[pooface]

Some people don't understand how 'the chemistry' thing works...
or where it comes from....
How will you explain to someone what that 'chemistry' mean...

It's like when someone like someone, theres that 'chemistry' ..
and if they rejected them.. they say 'its because there isnt that chemistry' ..

[ミ★♫윤아♫☆ミ]

It's when the two people feel right for each other. You get along easily and you feel comfortable. Chemistry is just like, you're both into each other. And if they say there isn't any chemistry, it's like there aren't any sparks in the relationship. No liveliness. Either the person is uncomfortable or they just don't have any interest. o-o

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

How could you explain that when they meet the perfect guy, they say there's no chemistry?

You see it everytime.
She wants a tall, smart, rich, sweet, nice, funny guy.
She meets him. But for some reason, she just doesn't like him.
She blames it on the lack of Chemistry or she said "we just don't click with each other"

So how do you explain that.

But it's less likely that a guy will say "we just don't click"
In fact, I've never seen a guy bragging about chemistry or click before lol.

I'm actually hoping that many people will contribute to this question
because I'm not joking, I don't know what it is. I know for a fact, that there's no such thing. They just don't know what it is that's missing, they think she should like him since he meets all of the requirement, but she just doesn't like him, and in all honesty she's so confused as well to why this happens. that's why they say "click" or "chemistry"
Just my opinion though, this thread is to prove me wrong I guess? lol.

If not many people contribute, I think it's safe for me to assume that many people use that word, not knowing what it is, they just know they don't click or something is missing

[ミ★♫윤아♫☆ミ]

The conversation needs to flow. If you have nothing to talk about and that person may have all the perfect personality traits that you're looking for, you don't have chemistry. It's all about the communication. Even body language can count. Sometimes even if the person is really attractive and everything about them could be perfect if the conversation goes like this:

Him: Hey there~
Her: Hi.
Him: So how you doin'?
Her: Just fine :0 I just finished finals.
Him: Ah I see me too. The weather's great isn't it?
Her: Uh huh
Him: Yup..
Her: Mmhmm..
Him: So....
Her: Yeah?
Him: Err.

If you have you keep bringing up subjects to keep the conversation going and if the conversation is forced rather then going naturally then there is no chemistry. Everything should flow freely and just fit into place. If it does not, then sorry there isn't much chemistry o-o They both need to sorta have some interest in each other, IMO.

[derrek]

Bring me Oreos and a glass of milk and I will show you chemistry.

[DeeIsRadicalYeah]

when a couple gets along well. share the same interests, have the same sense of humour, etc, etc.

[touche`]

It's when the two people feel right for each other. You get along easily and you feel comfortable. Chemistry is just like, you're both into each other. And if they say there isn't any chemistry, it's like there aren't any sparks in the relationship. No liveliness. Either the person is uncomfortable or they just don't have any interest. o-o

When does it "feels" right then? When does it ever "feels" right then? When it's pleasant to your desires? Sounds like it. O.O

I think it's hard to explain that "chemistry" for those who believe.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

The conversation needs to flow. If you have nothing to talk about and that person may have all the perfect personality traits that you're looking for, you don't have chemistry. It's all about the communication. Even body language can count. Sometimes even if the person is really attractive and everything about them could be perfect if the conversation goes like this:

Him: Hey there~
Her: Hi.
Him: So how you doin'?
Her: Just fine :0 I just finished finals.
Him: Ah I see me too. The weather's great isn't it?
Her: Uh huh
Him: Yup..
Her: Mmhmm..
Him: So....
Her: Yeah?
Him: Err.

If you have you keep bringing up subjects to keep the conversation going and if the conversation is forced rather then going naturally then there is no chemistry. Everything should flow freely and just fit into place. If it does not, then sorry there isn't much chemistry o-o They both need to sorta have some interest in each other, IMO.

Yeah I think that's more like a non-sociable guy lolz.
That example is quite common on guys that are non-socialble coz they don't know what to talk about.

While if you're a sociable person, you're most likely to not have boring convos like that lol.

So how's that a chemistry lol, it's the guy's problem lol.

share the same interests, have the same sense of humour, etc, etc.

So same interests? Is it just me but I think it's fairly BS reason to not like someone just because you don't share the same interest lol. not to mention that Girls never mentioned "same interests" as a requirement
Girls like Drama, guys like anime. Guy is sociable, while the girl is less sociable. You see that heaps, but they still end up together.

What ever happen to "People in relationships should be different, eg if the girl is quiet, the guy should be loud and outgoing, so they fulfill each other's needs"
Where the heck did that statement gone to.

I think it's hard to explain that "chemistry" for those who believe.

Well this is my opinion
I agree with you, I think most people find it hard to explain Chemistry or "click"
because.... they actually don't know. They just feel they don't fit with each other, but what's truly missing, they don't know themselves xD
They can feel it, but they don't know what it is.

You know... some people when they don't know what's the name of something, they refer it as "that thing". I'm sure many people does that.
I think the same thing is being applied here.
They know they just don't fit, they feel it, but it's indescribeable. That's why they just say " we don't click" lol.

