Hey
I'm just really annoyed with myself and my high standards -.-
People think i'm introverted or something with new people it's just that most of them I just have no interest in being friends with them or getting to know them at all. That's why they say I'm normal around our normal group of friends and quiet around new people. They think I'm shy when I'm not -.- I just don't want to be friends with most people unless I really approve of them. (I know it's kinda stupid)
Also I have a girlfriend but she is the only one who actually fit my standards. She's the only girl I've asked out, and my first and only girlfriend. I've barely crushed on people either, she's like my 3rd crush? Haha. And the first two were small crushes but this girl was my best friend and a long time crush but I was sort of hesitant of taking it to more than friends :]
Anyways how can I lower my standards? friendwise now since I already have a girlfriend haha. I really really can't make new friends easily. Most of the new people I meet there is something I disapprove of and I don't want to associate with them at all. It's really not fair to them, but I don't know. There is something wrong with me I guess.
I make few friends, but I keep them for a long time. I've never lost a friend yet :/ Maybe that's a positive of selective friend choosing? Who knows.
Help, comments, questions are appreciated!
I Have Too High Standards In Friends And S/o its annoying.
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Posted 05 January 2009 - 09:31 PM
Blog this - not much I can say
Only yourself can create change
I can say lower your standards, but I'm sure you already know that
How? - well, stop being picky I guess
Only yourself can create change
I can say lower your standards, but I'm sure you already know that
How? - well, stop being picky I guess
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Posted 05 January 2009 - 09:38 PM
you're fine. you're normal. i mean, i think i have some pretty high standards too -- my friends tell me all the time that the whole "standards" thing is the reason i don't have more friends. i think i have a good amount of friends right now, and i'm not exactly a loner either, so why compromise my standards? it's the reason that the friends i have are pretty GOOD friends.
so yeah. i think you're fine. haha. i mean, i think i hate more people than i like -- i don't think you can be worse than me.
so yeah. i think you're fine. haha. i mean, i think i hate more people than i like -- i don't think you can be worse than me.
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Posted 05 January 2009 - 09:46 PM
QUOTE (Yashi @ Jan 6 2009, 12:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
you're fine. you're normal. i mean, i think i have some pretty high standards too -- my friends tell me all the time that the whole "standards" thing is the reason i don't have more friends. i think i have a good amount of friends right now, and i'm not exactly a loner either, so why compromise my standards? it's the reason that the friends i have are pretty GOOD friends.
so yeah. i think you're fine. haha. i mean, i think i hate more people than i like -- i don't think you can be worse than me.
so yeah. i think you're fine. haha. i mean, i think i hate more people than i like -- i don't think you can be worse than me.
Lol good to know I'm not the only one.
I'm pretty boring with new people because I don't really talk to them.
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Posted 05 January 2009 - 09:59 PM
You think your standards are high? lulz, you'd have to emit a strong aura before I even speak to you.
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Posted 05 January 2009 - 10:25 PM
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I've barely crushed on people either, she's like my 3rd crush?
Me too.
I find most girls ugly, to be honest.
Maybe because I wear glasses so it's blinding me.Even In soompi I've only recalled seeing 2 or 3 girls that really catched my attention.
I bet girls are gonna complain how I'm ugly instead of how I have a high standard.
as to your problem, I do not share the same situation. I don't care who I am friends with. I'm even friends with geeks at school. They're cool once you know them you know
Not to mention they're good at teaching you.
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Posted 05 January 2009 - 10:31 PM
QUOTE (한스 ㅋㅋ @ Jan 6 2009, 01:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Me too.
I find most girls ugly, to be honest. Maybe because I wear glasses so it's blinding me.
Even In soompi I've only recalled seeing 2 or 3 girls that really catched my attention.
I bet girls are gonna complain how I'm ugly instead of how I have a high standard.
as to your problem, I do not share the same situation. I don't care who I am friends with. I'm even friends with geeks at school. They're cool once you know them you know
Not to mention they're good at teaching you.
I find most girls ugly, to be honest.
Maybe because I wear glasses so it's blinding me.Even In soompi I've only recalled seeing 2 or 3 girls that really catched my attention.
I bet girls are gonna complain how I'm ugly instead of how I have a high standard.
as to your problem, I do not share the same situation. I don't care who I am friends with. I'm even friends with geeks at school. They're cool once you know them you know
Not to mention they're good at teaching you.
same with girls
i think most are ugly or annoying lol
with people, some just annoy me or just make me facepalm myself
like i think to myself "wow what a loser..." "hes so stupid" "annoying ass kid" "ugly" etc.
its kinda bad haha :[
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Posted 05 January 2009 - 10:38 PM
the only reason why people reject things is because they don't understand it, and then fear it.
just try to understand people. look for the good in them.
x_X' i could spark up a lively gangster talk with some boys down at the station because i know they were raised in the ghetto. [if i had to >>]
and i know it's not exactly their fault [or is it a bad thing] that they ended up as disliked by the majority of society. doing things like kicking vending machines in [or trying to LOL]
i even envy them. that would be part reason to befriend them.
o-O lol. i don't wanna brag. but i know a special ed kid is pretty much a normal kid. just a little autistic and [unknown to most people] had a wooden leg underneath his school pants.
we'd talk about new hip hop/rnb music. Lol. X_X but . that's enough from me.
just try to understand people. look for the good in them.
x_X' i could spark up a lively gangster talk with some boys down at the station because i know they were raised in the ghetto. [if i had to >>]
and i know it's not exactly their fault [or is it a bad thing] that they ended up as disliked by the majority of society. doing things like kicking vending machines in [or trying to LOL]
i even envy them. that would be part reason to befriend them.
o-O lol. i don't wanna brag. but i know a special ed kid is pretty much a normal kid. just a little autistic and [unknown to most people] had a wooden leg underneath his school pants.
we'd talk about new hip hop/rnb music. Lol. X_X but . that's enough from me.
