[supa'Wanki]

What would you do if two of your family members have cancer, and you're offered an awesome job? The twist? The job is in another country. You'll have to live without being there for them for 6 whole months to a year. Would you still take the job or would you stay at home and take care of them?


Guys, I already made my decision to go when I applied for the job, I'm just wondering what your decision would be if you were in my shoes.

[hippiehop]

Is there anyway to bring them with you?

Is it a once-in-a-lifetime offer or are they willing to accommodate your circumstances?

Are we talking about close, immediate family members or distant cousins?

[supa'Wanki]

Is there anyway to bring them with you?

Is it a once-in-a-lifetime offer or are they willing to accommodate your circumstances?

Are we talking about close, immediate family members or distant cousins?

I don't want to get into detail about my situation online. Let's just say it's an opportunity that isn't given often, especially to a student like myself, and they're very close family members, and no there's no way I'm bringing them to an abroad country, it's not even an option.

[PoppinBC]

I've thought about this one before; talk about it at great length with the loved ones. Often times they will want you to go. If it really is that special of an opportunity, they would probably feel even worse about their own situation if you stayed for them. They would feel bad about their health, but most people would feel like they robbed you of an opportunity as well. Just try to talk to them, it's the best way to go about this.

AND BE 100% HONEST!

[supa'Wanki]

I've thought about this one before; talk about it at great length with the loved ones. Often times they will want you to go. If it really is that special of an opportunity, they would probably feel even worse about their own situation if you stayed for them. They would feel bad about their health, but most people would feel like they robbed you of an opportunity as well. Just try to talk to them, it's the best way to go about this.

AND BE 100% HONEST!

I have talked to them about it, and they do want me to go, but i can tell from their tone of voice that they don't want to see me leave. I already decided to go, but i feel so guilty... would you have gone if you had an opportunity that you can't surpass?

[QWERTY.]

if the job is so good(pay is good). im pretty sure you can always comeback every so often and see them
but if you dont like the job you can always leave and come back
you dont want to regret not taking the chance
and isnt there other people who can watch them too
and there is always webcamming (:

[cowsie]

In that new job, will there be opportunities where you can fly back to your hometown for a small visit? If you can, then you could take that chance.

If it's a no because it's your new job, then I would personally pick family members. If they are someone that's close to me then I would stick with them. I'm sure they would want to see you for every minute.

[Chanellas]

To me..... FAMILY FIRST! I'd stay.

But...... if I had cancer I don't want anyone to be 'stuck' caring for me and feel regret and disappointment. Their happiness is far more important than my own.

[Harbl]

If I was theonly person who could care for them I'd have no choice to stay.

If not and I could be sure the rest of my family could cope, I'd take the job and pray for my cancer stricken relative everyday.

At least I think I would.

[tiger325]

If i was close to them then of course i would stay however if i wasnt then I would go

[ミ★♫윤아♫☆ミ]

Well my mother has liver cancer and has several other things wrong with her. There isn't much that I can really do for her. I mean if it's to a point where they can't even move, breath, or walk they should be in a hospital. But if they're able to somewhat take care of themselves then it shouldn't be too much of a problem only if you have other family members that aren't ill then they can take care of the sick ones. With a great job, you can get money to help buy medicines and pay for things like chemotherapy or medicines. There isn't a downfall. If I got a great job and I had to move away, I'm sure that my family would be proud and want me to take on that job.

[Velocitii]

id stay with family regardless and just see what happens after they're gone

[chocolate*]

A lot of it depends on the specific circumstances that only you know best..

FAMILY - Depends on the type of cancer. If the cancer is pretty serious then I would pass over any job to stay with my family if we're talking about limited time left. If it can be healed, then you can see them when you come home.
Obviously they would want you to be with them when they're sick, but then it depends on your job offer.
JOB - Are you NEVER going to get this type of opportunity again?

[pocketsoul]

You can't stop moving forward with your life just because your family members are sick. It sounds insensitive, but I think that it's important not to stall your own life because of someone elses. It doesn't help to just be around. It's only a constant reminder to them that they are sick. Instead, they should be trying to lead proactive life while you are doing the same. Make sure to keep in touch frequently, and be prepared for anything. If their condition gets worse or anything happens, I would make sure I'd be able to travel back quickly.

I'm sorry you are in this situation, it must be difficult to cope with this. I hope everything works out!

[pochacco]

If you do go, there's always a means to stay in regular contact with them i.e phone, e-mail, etc.

[p0cky]

I think that if you don't take this opportunity, you may regret it for the rest of your life.

[iwanabiggal0lly]

Family. There will always be job opportunities, but family members with cancer wont always be there.

[EHNerJI]

To me..... FAMILY FIRST! I'd stay.

But...... if I had cancer I don't want anyone to be 'stuck' caring for me and feel regret and disappointment. Their happiness is far more important than my own.

yeah, i think i'd feel the same way.
i'd feel super guilty about it.
difficult situation o.o;

[LOLWTF]

I would go, cause we could always talk to eachother every now and then?
It's not like your going to visit them everyday, right?
Depends on the job aswell. What job is it exactly?

[Flicksityy]

Once a person something is gone, they won't come back. At least try to prepare for the worst if they are gone and actually try to stay before you regret.

If you have potential, you will get a great job any time in life, it's just desperation that gets you.