[yoochunlovesme]

red hot fire or the steady blue flame ?


there are many different types of love out there, but ive been thinking about two recently.


(PS - before reading pls forgive me for my weird analogies, its how i attempt to convey my thoughts across, thanks)

1.) the whole 9 yards type of love - fireworks, the tingly butterfly feelings, passionate "inseparable-ness", visions of the future together, chemistry. the kind of love that is so strong you both feel that you are meant for each other, no doubts, no hesitations, no second guessing.

2.) the slow budding type of love - a bit like groping round in the dark, learning and discovering bits and pieces of each other that you learn to appreciate and treasure, growing onto the other person, more glow stick then firework which starts slow and throbs brighter..possibly? like if you are patient enough to see it through.

it seems that most movies and books have us all imagining the first type of love for ourselves, the "perfect" puzzle that fits. but what about the other type of love that is more of an evolving sort of play doughy thing that takes time and some maneuvering to mold to each other?

sometimes i feel like i SHOULD hold out for love #1.. maybe society has programmed me to think that any lesser then the fireworks type of love = a second class sort of love. OR maybe im just a selfish human being that is just constantly thinking i deserve better/ something better is out there (that would suck, i don't wanna be that person! ). cuz after all, nobody wants to settle for second best, esp regarding something like love right? but then i think again, and i wonder if the steady blue flame, though less fascinating and appealing at the start, might just on what outlast the red hot fire? or do you think that the type of love that burns hot and intense is the one that burns forever? what do you guys think?

maybe its just the 3 am me talking that makes no sense, but i hope you guys are able to find my point and throw in some opinions? which one can you relate with more, or do you believe in? some examples..?

some background detail: i haven't experienced the first type of love mentioned above and i am currently in a relationship (one year plus) that i feel has the second kind of love. sometimes i question if we both deserve to have love #1, instead of holding out with love #2.

(im not saying either love is more mature or less mature then the other )

thanks for any opinions, and not bashing this topic(?)

[Shikabane Hime]

First type is definitely a firework: you light it up, it goes off, explodes, done. It'll look great, you'll enjoy it, but it'll last 30 seconds flat, and you'll be wondering why the relationship is so damn boring afterwards and you both lose feelings and it's over.

Second type, ya, the deadly blue flame. You touch that, your finger's gone. Which is why people don't like it cause if you leave it out for too long, you don't know who might get burned in the end. One false move and it's over.

Best is to have a mixture of both, controlling the amount of breathing space that goes in and out in order to keep that flame in check. The worst possible scenario is if you've got an inferno going on and several people are involved. Man, those are messy situations that calls for emergency support.

[blueskiezgurl]

i think u can have both types of love, it can start with the slow budding type of love like friendship or two strangers getting to know each other then goes into the red hot flame type of love when u started to realize dat d other person is d missing pieces of , when u start thinking about ur future together, how everything was meant to be, how the other person completes u...so yea, u can have both.. I think this is the perfect type of love, too bad only a lucky few get to experience it..

[ramenhero]

all you gatta do is spice mini cooper up once in awhile. then you'll be alright. find a good balance...
thats what its all about. but trust me... you'll experience both soon enough.

[princesspoppy]

Depends on what you want to do. A blue flame is typically hotter than a red flame. Do you want to just gently heat something up, or do you want it to be extremely hot?