At least, that's how I see it. lol.

[Shikabane Hime]

[hippiehop]

Ugh, I don't know how to explain it.

Someone was asking me the other day what I look for in a guy, and I was trying to explain that "spark" but I couldn't.

[jiggapeas]

Chemistry is initially the mutual attraction to that person's personality. Then it evolves to become an unspoken bond that you share with him, connecting on an emotional level.
Chemistry is when he smiles at you and your heart flutters, everytime.
Chemistry is you and him, something that fits and feels right.

[votre-beau]

Why have chemistry when you can make an explosion? ;D


LMFAO. Jp. But, idk how to explain it either. I don't think you really can until you've experienced it yourself. Than you just know. It's like love, you can't see it, but you can feel it when it's there.

[cowsie]

When you bond together and become very close with each other. =)

[Prot]

Chemistry is how one person can say something then the other can continue it with something of their own and then that drags onto something else that can be talked about etc. And when not talking, its still comfortable as opposed to awkward silence. It is also being able to talk about anything. I think thats the way I'd describe it.

[Mang-Go]

chemistry is when two ppl "bond"
most of the times
the girl is the non-metal
and the guy is the metal-
so the bond is ionic.

but i am james bond

i like ur feed back loop.
taught me alot about bio, and chem

[~*Anja*~]

In layman's terms..

Once upon a time, there exists Soompi..

Pooface and 한스 ㅋㅋ

Sitting in front of the computer

C-H-A-T-T-I-N-G

First comes Kissing

Second comes Love

Third comes Marriage

Then comes Pooface with a baby carriage



Now that's Chemistry, oui oui..

[pooface]

In layman's terms..

Once upon a time, there exists Soompi..

Pooface and 한스 ㅋㅋ

Sitting in front of the computer

C-H-A-T-T-I-N-G

First comes Kissing

Second comes Love

Third comes Marriage

Then comes Pooface with a baby carriage

Now that's Chemistry, oui oui..

Wheere did the kissing and love and marriage comes from? .. Please don't make up storys! there is nothing between me and 한스 ㅋㅋ! We are only chatting! Im only trying to help him understand chemistry! .. it has nothing to do with me! we don't have any chemistry! ...

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

I never knew you could kiss on the computer

I bring up this point on the other thread
In my opinion, Chemistry is this:

->Superior - guy being more superior
->wanted by other people/girls -self explanatory lol.
-> Hard to get

I think if guys have this, including basic things such as Communication (funny, humorous) + Taller than her +lil bit of niceness then there will not be such thing as no Chemistry lol.

I guess that also explains why you rarely see or even never see a guy bragging about Chemistry.
Because all they need is beauty and loyalty, and honestly all girls have that or at least can have that.

This also explains the quote "nice guys finish last" I think.

Let me Introduce Andrew once again.
He's popular at school. Everyone in his year knew him. Because he's just so nice. By the time it was his 3rd year in HS, everyone in his year knows him, even those who wasn't in his class. Everyone wants to be in his class, why? Because he's just so nice.
Need help on something? Ask Andrew
Forgot to study on a test and wants to cheat? Ask Andrew, he'll let you, he thinks "Who cares if they cheat, it doesn't harm me"
Forgot to bring lunch and want some? Ask Andrew.
Want to have a free pen? Ask Andrew. He thinks "pens are cheap, I'll just let them have it"
He's like the man. Everyone likes him. He doesn't even get bullied at school, when someone bullies him, one guy stops him and says "hey don't, he's a cool guy" and then the other says "Oh sorry man"

but when it comes to socializing, he's got nothing. NO one ever asks him out. If they did, it was only to study or do homework. Girls think he's the cool guy, he's just so nice. but whenever he asks a girl out, no one wants to accept it. One even says something really funny. She said she doesn't know why she doesn't like him. She just feels something is not right, it doesn't "click"

Who is this person?? it's the old me.
I've been rejected by 3/4 girls before. I was really popular, for being very nice. Hey if someone here was in my school, go ask that person, I bet he will know me. It seems I live a perfect life.... no one bullies me, like honestly. but in fact, I have nothing.
And then I realised that last year, and I began to change, with the help of my friend.

But anyways, when I refer to nice guy, I'm referring to people like that. No girls want me belive it or not lol.
They think I'm a really good friend, but boyfriend? Maybe 100 more years.
Call me a coward, dumbass, sissy, n00b for doing those, but i still can't change the past.

So to the point nice guys finish last? It's true I think. I don't even think it's true actually, I think it's better to say Nice guys Never wins.
I didn't have those 3 qualities before, maybe I have one, but if I don't have the 3, that just automatically means I have no chemistry.

so IMO, that's what chemistry is, the 3 things.

[popolala]

Who is this person?? it's the old me.

It's the old u? .. so ur not nice anymore?
because u said that like u've changed..

[Chanellas]

It's like love at first sight, or someone who 'rubs you the wrong way' without doing anything to you.

SO SIMPO!