoga or pilates or even meditation - that could really help your mind, body, and spirit all at the same time.

Good luck and hang in there - you are young and have so much to live for and look forward to!

[cloudiiskiies]

You remind me of myself when I was 15. Well...14. I moved to a new town and was stressed. So I started eating and being depressed and eating more. Just like you. I was already fat to begin with but I went from 145 lbs. to 170 lbs. and I'm only 5'4". Yea...I'm a fatty. I also wore the same black sweater to school and always had my hair up in a pony tail. Wore the same dirty sneakers. I was disgusting. But I joined the track team! That was a turning point in my life. When I joined I lost about 10 lbs that season and even if I was still 160 lbs. I still got compliments. I started changing the way I thought about myself and my wardrobe. I continued doing track and joined tennis. I went all the way down to 130 lbs. in like a year or two. I only put my hair up in a pony tail when I'm exerciseing, I got bangs, take lots of pictures, wear other colors besides black and eat healthier. I'm not there now cause I gained back some cause of stress but I still haven't gone back to my old habits (maybe besides the eating). I'm captain of the track team now and I hope to continue to lose more weight and stay healthy. =] Don't give up and good luck!

[RITSUKO]

Even when this a down point in your life, things can only get better. 15? You're still so young! I was in my awkward years at 15, I was overweight and my skin was bad, but I grew out of it by dieting and growing. There's so much time for a change, you're still young and you have many years ahead of you. Remember, if you want your life to change, only you can change it. Make a difference for yourself. Dieting is very hard to start with, but when you get on it and start exercising, eating the right foods, you'll gradually become happy with the results, even if you lose a lb or 2. Then it'll turn into 10lbs, 20lbs, so on. Dieting sounds hard, but it's easy and it makes you happier inside and out. If you're still hungry after eating a small meal, go get an apple or a couple of grapes instead of chips, or junk food. It's hard to cut the cravings, but it's better to not eat a luxury than feeling like crap after you've eaten the luxury.

If you're not happy in your skin, eat healthier and know when to stop. Be determined. (:

[kinein]

Learn to live a healthy active goal accomplishing lifestyle. Make goals : short term and longterm. Update them as time passes. Certain elements in life require maintenance. Do stuff : don't just sit and wait for responses. When you read this ask yourself if you went and did what was necessary to start moving forward. Besides looking for sympathetic support and kind words. A more mature person wouldn't rely on empty digital words to help them move forward. They would seize the day and take advantage of their time and organize their schedules effectively to accomplish their goals. When it gets hard that is when it is worthwhile because so many people just give up or fall back into a rut!

The only easy thing is to do nothing.

Have you done something recently?


Rules to health.

Throw away all the bad stuff you have - Junk Food stores
Refuse to buy bad stuff, spend your money on healthy food. Frozen chicken breast, fresh produce, healthy fish oils, vitamins and minerals, etc
Make a schedule and stick to it ~ Keep it simple at first. A weekly schedule sunday night or morning and roughly plan out your week and write down exactly when you are going to workout.

Since your grossly out of shape and have been disrespecting your body ease yourself in! It can be 15 minutes or 45 minutes ~ you'll just have to nurture your inner self again. Plan to exercise 3-6 times a week! Start somewhere, start now!