[4zureSky]

Girls that are in a relationship, do you think it is important to know your bf's friends?
Guys, do you think it is important that your gf know your friends?

[sukixyume]

It'd be nice... but no. I don't know a lot of my bf's friends, and I'm fine with it.

[ilovejaejoong]

yeah i think it's important for the girl to know his friends, you know "tell me who your friends are and i'll tell you who you are". for a lot of other reasons too like so you can hang out together. i mean, in a serious relationship, you definitely have to know his friends. if the relationship isn't that serious, you don't really HAVE to know them but you should definitely introduce the girl to them. not doing so would make the girl feel you're ashamed of her or you're hiding something from her or you're not serious about her.

edit:
i don't mean ALL of his friends, at least the closest ones.

[ShadowMax76]

-cough- i dunno why i wanna point this lil trivia out but,
when your bf has a down side, consider his best friend to be the same but better.

LOl. it's food for thought. nothing more.

[Kitty07]

I've only met one of my bf's friends .. and that was like a brief chat for a couple of minutes since there's a language barrier >__<"
My bf's spanish so uh .... his friends are spanish and they aren't fluent in english like him x.o
So I guess in my case , it really doesn't matter whether I know them or not , we wouldn't understand each other anyhow D:

[elicasis]

but you should definitely introduce the girl to them. not doing so would make the girl feel you're ashamed of her or you're hiding something from her or you're not serious about her.

so true >.<

[KOGEPANN;)]

I think seing the boyfriend's close friends is essential, I mean it says a lot about him,
who he's with sometimes instead of you, plus they have part of an influence on the boyfriend so you wanna get to know them to know what kind of people have that good/bad influence on him etc.
Plus you gotta see the close friends eventually, it depends if the guy's serious about you, he wants to show you off to his friends, let them know what a great person you are etc.
thaat's how I see it.

[Sympathetic]

but you should definitely introduce the girl to them. not doing so would make the girl feel you're ashamed of her or you're hiding something from her or you're not serious about her.

Yes, I second this.

It's good to know who his closest friends are, at least.

[Left_King]

I agree with the majority of the opinions above...

Introducing ur gf/bf to ur frds shows ur not hiding anything from them + your serious about the relationship... and it also gives her/him the opportunity to know u better...

However, when im with my gf (currently font hv one), i wouldnt want my frds to hang around us :S
I wouldnt mind if it was like a dinner party or whateva...but not in a date or day out...

[4zureSky]

do you guys think it is a bad thing that she doesn't want to meet them?

[rOothx33]

I think seing the boyfriend's close friends is essential, I mean it says a lot about him,
who he's with sometimes instead of you, plus they have part of an influence on the boyfriend so you wanna get to know them to know what kind of people have that good/bad influence on him etc.
Plus you gotta see the close friends eventually, it depends if the guy's serious about you, he wants to show you off to his friends, let them know what a great person you are etc. ;)
thaat's how I see it.

Exactly. Seeing him with his friends also gives you a perspective on how he acts with them as opposed to when he's with just you. I think making an effort to get to know, or even become friends with you bf's friends, shows him that you're serious about the relationship and that you want to be a part of his life. Personally, my bf's best friend is a guy that we've both known since we were younger, but I didn't know that he knew my bf until after we started dating (and vice versa). Since then, we've all gotten closer and we hang out together (maybe a little too often , but he's a good guy so whatever). As for my bf's other close friends, when he introduced me to them, it was a little awkward, but once you move past that stage, it's fun hanging out with them.

As for your question, 4zureSky, I think it depends what stage of the relationship you're in. If it's a new relationship, I don't think you should introduce her just yet. She probably just wants to get to know you better first before she meets your friends. If you're at a stage where you've reach a level of comfort and she still doesn't want to meet your friends, that might be a problem. You should talk to her about it.

[JunsuLove]

I think it's fine if you know the ones he really hangs out with, but not all of his friends, makes you seem kind of insecure.. I know the friends that my BF hangs out with and they're cool with me, so yeah xD

[Humilious]

Yeah I think it's important. Friends define who you are, so I want to know who my boyfriend's friends are.

[1S0ULL]

Yeahh, it makes me feel that I'm important to him when he introduces me to his friends.
And it's nice to know who he is with and it helps me understand him more.
I'm actually pretty close with his friends now.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

of course, so that If I break up with her, I'll have another set of girls ready

[VillainousVixen]

I think it's very important.
Just to be introduced to his close friends not all would be very nice. I seen it happen a lot to my best friends where their boyfriends never introduced them to any, made my friends think that their boyfriends were ashamed of them.

Idk, if it was my case I'd tell and show everyone who my boyfriend is, because he's very precious to me.
Although I only met his parents, thats also fine by me.

[duchess]

My bf introduced me to his friends pretty early in our relationship and I've gotten to know them pretty well. It's nice because I've become part of the group and they're more easygoing and a lot less dramatic than my girlfriends. I can sit in their basement all day long and just relax.

[princesspoppy]

yes it is important that your s/o knows who they are. your s/o does not need to become friends with them, but having your s/o know and get along with them is great!

[anjuu62]

I suppose a good impression on their closest friends would be enough. I mean, when you guys are having trouble or are at the point when you're discussing breakup, you go to your friends.. and if the friends don't like your gf/bf they'll most likely tell you to break up LOL

[miyavaki]

i didnt mind not meeting them and all that
but he introduced me anyway and quiet early in the relationship

so i met his friends...but im terrified for him to meet mines.....