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Posted 06 January 2009 - 12:24 AM
Get to know them as friends and then you will realize that you have modified your standards because you realize that they are a great person.
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Posted 06 January 2009 - 01:12 AM
Psh. I have high standards.
I only have 5 friends (or maybe less..) that I will talk to because I -want- to talk to them.
Everyone else who I know, and don't want to be friends with... I will NOT be friends with, nor will I speak to them whatsoever.
I only have 5 friends (or maybe less..) that I will talk to because I -want- to talk to them.
Everyone else who I know, and don't want to be friends with... I will NOT be friends with, nor will I speak to them whatsoever.
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Posted 06 January 2009 - 07:51 AM
QUOTE (eximius @ Jan 6 2009, 04:12 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Psh. I have high standards.
I only have 5 friends (or maybe less..) that I will talk to because I -want- to talk to them.
Everyone else who I know, and don't want to be friends with... I will NOT be friends with, nor will I speak to them whatsoever.
I only have 5 friends (or maybe less..) that I will talk to because I -want- to talk to them.
Everyone else who I know, and don't want to be friends with... I will NOT be friends with, nor will I speak to them whatsoever.
I have 3 whom I consider real friends. Everyone else are just acquaintances.
I don't think anyone can beat 3.
Come now, I'm sure people can enter the top 3 list:
1 friend only - han.yung
2 friends only - happiisunshin
3 friends only - Shikabane Hime
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Posted 06 January 2009 - 08:11 AM
i don't think you have a major problem either except for when you write things like this ....
instead of focusing on the idiocy of others, focus on practicing some tolerance & be a better person for yourself.
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same with girls
i think most are ugly or annoying lol
with people, some just annoy me or just make me facepalm myself
like i think to myself "wow what a loser..." "hes so stupid" "annoying ass kid" "ugly" etc.
its kinda bad haha :[
i think most are ugly or annoying lol
with people, some just annoy me or just make me facepalm myself
like i think to myself "wow what a loser..." "hes so stupid" "annoying ass kid" "ugly" etc.
its kinda bad haha :[
instead of focusing on the idiocy of others, focus on practicing some tolerance & be a better person for yourself.
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Posted 06 January 2009 - 08:15 AM
Because you're a teenager (I hope) and part of the insecurity that comes along with that is a false sense of self-importance (i.e. thinking that most others aren't good enough for you).
Most of us go through it in our formative years. And then you have a boss or loved one treat you like garbage, you realize that you suck just as much as anyone else, and you become a more enjoyable person to be around.
Most of us go through it in our formative years. And then you have a boss or loved one treat you like garbage, you realize that you suck just as much as anyone else, and you become a more enjoyable person to be around.
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Posted 06 January 2009 - 08:19 AM
Assuming u'r in high school, a lot of people like u also have this problem (Social skills aren't yet developed or are too conservative) ><
Find out wat it is that u don't want in a person and find out how u can overcome it. I'd say just try to start conversations and go out and meet people. Joke around a bit (but make sure they're funny... it's not a joke if u'r just laughing to urself) and get to know them better instead of waiting for them to open up to you. Good luck :3
Find out wat it is that u don't want in a person and find out how u can overcome it. I'd say just try to start conversations and go out and meet people. Joke around a bit (but make sure they're funny... it's not a joke if u'r just laughing to urself) and get to know them better instead of waiting for them to open up to you. Good luck :3
Looking back, I wanna laugh at all those tears.
But looking back... I wanna cry at all those laughs...
Sometimes, you've just gotta let go and hope it comes back to you.
And sometimes, you're just gonna cry and regret why you've let go in the first place.
But looking back... I wanna cry at all those laughs...
Sometimes, you've just gotta let go and hope it comes back to you.
And sometimes, you're just gonna cry and regret why you've let go in the first place.
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Posted 06 January 2009 - 08:37 AM
i used to think that too - that i have high standards - but recently i found out that that's not what's been bothering me. its that out of the many people i meet, i seem to 'click' with a few of them not because of their appearance (dress, facial/body features), but....the fact that we just click LOL. thts why when i'm in a group i tend to stick to just one or two people to really chat with, and make extremely small talk with the others. that gives off the vibe that i'm 'shy' (although the introvert part is half true)
dunno how else to explain it.
dunno how else to explain it.
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Posted 06 January 2009 - 09:47 AM
I'm a beast, and I know it, so I'm sorry that I brag
But I stagger with abnormally extraordinary swag
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Posted 06 January 2009 - 11:15 AM
QUOTE (Lie @ Jan 6 2009, 08:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Because you're a teenager (I hope) and part of the insecurity that comes along with that is a false sense of self-importance (i.e. thinking that most others aren't good enough for you).
Most of us go through it in our formative years. And then you have a boss or loved one treat you like garbage, you realize that you suck just as much as anyone else, and you become a more enjoyable person to be around.
Most of us go through it in our formative years. And then you have a boss or loved one treat you like garbage, you realize that you suck just as much as anyone else, and you become a more enjoyable person to be around.
I agree. This also implies to anyone not just teenagers.
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Posted 06 January 2009 - 11:32 AM
you're just rationalizing thinking that you have high standards when you're actually just shy. You're a girly guy what are you gonna do about it? Be shy for the rest of your life and just work your monday to friday job really hard because you're actually boring? Yeah you do that or just stop being an idiot to yourself and start talking to people.
