[xxxxxxx]

Something occurred in my family and it bothers me so much that I can't sleep. So I just posted this topic help me with the situation and also distract me.

My Cousins started accusing, bashing and yelling at me. they're the type of people who speak out when one little thing occurs. The accusations that they threw at me were all wrong. It bothered me but I'm the type of person who keeps it inside and walk away. I don't like to speak out because I'm just afraid that more problems would rise.

I usually walk away or keep quiet while they get the last word. I've tried tried to ignore them but it's been biting back at me in the butt. It makes me look like I'm a coward.

A few days ago, we had a family function at restaurant and my older cousins got into an argument which eventually led to cursing and a large commotion for everyone in the restaurant to see. If I was in their shoes, I would have just accepted everything and kept quiet instead of arguing back.

What type person are you? Do you fight back when people yell, accuse , etc or do you compose yourself and walk away?

[iwanabiggal0lly]

Well, it all depends on who that person or people are. I usually fight back because it's a natural reaction, I got to defend myself, you know. It also depends on the situation like if its small or big. If it's small ill let it go.

[LaydeeMel]

If it's something I did wrong then ok. If they're just spewing crap that is totally out of line, yeah I would fight back. I wouldn't just start spewing stuff either. I would most likely be like dude you know what you're saying is totally stupid right? Something that wouldn't provoke them even more, but for me would be standing up for myself.

[Namine]

I used to be a person who got satisfaction out of talking back in public, fighting back, pleased to get my way..


now I've matured more and I try not to even get angry at my family anymore, or even so not pubicly.. Yeap. :/


It is so easy for me to lose my temper, but I realize the pain I caused on my loved ones wasn't worth it .

[dAN.c]

it depends on what the argument is, if it's something important to me, then i'd knock mini cooper down to get my way

[0908]

Sadly I don't fight back, I'm one of those "too nice" people who apparently let people walk all over me.
I know it's bad, but thing is I hate violence so as much as possible I try to ignore it and walk away.

[MaryMagdalin]

hmm... half and half.
with family its all about respect so i usually will not argue back unless its something i feel i need to clear up
some dumb hoe trying to mess with my bf? oh yea i`ll fight.

[A-Jaey]

It really depends on the situation, at home I try to hold things in now that I'm older.
I hold things in, listen to what they have to say.
And if it's all my happy poopoo (my mum sometimes end up pinkberrying about other people, or yells at stupid things) I just block it out.
But if it really gets on my nerves, I don't yell or anything, but I just tell them, and that's just it.
So whether i'm right or wrong I stay quiet.

If it's people that are not in my family..
I just stay quiet, and don't say anything at all.
Unless they say things about my family or people that are important to me, I would snap.

So I guess it depends on the situation, and who the people are.

[GaeasX]

I typically like to defend my ground. I used to hold back a lot and I feel that, looking back on those days, I did not really benefit much from those times I held back. I was ridiculed, insulted, put down, whatever, and perhaps my silence did keep the arguments from getting worse, but they didn't get any better. And then there's the thing where you have to deal with bottled up feelings in some other way, which is hard to do when your mind's revolving around those people. ^^; So I'll defend myself up to a certain point if I know that I am right or at least, not in the wrong. Shouting matches only occur with matters that I really value like honesty and respect and if the person refuses to give in an inch. More than likely the argument will get worse, but at least I'm letting my feelings out and not holding it all back until I explode. x3

[5.mystline]

I tend to fight back If the situation is reasonable cos I don't like losing the battle, but I don't bother over petty things jus keep my composure and walk away not bothering.

[phoenix rise]

Something occurred in my family and it bothers me so much that I can't sleep. So I just posted this topic help me with the situation and also distract me.

My Cousins started accusing, bashing and yelling at me. they're the type of people who speak out when one little thing occurs. The accusations that they threw at me were all wrong. It bothered me but I'm the type of person who keeps it inside and walk away. I don't like to speak out because I'm just afraid that more problems would rise.

I usually walk away or keep quiet while they get the last word. I've tried tried to ignore them but it's been biting back at me in the butt. It makes me look like I'm a coward.

A few days ago, we had a family function at restaurant and my older cousins got into an argument which eventually led to cursing and a large commotion for everyone in the restaurant to see. If I was in their shoes, I would have just accepted everything and kept quiet instead of arguing back.

What type person are you? Do you fight back when people yell, accuse , etc or do you compose yourself and walk away?

i hate my cousins and their families.

[woei]

well depends who and what kind of situation..normally i do fight back because this is called normal reaction...

[Kira_Hyuu]

I defiently fight back but i'm sort of the calculated type so i rarely raise my voice since i see it was very primitive...and disgusting....

[Left_King]

If they accuse u wrongly...FIGHT BACK...!!!
If u hvnt done it...u hvnt done it...
Dont argue tho...just tell them that they're wrong in accusing u because xxx...

That's the best way i guess...if they keep arguing...just block them completely...ignore them...
Say...i've told u what i wanted to say...whether u think its right or wrong its ur decision. Then u move on...

[crystallizedtear]

I tend to keep composed (as in ignore them) unless they are accusing or hurting someone else, then I will fight back, cause I'm okay if they do it to me, but I can't stand seeing someone else have to go through it.

If they're being totally unreasonable with their accusations I'd most likely say ' I don't have to say anything to prove myself, because I did nothing wrong '

[happiisunshin]

I'm similar to you. I extremely dislike conflicts therefore whenever I am swarmed into one, I do nearly anything to get myself out of it. Perhaps you may call it "brushing it under the rug".

[Shikabane Hime]

I get my lackies to destroy you.
Real men don't fight, real men get other men to fight. Lelouche is a real man.

Pikachu, I choose you!

[.:precious:.]

honestly yelling back has never worked for me. I think the best way to deal with it is to first look at your situation...if their the kind of people that are just going to yell back then you guys aren't going to get anywhere. my point being yelling would be pointless..Its so much better when you can calmly express yourself because when people yell or fight back it really takes away form the message. People being to just act and say thing in anger. How can you fully express yourself when your impulsive and just yell in rage?...I dunno thats just how I look at it. =)

[mikomi]

first, I'm sorry that you were put into a situation like that, especially with family. Second, i know exactly how that feels. My family, my mothers side actually, don't speak to each other. Two of my aunts havent spoken in 20 years and their kids don't even know each other-even though they live in the same city. It's a shame that grown adults behave in a such a way so as to pass it onto their kids. As for myself, I have this issue with my father's side. Although it's much more subtle and the issue is with the older generations of my family, the dilemma is still there; do I fight back? One thing I've rationalized for myself is that to let it just go is to prove that they are right- whatever they are arguing. I am who I am and I will not apologize for being the way i've grown up to be- accept it or leave me be. I've made something of myself and grown to be a responsible adult so what could they have to complain about? I've never commited a serious crime, never been in trouble with the law (after turning 18), never done drugs EVER and graduated with a degree from college like they wanted. Anything else should be trivial. Afterall, I accept who THEY are, no matter how stupid/fickle/immature/money hungry and pathetic I may think some of them are, and I expect nothing less back.

[hippiehop]

I would never start an argument like that in public... how embarrassing for the whole family!! But I usually do argue back, people usually take silence as acceptance of whatever was said... and I'm not willing to allow that to happen. I don't yell or anything, I usually calmly state my points, but I feel like the other side usually is the one who starts yelling.