[ohsoteresa]

hi guys! (:

okay so yeah here's another boy problem -_-;

yeahhhh so
it's always two choices.
move on, or like him.

and normally in bizarre situations, i'd just move on.
hey it's highschool, i mean i wont get married
but doesnt mean im serious when i get into a relationship

anyways

so i met this guy at my church a while back
and he was really chill

after we started facebooking, texting, calling, yknow same old same old
and then we meet every friday because of church
and since we were always apart for a week
we'd miss eachother and talk a lot on fridays

and then we talked more and we FOUGHT like we were in a relationship.
it was always weird fights and i felt as if he and i were dating
but we weren't
and he always asked me why he was the one that had to put effort into the relationship sort of idea
and it ticked me off cause we weren't going out.

thennnnnnnn
he was like "why arent you ever happy around me?"
and i was like uhhhhhhh hahaha
and he goes
"if i asked you out, would that make you happy"

ticked me off again -_-;
idk the way he said that it was so ... i have no idea haha

but yeah and then he tells me that he wants to wait a little more to see if he and i would last long
i mean, how would he know without even trying?

and then we were at the retreat
and i was so blessed, and i enjoyed it a lot

throughout it, though, he... wouldn't talk to me?
idk it just felt as if he avoided me.
and left the room or something if i was in it
he'd talk to all these other girls and flirt and laugh
but he'd just avoid me.




well what do you guys think?

sorry it's so long -_-;;
if you took time to read all this, God bless you.
and sorry it's such an immature topic, probably
but idk, i'm not fully matured yet :D
so i'm asking for help haha

[Shikabane Hime]

Ask him out. Make the first move.

[princesspoppy]

Yeah do the that^^^ or tell him you like him.

[ohsoteresa]

well i told him i already liked him, and he's very like ... in a sense sexist
not to the extreme but he is
and it's sort of like

"guys have to ask girls not, not the other way around" idea
and if i did ask him out, he'd probably get upset, cause i crushed his pride.
and at the same time, i'm scared he might say no
cause it seems as though he doesnt wanna talk to me.



I FORGOT TO ADD

and i remember this kid was hitting on me
and he was there and saw it
and when i got home
he would ask what the guy said, and that he was hitting on me, and why i wasn't talking to him more.
-_-;

[princesspoppy]

Well....after knowing that...leave him. He is not worth your time.

[Shikabane Hime]

and if i did ask him out, he'd probably get upset, cause i crushed his pride.

What a sissy.

he would ask what the guy said, and that he was hitting on me, and why i wasn't talking to him more.
;

Now some other kid's hitting on you, and he's jealous? If he's not going to make the move, obviously someone else is. Tell him to man up then, since making the move is, according to him, the man's job.

[chopstick^^]

and if i did ask him out, he'd probably get upset, cause i crushed his pride.

what do u mean by that? as in he want's to be the man? then let him be the man!

[ohsoteresa]

Well....after knowing that...leave him. He is not worth your time.

really? i'd be better off moving on?

What a sissy.



Now some other kid's hitting on you, and he's jealous? If he's not going to make the move, obviously someone else is. Tell him to man up then, since making the move is, according to him, the man's job.

LOLOLLLLLLLL :P

yeah i guess... but i mean it's up to him
but he told me he liked me too but wanted to see if he and i were a good match
which is annoying cause if he and i liked eachother, wasn't that -_-.. enough
well i guess not lol
yeah.. i wish i could but i wouldn't be able to
i mean you're talking to me, here
i couldnt say that to someone..
so would that lead to issues? -_-;

what do u mean by that? as in he want's to be the man? then let him be the man!

sort of like he likes the traditional "guys ask the girls out, guys make the first move."
he's the one not being one...

[princesspoppy]

really? i'd be better off moving on?

Yes. You don't need a guy who has to do certain things to prove that he is a man. That is just lame.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

I've got a feeling that he's not gonna make any move sooner.

"guys have to ask girls not, not the other way around"

I don't know... but this just came into my mind.
I mean... if he believes in this way, but hasn't made any move up till now, doesn't that mean that he doesn't like you?

yeah I know he said that he wants to try if he's suitable with you or not... but well... maybe it's just me, but that's pretty bs reason? lol.
If he likes you, why need to wait? also like you even said it's not logical lol.

Plus, something I don't get. How is he going to see or prove that you and him is a good match?
Well I don't know how long you've been friends with him. but I say 2 or 3 weeks after meeting should be clear if you're a good match or not lol.

[pochacco]

Give him an ultimatum. Tell him to hurry up and ask you out, or you're through with him. Let's see if he has balls or not. Either he likes you enough to want to be official, or you can move on. Simple as that.

[hippiehop]

AH the way you type kind of annoyed me, no offense... it's kind of like, it's really really obvious you are in high school.

ANYWAY, I personally wouldn't waste time on someone who plays games like that. And the flirting with other girls was definitely him trying to get you jealous. So immature.

[ohsoteresa]

Yes. You don't need a guy who has to do certain things to prove that he is a man. That is just lame.

oh no no it's not like he's trying to prove something, it's just the way he thinks..
but i guess in a sense, i'd be better off moving on, right?

I've got a feeling that he's not gonna make any move sooner.



I don't know... but this just came into my mind.
I mean... if he believes in this way, but hasn't made any move up till now, doesn't that mean that he doesn't like you?

yeah I know he said that he wants to try if he's suitable with you or not... but well... maybe it's just me, but that's pretty bs reason? lol.
If he likes you, why need to wait? also like you even said it's not logical lol.

Plus, something I don't get. How is he going to see or prove that you and him is a good match?
Well I don't know how long you've been friends with him. but I say 2 or 3 weeks after meeting should be clear if you're a good match or not lol.

you're right...
hahahah he was going to spend time with me to see if our personalities "clicked"
yeah i think it does mean he doesnt like me ..
but whatever hahahah it's not biggie (:
i'll move on no prob!

Give him an ultimatum. Tell him to hurry up and ask you out, or you're through with him. Let's see if he has balls or not. Either he likes you enough to want to be official, or you can move on. Simple as that.

really ....?
but i feel so scared to do that. I mean yeah the worst thing he could do is say no, and I can move on, but it's the thought of rejection. I can't bring it up haha but I'll be sure to attempt and get back to you (:

AH the way you type kind of annoyed me, no offense... it's kind of like, it's really really obvious you are in high school.

ANYWAY, I personally wouldn't waste time on someone who plays games like that. And the flirting with other girls was definitely him trying to get you jealous. So immature.

ohh none taken (: sorry for that haha, i didn't mean to. thing is, I am in high school.. ; I don't have anything to say LOL
was it? when he completely just ignored me and walked past, and flirts with other girls;
maybe it's not to make me jealous, but rather just him flirting?

[moveXTC]

Confront him =)
Someone has to make the move sometime !! Or that spark will disappear and you might regret not making a move =(
Forget about the whole guy first thing... Its a new era !! Do as your heart pleases =)

[ohsoteresa]

Confront him =)
Someone has to make the move sometime !! Or that spark will disappear and you might regret not making a move =(
Forget about the whole guy first thing... Its a new era !! Do as your heart pleases =)

I should, shouldn't I?
Maybe I should wait a bit, to see what happens?
Oh yeah, I know it's a new era, but it's the way he thinks and I rather not tamper with his pride.
That's true, I may regret it - but at the same time, I don't want to jeopardize a friendship..

[pochacco]

Don't be afraid of rejection. It can only make you stronger; just move on and get on with your life. There's plenty of guys out there in the world. Besides, you're still young. Don't end up regretting, just go for it!

[subie_boy]

hey sup,
to be honest i hate to say it but i think dont think you should waste your time with him at least in a relationship point of view. For one he seems like is will be full of drama (seems like the type to complain about the dumbest of things) two (It seems like he would get jealous of every guy that says hi to you, and you constantly have to assure him that you werent flirting) and three (he seems to be inscure about himself, and might not be ready for a relationship). I dont know the kid, so thats just what comes to mind when i read what you write about him. If you really like him and wanna give it a shot i say go for it. Ask him out, if things go well ask him to be your BF, and if he too insecure about himself to accept an offer from a girl then forget it (and tell him to grow up and grow a pair).

[L.FOR.LOVE]

make a move first
just do it
would you rather be rejected or confused and led onto something that might not even happen
it wastes your time

[Shikabane Hime]

LOLOLLLLLLLL

yeah i guess... but i mean it's up to him
but he told me he liked me too but wanted to see if he and i were a good match
which is annoying cause if he and i liked eachother, wasn't that .. enough
well i guess not lol
yeah.. i wish i could but i wouldn't be able to
i mean you're talking to me, here
i couldnt say that to someone..
so would that lead to issues? ;

No, own him in his face. Destroy his pride completely.
If he liked you, you have successfully dealt the PWN.
If he didn't like you, then he wouldn't be affected by it, and the mission has failed.

But still, do it. What's there to lose? He's not talking to you anyways.

[mintcracker]

tell him how you feel again and ask him out

if it goes well, great

if it doesn't, nevermind, at least you got that off your chest and can move on.